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TexasMaam -> RE: Is there hope after 70? (12/17/2006 10:57:32 AM)
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skareamoos,
Your partner's menopausal status may or may not have had anything to do with her withdrawal from BDSM activities. She may be conveniently using that as an excuse not to bother with some fetish of yours that she does not share.
The key to rekindling that spark lies in communication. Open your communication and establish with her some common activity that would meet your basest BDSM cravings and begin there. It doesn't have to be chains, whips, bondage and taking a strap on to meet the psychological and emotional cravings you have to submit.
My guess is that at some point, some activity YOU preferred was a turn off for her, and that's where communication broke down completely, to the point she doesn't want to broach the topic anymore. But that's only a guess.
What was your LAST BDSM related activity together when she got resistant to the idea altogether? That would be a good place to start. Go back, remember, drag it out and talk about it.
With regard to your other inquiry as to age related service, I would say NO, your age does not preclude you from serving a non pro Domina. It also does not preclude you from serving a Pro Domme, either. This vein of questioning sounds like a 'bait post' to Me but I'll accept it as written and try to give a fair response.
I would gladly accept a 70 year old submissive into service. I understand the needs and cravings of a submissive doesn't diminish with time. Any great Domina would know and understand that, too.
Now, if you're looking for an immature Domme who's about 19-20 yoa and you're pining away after the fantasy of 'serving' a young Lass with bright, unblemished complexion and tight firm busts, chances are you're obcessing over something you may never enjoy in your life again.
Best advice would be to get realistic in your expectations, understand that a woman 20 or 30 years your junior is just approaching her most rewarding sexual peak and has a world of excitement to offer to a sincere submissive.
I daresay if you approach a mature, middle aged Domme, who may or may not be past menopause, (because I went through menopause in my early 40's and I'm still happily obcessed with sex and BDSM activities post menopause), I'm certain you'll find someone to serve with whom you might be completely compatible.
Menopause acting like a squelch on all sexual and/or non sexual BDSM related activities is a myth in our society.
Menopause is not a dried up, withered state of the human condition.
Menopause is merely a milestone.
Educate yourself a bit more about menopause, about the possibilities that exist post menopause, open communication and ask for what you need.
You'll be surprised to learn that age does not equal abstinence and unfulfillment, BDSM related or otherwise.
Best of luck to you,
TexasMaam
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