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RE: True Love, sole mate, sole partner, Life Partner...... - 12/24/2006 7:17:42 AM

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I believe that once you do find that person.....yes!

I can say without hesitation that Thorns is the Man that i was supposed to find and be with for the rest of my life.
When growing up, my beloved Grandfather used to tell me: One day smiley, you will KNOW without hesitation who the person is that you will spend the rest of your life with. I thought i knew what he was talking about..........i had no clue until Thorns walked into my life. WOW!

Happy Sunday y'all!

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RE: True Love, sole mate, sole partner, Life Partner...... - 12/24/2006 7:38:14 AM

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I believe in it, and hope to one day find it.

Ditto.

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RE: True Love, sole mate, sole partner, Life Partner...... - 12/24/2006 7:52:58 AM

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How does everyone feel about being with the same person for a life time? Do you believe in it or not?

I'm positive I have the "one", but I am not limiting myself to one, my goal is to have the "ones" for a lifetime.

Good point, Scooter. I believe we can love more than one, faithfully and with all our heart.

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RE: True Love, sole mate, sole partner, Life Partner...... - 12/24/2006 7:54:04 AM

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I have tended to believe that we are with people for certain amounts of time based upon our needs and wants and stages of life etc. I find it strangely disconcerting to be almost 40 with no significant relationship anywhere on the horizon. Smiles, maybe my time has yet to come.

warm wishes to all over the festive season, especially for those for whom this time can be more of a struggle than a celebration.

Hang in there lovely lady, and know that you are not alone.

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RE: True Love, sole mate, sole partner, Life Partner...... - 12/24/2006 9:27:18 AM

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"sole mate" lol,
and I thought he meant that seafood delicacy, fillet of sole....silly me.

But as we already see, most all the ladies dislike the idea of any impermanence, or switching partners much at all. To the point they "can't imagine" any other goal.

What about you OP, since you asked..is it your goal? Do you believe in it?

I have always wanted to believe in true love. Hell it sounds great, But I am not sure it is a life long thing. I also believe you can have more than one SOUL-mate (sorry about the seafood reference). Just a question. I just wanted to hear others thoughts....

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RE: True Love, sole mate, sole partner, Life Partner...... - 12/24/2006 9:29:22 AM

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I would like to say thank you to everyone who posted to this thread. I have enjoyed reading the replies.

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RE: True Love, sole mate, sole partner, Life Partner...... - 12/24/2006 10:07:10 AM

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I do believe there are people who are very deeply compatible, who just "fit" with eachother so well, so much so that they might end up staying together for life, with just eachother, or with one or the other of them seeing others as well.

But I've seen so many mis-matches, and divorces, I just think people should not be saddled with that myth as a societal expectation. I just don't believe that it's necessarily true that each person has one (and only one) "soulmate" for themselves.

It's one reason I don't care if other people are Polyamorous (and am exploring the possibility myself) - I understand that someone really can be attracted to several people, and truly love them all, and pretty deeply. Some people have a lot of love to give.

However, I will add a caveat that I think somepeople are just "wired" for Polyamory and some for Monogamy, maybe, or perhaps they change their opinion on it due to some life circumstances or experiences, and neither is "better" than the other, I don't think.

Not to put too fine a point on it, but - I've seen people who have found "the One" - about every other month or so, hehe. It's not something I am personally aspiring to do, but I think when that happens, we can pretty much put to rest the idea there is one (and only one) "soulmate" out there for each one of us - unless you'd want to pursue some convoluted theory about how the "One(s)" they are finding are just not the real, true "One" for them, but mere distractions on their life's path, etc.

I think there may be several people who will be extra compatible for someone, so much that one could have a very, very meaningful relationship happen with each. Maybe people have several "soulmate" possibilities, then. Not zillions, not even hundreds, probably, but certainly more than just one.

Just one possibility? On the whole planet? I don't really buy that idea. Sorry if that sounds unromantic. Or unconventional (from a female).

Also, just thinking about the concept, it seems logistically problematical. What if they are say, in China, and I am in the U.S? I could spend my entire life seeking my "One" and never find them. That would be a shame, wouldn't it?

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RE: True Love, sole mate, sole partner, Life Partner...... - 12/24/2006 2:27:43 PM

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How does everyone feel about being with the same person for a life time? Do you believe in it or not?

I believe in it wholeheartedly.

However, in my own situation, I did not reach a level of maturity that was able to deal with the concept of "forever" with one person until my late twenties. There was much that I wanted to experience first.

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RE: True Love, sole mate, sole partner, Life Partner...... - 12/24/2006 2:36:20 PM

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Maybe its cultural but I wouldn't advise anyone in Britain to get married before 30 because in Britain there's too much of a good time to be had that may be too tempting in your 30s if you haven't got it out of your system pre 30s.

Married at 30, divorced by 50. That seems perfect to me. Then carry on as you left off at 30. Despite the proclaimations by women on CM that they want permanence, while they may mean it when they say it, there are many women out there that want anything but permanence or at least that is my experience.

Different stages in our lives (and different experiences) MC so different views. I think you're more cynical than realistic. There are plenty of them out there, it's simply a case of sorting the wheat from the chaff.

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RE: True Love, sole mate, sole partner, Life Partner...... - 12/24/2006 2:59:28 PM

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How does everyone feel about being with the same person for a life time? Do you believe in it or not?

Absolutely, implicitly, totally. Its built into my psyche!

What sort of daft twat is a militant atheist, but believes wholly and unshakeably in true love and a soul mate?

My kinda twat!

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RE: True Love, sole mate, sole partner, Life Partner...... - 12/24/2006 3:00:48 PM

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is that like filet of sole mate? LOL

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RE: True Love, sole mate, sole partner, Life Partner...... - 12/24/2006 6:13:08 PM

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How does everyone feel about being with the same person for a life time? Do you believe in it or not?

While this isn't what you said/asked...I'm not with the "one person" I should be with for the rest of my life, I know who she is.

I can describe her.

If I was an artist I could paint her picture, and if I had that talent, you'd think she was as beautiful as I do. She's remarkable.

Rest assured, if I had just 5 minutes of your time, describing her in full and unabashed detail...you'd love her as much as I do.

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RE: True Love, sole mate, sole partner, Life Partner...... - 12/24/2006 6:42:08 PM

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How does everyone feel about being with the same person for a life time? Do you believe in it or not?

Finding the one is hard enough but keeping your relationship is even harder work. I hope that my Master and I NEVER stop working at our relationship because I want to grow old in his arms.

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RE: True Love, sole mate, sole partner, Life Partner...... - 12/24/2006 7:11:04 PM

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I believe in it, and hope to one day find it.

Same here

Edited to add: i think if you don't believe in it, you don't tend to look for it....and it's all an individual preference.

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