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pixelslave -> RE: when a relationship ends and you want a new one to begin. . . (12/21/2006 9:23:09 PM)
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ORIGINAL: backinthesaddle
should training just be involved? playing/scenes? dating? any takers.?
That's something you're going to need to think about and decide for yourself. To me, the question you seem to obviously need to ask yourself first off is whether or not you're over your previous Domme? If the answer is no, then you need to be honest about this with the new woman you are starting things with now! Why? Because you're not yet fully emotionally available to her yet! If this is the case, its my opinion that at the very least, you need to limit your contact with the new one to vanilla dating only until you feel you have let go of your attachment to the previous Domme!
That having been said, what does giving your submission to a woman mean to you and how does it affect you? This is something you really need to know before you decide whether to be trained or to have any kind of non-sexual scenes. I can say that for me, when I begin to submit, and I mean really submit to a woman, letting her have control, I lose control of my ability to differentiate between my submission and other emotions. Bottom line, the more I submit, the deeper I fall for a woman. So if you haven't let go of your feelings for your previous Domme, the last thing it would seem to me that you'd want to do, is to allow yourself to submit to another woman if you're at all wired like me! [8|]
This is why I believe you are being wise not to have sex with this new woman until you know her better. At the same time, its my opinion that the same probably applies to your submission as well. Until things are right within your heart and the feelings from the past are at rest, just enjoy getting to know her better as a woman and a person. When that happens, you will know that you are ready and are free to move forward. [:)]
- pixel
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