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Carrots, Eggs and Coffee Beans - 12/17/2006 10:03:26 AM   
LotusSong


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I read so many posts here from both sides that lament failed relationships and wonder how they will go on.  I didn't think this belongs in "random stupidity" as the impact would be lessened.  Sometimes we need to look at life from a different perspective.  Please, read the following.. then ask yourself..which are you?

A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose.

Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil. In the first placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil, without saying a word.

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl.

Turning to her daughter, she asked, "Tell me what you see." Carrots, eggs, and coffee," she replied.

Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. The mother then asked the daughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard boiled egg.

Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. The daughter then asked, "What does it mean?"

Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity..boiling water. Each reacted differently.

The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak.

The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened.

The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.

Which are you?" she asked her daughter. "When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?"

Think of this: Which am I?

Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?

Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a break-up, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?

Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you.

When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest, do you elevate yourself to another level? How do you handle adversity?

Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human and enough hope to make you happy.

The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way. The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past; you can't go forward in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.

When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling. Live your life so at the end, you're the one who is smiling and everyone around you is crying.


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RE: Carrots, Eggs and Coffee Beans - 12/17/2006 10:11:03 AM   
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I like that, it's something to think on....thank you :)

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RE: Carrots, Eggs and Coffee Beans - 12/17/2006 11:53:35 AM   
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Nice.  Great for people going through adversity.  Adversity is tough and i dont think its always how you do in it - but how you come out the other side.  I have gone through adversity and literally fallen.  I have gone throught it and balled my eyess out.  I have gone through it and been barely effected by it.  I've sat in what i call a "no hope" zone and just.... sat.  Through all the adveristy i've gone though in my life and all the many ways i've coped through it - to me what is the most important thing is not how i coped with it, but how i came out the other side.  I triumphed.  I may have bended, i may have broke - but i always gathered up the strength to take the next step to go forward.   Sometimes it took awhile, sometimes it took to soon - but i think if you have the will power to go on, that is all that really matters.  I think one of the hardest lessons i've ever had to learn was not to go on, not to have strength - but to deal with the adveristy while its there.  I still to this day - deal with things i just "sucked up and pushed forward" from when i was younger.  Some things you can not just push through.  I've learned that sometimes the strongest thing to do - is be weak.  Sometimes the weakest thing to do, is be strong.  I have been told by countless people in the medical field that i am strong, tough, that i beat the odds - and yet i look back and i see that my strength was really my weakness. 

I think it doesnt matter how you cope, so long as you cope and you get through.  Its okay to be knocked down, so long as you get back up to fight another day.  Never let anything win the war. 

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RE: Carrots, Eggs and Coffee Beans - 12/17/2006 12:07:14 PM   
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Well said :)

It's not so much what happens to us.. but what we DO with what happens to us.

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RE: Carrots, Eggs and Coffee Beans - 12/17/2006 1:17:17 PM   
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absolutely lovely, i have had some troubles as of late; i should endeavor to be less the egg and more the coffee bean so that Ma'am would crave me before anything else first thing in the morning

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