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BDSM Sex/majick - 2/19/2005 5:01:46 PM

DomButNotForgotn

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Hi, y'all! I'm looking for suggestions about ritual in BDSM. I have my own established ones (Black robes, candles, ritualistic acts and text, positions for the sub/slave/offering to be in, etc.), but I'm wondering what you may suggest for a Master/slave situation. I now the San Francisco BDSM crowd have long time established rituals for small groups, and maybe some of them could be adapted to a D/s couple. Any suggestions are welcome! Thanks.

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RE: BDSM Sex/majick - 2/19/2005 5:28:29 PM

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Hi, y'all! I'm looking for suggestions about ritual in BDSM. I have my own established ones (Black robes, candles, ritualistic acts and text, positions for the sub/slave/offering to be in, etc.), but I'm wondering what you may suggest for a Master/slave situation. I now the San Francisco BDSM crowd have long time established rituals for small groups, and maybe some of them could be adapted to a D/s couple. Any suggestions are welcome! Thanks.

I know that friends of mine in a 24/7 relationship (yes, kids, it does happen..between jobs and babies and poopie diapers, people actually live as Master and Submissive...) have a boot black ritual. She gets his boots out once a week and she cleans and polishes them while they hang out and talk. This may sound mundane, but when you have a toddler and a newborn, it's hard to keep the dynamic going between the feedings and the changings, etc. They do this to keep the D/s balance in their lives and remember where they came from before the kids came along.

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RE: BDSM Sex/majick - 2/19/2005 6:59:17 PM

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luckily, I'm past the parenting stage, but thanks very much for the info! I can imagine that an "innocent" pastime like boot discipline could keep a nice D/s spark alive. Thanks.

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RE: BDSM Sex/majick - 2/19/2005 7:26:22 PM

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Rituals are unique in there own way. I try to use them but end up finding my self comming of with new ideas all the time while in the scene and end up doing things differently.

It's like when I make pasta. I follow the reciepe but as I'm cooking I'll sample it and end up adding more spice, peppers, and such. So it ends up being better that what the recipe but is never the same as the last time I cooked pasta because I didn't write down or make changes on the recipe.

Instead of sticking to a step by step 1 2 3 always keep creativity in mind and what you could do in between each step. It keeps my pet on her toes and always supprised.

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RE: BDSM Sex/majick - 2/20/2005 4:33:57 AM

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I had a Master a bit ago that was also in2 this. He n 2 of his associates at times would have me in a ritual, taken place in a dungeon/ritual made up room in his house. I was told to arrive wearing my sexiest n shortest miniskirt with my blak patend leathr thighhigh boots/stockings, a sexy lo-cut lacey top, lace gloves n panties....n lookin like a young naughty submissive schoolgirl hooker type. I can tell you more or all of what they did if you want, I just want 2 get this 2 you soon... They wore the blak satin hooded robes, and at one point , wore realistic type gargoyle masks when they were doing certain things 2 me... Theres much more, but cant stay awake anymore tonite. They did do erotic hypnosis, sex magic n controll n b/d 2 me... n more. Hope 2 talk soon . take care.. Nikki Adams

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RE: BDSM Sex/majick - 2/20/2005 4:54:36 AM

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Rules, and Rituals are a great part of D/s. But a word of caution, to many can have an adverse reaction. whatever rule or ritual You design, You have to INFORCE, which can be a lot of work. Non inforcement (for me and a few i have spoken to) after a while is like telling the sub you don't care, is hurtful, and can end up being major problems later on.
i would also suggest that you ask her what she enjoys. without knowing there was a name for it ~ i found out that i am a "body slave" and when ever we are together i massage his body, down to his hands & feet. Without a spoken word, it is a ritual.

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RE: BDSM Sex/majick - 2/21/2005 12:15:00 AM

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Any ritual that reminds the couple that it is a BDSM relationship would work and could be fitted into a busy life. Pick something that suits the personalities and needs involved.

With Mine I always sit on the bed and watch him shower and dry off. It creates tension in his body and mind because he is never sure if or what I will do after the shower (or during). he goes to bed before I do and I always cuddle him and leave him aroused before he falls asleep (he falls asleep faster this way too).

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