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RE: Distant melancholy-sweet memories - 12/17/2006 4:33:58 AM   
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...Prince, on the other hand was always someone from the 1980's
I thought was a great musician and a terrible lyricist. "When Doves Cry" - remember that one? The lyrics were so stupid they just made me want to scream. Not an ounce of poetry to be found - anywhere. But he can really write music...


this slave will disagree with you about Prince being a terrible lyricist.  Remember "Every Day is a Winding Road", sung by Sheryl Crow?  She is but one of many artists who relied on his skills as a lyricist and songwriter to hit the charts.  Here's an excerpt of a melancholy-sweet song he did that never made it to the radio play list:
 
"Doubts of our conviction
Follow where we go
And when the world's compassion
Ceases still I know
4 your every touch I
Thank U so much
4 your every kiss I...

I wish U love
I wish U heaven
I wish U heaven"

 
this slave has been uplifted many times by his music...though usually more by the songs that didn't make it to the airwaves through radio.

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RE: Distant melancholy-sweet memories - 12/17/2006 4:58:11 AM   
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You seem to be saying you miss the experience and not the man. Well I can go along with that, I have similar feelings from time to time about someone, when some emotion or someother source such a song reminds me of a particular way she once made me feel. Then I remember what a louse and a low life she was and I'm immediately cured. Though I do have many fond memories of ex-lovers where things ended amicably and when memories of them well up I nurse them somewhat and think of what might have been. So much so I actually phoned one to see if she was available for dinner over the Christmas holidays and she is!

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RE: Distant melancholy-sweet memories - 12/17/2006 7:43:20 AM   
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Mr. and mrs. Merc (do you like it when people call you that now?) -Those are pretty good lyrics. I have not ben privvy to Prince's less commercially mass-marketed works. Maybe I did misjudge him, after all.

meatcleaver: Yes, I do miss the experience (I'd never in my entire life had it before then, actually). But in some ways, I miss the man, although a few moments of sober reflection makes me realize how un-productive that really is (usually). There will be no me calling him up Christmas eve to find out "what he's doing", etc. But am glad it worked for you. 

- Susan 

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RE: Distant melancholy-sweet memories - 12/17/2006 7:59:55 AM   
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     Distant melancholy-sweet memories. This year has been especially hard, I keep looking back at childhood happy holidays & wishing it could be that way again.
    I miss my ex holding me on those occasions he didn't object to it. I miss decorating the house in anticipation of my 'orphan/friends open house'. Ohboy I miss cooking both a ham & a turkey with all the trimmings!
    This is my first Christmas where I am utterly alone and it is painful, so I am trying to imagine next year. Next year once again I will host an open house, put up the decorations and feel good about it all. I am trying to convince myself that being totally alone removes the frenzy and expense that a normal Christmas brings. *not so sure that it's working tho*

    I've not any lyrics to add, well I have a lot of lyrics but none that I want to add lol.

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RE: Distant melancholy-sweet memories - 12/17/2006 8:04:40 AM   
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cjenny: I hope you find some peace this holiday season. I know it sounds terribly hard. It's great you usually have the "orphan's" Christmas at your place - even if you can't do it this year. I think it's very nice.

Here are some lyrics for you: "Have yourself a merry little Christmas...let your heart be light. Next year all your troubles will be out of sight...." 

Blessings,

-Susan

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RE: Distant melancholy-sweet memories - 12/17/2006 11:40:12 AM   
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  That was nice of you Susan,
thanks.

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RE: Distant melancholy-sweet memories - 12/17/2006 12:13:32 PM   
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Christmas is a chore I am doing for my unmentionables.  Perhaps next year there will be joy.

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RE: Distant melancholy-sweet memories - 12/17/2006 12:35:44 PM   
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I miss my mother. I miss my husband. I miss my ex-Dominant. The holidays can suck. But, things will improve (I need some sleep).
Memories are hard and also sweet, sometimes.


i know how you feel.  I have had alot of wonderful people in my life, i've had alot of not so wonderful people in my life - and i miss them all. 

I have a man, that i shouldnt talk to.  That did me no good and all the harm in the world came from the relatioship.  Yet i miss him sometimes.  I do.  I miss that unique understanding that we had.  I missed the acceptance that he had of me.  I missing being able to conquer the world with him.  There was nothing that we couldnt or wouldnt do together.  We got into some crazy chit.  Nobody could roll like him and i could roll together.  I learned alot from him too - he expanded my mind to the ways of the world i never knew exsisted. 

Other people... all of them.. even those that are so long gone that memory starts to fail with me.  I have this box.  Its a big old box.  Its where i put little things from here and there in.   Letters from people long gone, post cards, pictures.  Parts of a life i will never see again.  I take little things from this life, and i put them in my box.  Little things, that will help me walk down memory lane - some day in the future when i am down and blue missing everyone that is long gone.  I actually started it when i was a little girl and now it contains my life.  Everyone thats touched me in some way, every life i've lived and every place i've been - has all been saved in my box. 

It brings me a sad warmth when i need to go open it up.  The love of all those that i will never see again - sitting there staring me in the face. 

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RE: Distant melancholy-sweet memories - 12/17/2006 7:58:41 PM   
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Thank you Susan for your sweet words of support.
 
Although yes this Holiday season is quite a downfall and lonely from the past 2 years that were filled with many wonderful people and exciting happenings, I have this year found out just how much I appreciate my close friends, my son and my mother (who was just diagnoised with lung cancer) being here and a part of my life.
So although it is very different and sad in some ways as I reminisce, I am holding on to the possitive and the gifts that I have in my life today. And I know that there will be very up time Holiday seasons in the future that may again envolve a Domina/love and possibly grandchildren.
 
Happy Holidays everyone! And may you all find something special and magical this season, whether you're alone, with a few others or one among many.
 
Missy.





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RE: Distant melancholy-sweet memories - 12/17/2006 8:02:10 PM   
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brightspot: I wish you a happy Christmas (even if it will be a bit different this yeear). My mother had lung cnacer, so I know what that can be like. I'll say some prayers for her. Glad you seem to be adjusting.

- Susan

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RE: Distant melancholy-sweet memories - 12/17/2006 8:22:24 PM   
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Just a quick note to say I'm thinking good thoughts for you, Susan.

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RE: Distant melancholy-sweet memories - 12/17/2006 8:37:01 PM   
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Thanks for the kind support. Happy holidays.

- Susan

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RE: Distant melancholy-sweet memories - 12/17/2006 9:07:16 PM   
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ORIGINAL: SusanofO

We recently parted ways on not very amicable terms. And despite that, I can't seem to help myself. I miss that feeling. And sometimes, I miss him (although I won't go back there, ever, ever). Is this unusual?



Susan, as you've probably already seen, you are not alone. I not so recently parted ways, again on not very amicable terms (to put it mildly) with a Domme I had an emotionally intense relationship with. Even now, there are times that I still miss her and the moments together where I would be overwhelmed with tender emotions towards her. I too wouldn't go back there, as I know what tore us apart would still be there, ready to rear its ugly head again. Yet that does not stop the fond memories, nor should it. So you're reaction is not unusual.

So my advice, based on experience, is to remember the good times fondly while also remembering why it was they could not last. With time the hurt will fade, and you will be able to cherish those memories in peace and with only a hint of sadness.

Robert

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RE: Distant melancholy-sweet memories - 12/17/2006 10:02:21 PM   
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I am remembering how I literally used to shiver and shake whenever my ex (and only) Dominant held me close. It was like a reaction to being cold and also having an orgasm, in many ways. He didn't even need to do anything in particular, really  - just hold me or hug me, or sometimes just stand next to me to have me react this way. 

We recently parted ways on not very amicable terms. And despite that, I can't seem to help myself. I miss that feeling. And sometimes, I miss him (although I won't go back there, ever, ever). Is this unusual?

I am reminded when I think of him, of the lyrics of that song "Back on the Train" by Chryssie Hynde (of the music group "The Pretenders"). She is one of my favorites -
"Like a  break in the battle, was your part.
In the wretched life of a lonely heart".

"Now it's back on the train. Back on the chain gang."

I just miss that closeness, is all, I suppose. It was like a warm blanket and unique to him, though. This year, I am not liking the holidays as much as usual.
I can deal, though. Forgive my whining and crying, please.

- Susan



Susan

First and foremost a big hug. There is nothing to forgive, after all this is a community, a family, and where else but here can you go to find those that understand? That is what it is all about...comfort, support, advice and understanding.

I'm not sure if this will help but when I lost my sub years ago someone shared this at his service and it has helped in all the ensuing years.

Everyone we encounter in life crosses our path for a reason. Whether the outcome is joyful or painful we can't know in the beginning. We can simply enjoy it for the length of the road it takes us along. Some travel along with us for many miles, others for a short while. Sometimes those paths cross and meander. They climb over hills, dip into valleys and fold back upon themselves. They combine together and form a wider path to be traveled together. Others separate and go off to their own directions; unplanned and unexpectedly. It is all part of the journey of life. From every one that crosses our path there is a lesson to be learned from them; about ourselves and about others. Enjoy the journey but always remember the lesson.

I know everyone has been quoting song lyrics but I'm reminded more of my favorite poem.






The Road Not Taken
Robert Frost


Two roads diverged in a yellow wood
and sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveller, long I stood
and looked down one as far as I could
to where it bent in the undergrowth;

Then took the other, as just as fair,
and having perhaps the better claim
because it was grassy and wanted wear;
though as for that, the passing there
had worn them really about the same,

And both that morning equally lay
in leaves no feet had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.

I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I --
I took the one less travelled by,
and that has made all the difference











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RE: Distant melancholy-sweet memories - 12/18/2006 12:04:30 AM   
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That's a great song, too. Gosh this has gotta be harder, I am thinking, if one is a Domly Dom kinda guy (can't let those emotions show, etc.)


That's supposed to be the paperback concept, but I feel real life flesh and blood, heart and soul like the human being I strive to be.

Don't believe everything you've heard about doms. A famous BDSM artist, Bishop, committed suicide when his model wife and slave deserted him.

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RE: Distant melancholy-sweet memories - 12/18/2006 12:23:14 AM   
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Thanks for the support from all of you. It helped.

Petruchio: I know Doms are human, too. I do.
- Susan 

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