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pixelslave -> RE: Misreading? (12/19/2006 9:31:29 AM)
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ORIGINAL: Missokyst
Having been a mother with an annoying ex, I can say yes, he often did things to sabotage my life. I was blessed with having a man in my life who understood my ex was a bastard and knew that things might come up. No wonder I loved that one for so long!
If you are intolerant of life interfering with your kink then yes, you did right by pulling the plug. You will both be better off for it.
:) maybe she can find a man like the one I had in my life as my kids were growing. And you can find one without any attachments.
Kyst
Missokyst,
I'd only like to add that as a father of 2 daughters whose mother is a former Mistress of mine that still likes to try and control my life (in more ways than one), mostly just to be annoying and vindictive, I can certainly relate to what you describe. So lets just say that it goes both ways. [:-]
I've approached Dommes who had no interest in being with male subs who had children who were an important part of their lives. I also briefly began a relationship with a Domme who wouldn't respect my obligations as a father and expected that I would put her first; which to me, seemed quite an unusual expectation from an adult woman who was also a mother herself.(shrug) Needless to say, I chose my girls over her, and the Domme is no longer a part of my life. On an important day for me and my girls, I was forced to choose to meet the demands of the Domme or take care of the needs of my girls. I think it was clear ahead of time who was going to win and who would clearly lose as I was and still am a father first. I was dismissed the very same day I was forced to make my choice. At the time it really hurt a great deal to me. [&o] Fortunately for me, the relationship was new and I wasn't in too deep.
Looking back at it now, I can say she did me a favor despite how hard it was at that point in time. I really needed her support on that particular day instead of her anger and dismissal for taking care of the needs of my children (not to mention my own needs as well) as I was in jeapardy of losing my rights as the girls' father to see them on the same basis as I had negotiated earlier with their mother to which she had since changed her mind and I was being given a very hard time about it on that particular day, having to defend why I should even be allowed to see them hardly at all as their mother had convinced a court psychologist I wasn't fit to take care of them at all. [:-] Its been an uphill battle ever since to continue to keep the rights I have. I still don't know what the final outcome will be and my daughters are anxious all the time about how things will finally be.
So I've really had to scramble and work very hard to counter the bias that has been built and to prove I'm fit to care for my girls when they're with me and overcome the weight of influence a Domme in her particular position can throw around to impact the life of a sub who has chosen to walk away from her life. Sadly, the ones who have suffered the most, have been the girls at the center of it all as its the only way their mother has been able to get to me at all. [&o]
- pixel
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