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Verbal stimulation - 12/23/2006 9:16:47 PM   
AlexAussieSub


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Status: offline 		How important to you are a Dom/me's verbal skills and tone of voice during a scene? What sort of style do you go for e.g. angry/enraged, verbally abusive, "cool, calm and collected", kind and sympathetic, sexually interested? Is there an analogy in the real world or in movies to the verbal style you like in a Dom/me?
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RE: Verbal stimulation - 12/23/2006 9:34:30 PM   
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Status: offline 		With my first dominant it was very important, in my present dynamic it is not as important.

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RE: Verbal stimulation - 12/23/2006 10:00:28 PM   
SwPuno


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Status: offline 		I generally always like a fairly verbal scene though the type of scene varies of course.  For a spanking or flogging it can be pretty quiet as the focus tends to be elsewhere.  For a teasing or humiliation scene more verbalizing helps.

As for tone, I don't like angry, yelling scenes.  That generally just makes me sad or flustered and feeling like I'm doing a poor job and often adds in a "if neither of us is being made happy by this why don't we just stop and do something we like?" type of feeling. 

I generally like a sensual, soothing, teasing domme or a happy domme, one that is happy and laughing at what you are willing to do and endure for her.  Somehow her happiness makes it easier to endure things plus I like the contrast of her happiness with my suffering or humiliation.  While I think spoiled, self-centered valley girl types would probably quickly drive me crazy in real life the idea of submitting to one or a group of them now and then very exciting.

I can certainly see the place and appropriateness of serious, intense scenes but I like most of mine a bit more fun for now (and find they can still be quite intense).





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RE: Verbal stimulation - 12/23/2006 10:02:42 PM   
MaryT


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ORIGINAL: AlexAussieSub

How important to you are a Dom/me's verbal skills and tone of voice during a scene?


I am truly a communication junkie.  I have no preference regarding tone, etc., so long it's genuine.  I can spot a fake a mile away (and gain better sight skills every day), but *real* floats my boat.  Anyone can act - children call it playing pretend.

MaryT

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RE: Verbal stimulation - 12/23/2006 10:11:37 PM   
DiurnalVampire


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Status: offline 		My tone tends to stay quiet and collected, but condescending. Right now, voice is key since we are mainly on the phone when we do scenes.  When we were together face to face, I was more soothing when I spoke to him more often than not. Stil condesceding wince humiliation is a huge part of our play for him. Without the talk, i dont think we would get half as much out of our playtime as we do.

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RE: Verbal stimulation - 12/23/2006 10:36:30 PM   
dawntreader


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Status: offline 		Interesting thread topic. The appropriate tone is what works for me although when He is disappointed and tells me i will be punished, the power in his tone of voice is highly erotic -

Aside from that, He has a great voice to begin with and it is one of the things that drew me to Him from the beginning ~

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RE: Verbal stimulation - 12/23/2006 11:08:01 PM   
SusanofO


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Status: offline 		I am really picky when it comes to someone's actual voice (which for me is kinda weird, because there are things I am not particularly choosy about). I wouldn't ever dump someone because they had what I considered a non-sexy voice if I just loved many other things about them , but  - I will say: A sexy, deep, smooth, calming tone of voice just sends me right over the edge.

It's not like I even really care what they are saying to me, if they have a sexy voice. They could probably recite the dictionary and I would be in heaven.

When I was in junior high school, I had a huge crush on the movie actor Vincent Price (of horror movie fame). And to be honest, although the persona he portrayed on screen was part of the draw for me, it was mostly due to his incredibly sexy voice and tone. That kind of voice just makes me almost insane, it's so compelling, I think (although if his would have been even deeper, it would have been even better, I think).

I've been told I have a sexy voice, too. I sing, and used to be a Contralto, but thanks to years of smoking (I've since quit), my voice is apparently deeper than some women's voice (I now sing mostly Alto parts).

A man's voice just "does things" to me (or not). Guess I am a "voice person"...

As far as "style" for commands, etc. - I like a calming, yet pretty insistent tone. I abhor yelling, or hard-nosed, abusive kinds of tones. It just doesn't do anything for me at all. If someone really is upset, of course, that's another thing.

- Susan

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RE: Verbal stimulation - 12/23/2006 11:44:20 PM   
ownedgirlie


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Status: offline 		I am very affected by words and tones, and different ways he talks to me elicit different responses.  However, this is not limited to "scenes."  He can flatten me with a disappointed tone, particularly if he is angry.  He can reduce me to a groveling heap in one fell verbal swoop.  He can launch me to the stars with other things he says.  I am more affected by things verbal than physical.  Mental/emotional/psychological stimulation gets me every time.

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RE: Verbal stimulation - 12/23/2006 11:50:49 PM   
darksdesire


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Status: offline 		I need words.  Lots of words.  The verbal part is likely more important to me than anything.  It keeps me connected to him, it keeps me present during a scene.  Without words, I will float away and go off into my own world.  

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RE: Verbal stimulation - 12/24/2006 3:11:44 AM   
Quivver


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Status: offline 		Voice for me is simply a communication device. A dear friend who've I've spent time serving over the years is deaf.  Although he can ~speak~ it's not necessary cause he communicates well without words.  ..............   but on the other hand, for someone who can speak tone, volume and how they form what it is they say is important. 

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RE: Verbal stimulation - 12/24/2006 3:11:48 AM   
andreaC


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Status: offline 		Verbal is very important to me....but then again if its calm/cool it can also be scary.  His tone excites me no matter which one he uses.

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RE: Verbal stimulation - 12/24/2006 3:47:15 AM   
julietsierra


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Status: offline 		Someone once told me that if a woman pays attention to the visual around a man, she can get whomever she wants, but if a man wants a woman, he has to know how to use his voice.

I wanted to argue that, but more and more, I find that in large part, he was correct.

What do I like?

oh, low-toned mock caring in a pseudo-concerned voice followed by understated but forceful commentary will do it for me every time. Throw in a pinch of an endearment (use sparingly) and  simple mmm hmmms when hits land well... and um...I'm cumming and he's got me for as long as he wants me.

"Oh, poor thing... I bet that hurt didn't it...Good! You might as well relax - we're no where near done."

juliet

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RE: Verbal stimulation - 12/24/2006 4:30:27 AM   
dawntreader


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ORIGINAL: julietsierra

oh, low-toned mock caring in a pseudo-concerned voice followed by understated but forceful commentary will do it for me every time. Throw in a pinch of an endearment (use sparingly) and  simple mmm hmmms when hits land well... and um...I'm cumming and he's got me for as long as he wants me.

"Oh, poor thing... I bet that hurt didn't it...Good! You might as well relax - we're no where near done."

juliet


Damn! if you did not "hit" this one right on :-)

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RE: Verbal stimulation - 12/24/2006 6:21:27 AM   
pixelslave


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Status: offline 		For me, I'm one of those where the largest sex organ in my body is truly my mind!  Stimulate my mind and everything else responds.  So if a Mistress doesn't talk to me, my buttons don't get fully pushed and the rest of me doesn't get stimulated to its maximum capacity (if at all), as the connection I need usually isn't there for me.  As to tone, I think it greatly depends on what we're doing at that particular moment.  I'm not generally into the condescending tone of voice, instead more the calm collected voice, except when she's excited and really turned on herself, which also pushes my buttons.  Its nice to know that what is happening between you and your Domme is pushing her buttons as well.  Some just can't restrain themselves regardless of how much they'd like to.   I also don't like the angry or abusive sounding tone of voice either.  So I guess you'd say I prefer she speak in her natural voice with serious emphasis as needed (a commanding tone?) or whatever is appropriate for the activity.  I'm more attracted to the "Loving Domme" as opposed to the particularly stern or sadistic type, not that I don't enjoy some of their typcial activities or a good mind fuck mind you!
 
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RE: Verbal stimulation - 12/24/2006 6:23:51 AM   
RedSavageSlave


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ORIGINAL: AlexAussieSub

How important to you are a Dom/me's verbal skills and tone of voice during a scene? What sort of style do you go for e.g. angry/enraged, verbally abusive, "cool, calm and collected", kind and sympathetic, sexually interested? Is there an analogy in the real world or in movies to the verbal style you like in a Dom/me?


Verbal cues help me stay connected whether I am in a play scene or just day to day life. I do not do well with someone who will not or cannot talk to me when He is with me.

As far as style I like to think I am pretty much go with the flow as long as nothing said is meant to diminish me as a person. I DO think whatever style is employed it should be appropriate for the situation.

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RE: Verbal stimulation - 12/24/2006 6:49:37 AM   
Furr


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Status: offline 		Because I expect obedience, My tone of voice (I hope) sounds confident and encouraging.  Although it can get soft and very warm when I am pleased.  softer and encouraging when I am displeased, although there can be a hardness there at times. 

Anyway, that's what I hope My voice conveys.

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RE: Verbal stimulation - 12/24/2006 9:43:05 AM   
SwPuno


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I need words. Lots of words. The verbal part is likely more important to me than anything. It keeps me connected to him, it keeps me present during a scene. Without words, I will float away and go off into my own world.
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ORIGINAL: darksdesire

Thinking about it more I have to agree with the above as well as what Sierra... said.  Without words I feel less connected and less "in" the scene, more like two people in the same room, with me just being her playtoy or thing to whack on.  The exception to this of course can be when blindfolded as then the silence affords you a chance to listen for what might be happening or on the way and a chance for your mind to wonder and hope for or dread the possibilities.... Mmmm.



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RE: Verbal stimulation - 12/24/2006 10:07:31 AM   
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ORIGINAL: AlexAussieSub

How important to you are a Dom/me's verbal skills and tone of voice during a scene? What sort of style do you go for e.g. angry/enraged, verbally abusive, "cool, calm and collected", kind and sympathetic, sexually interested? Is there an analogy in the real world or in movies to the verbal style you like in a Dom/me?


For me, vocal can be everything. I want to hear his voice, be it the dark tones of a violator calling me his whore or the gentle, praising tones of an owner encouraging his favorite kitten. His words and his tone stir me.

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RE: Verbal stimulation - 12/24/2006 12:40:32 PM   
Littlepita


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Status: offline 		I love when he is vocal. He isn't always and at times our play can be very quiet except for my gasp of pain. Other times he is sending me over the edge by whispering naughty things in my ear and calling me His good little slut.

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RE: Verbal stimulation - 12/24/2006 7:31:35 PM   
Donnalee


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Status: offline 		Words and tone are very important to me...it can send me into the most erotic place to hear a man with a confident, sure tone, or the opposite.  I once was attracted to a very manly-man, until he opened his mouth and let out his high pitched voice.  I don't know if it was just the contrast that threw me, but the thrill was gone for sure.
I love a man with a deep voice growling words in my ear...it moves me.  I can also feel the floor dropping out from under me when I hear disappointment in his voice.  It really is a deal breaker with me.

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