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Taken in Hand - 2/21/2005 11:26:23 AM

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TravisTJustice posted a link on the scene related links boards to a site called Taken in Hand. The links board gives no option to reply to the OP so I am posting here. I found the site to be very interesting and think that others here may find it of interest as well. I am including the link again here and would like to know others thoughts on the site.

http://www.takeninhand.com/

Thank you Travis for providing it.

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RE: Taken in Hand - 2/21/2005 12:54:58 PM

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Thanks erin, i put it in favorites to browse when i have time, looks interesting.

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RE: Taken in Hand - 2/21/2005 2:49:43 PM

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From the quick look I just took, it looks like a super site. I look forward to more reading on there.

Thanks bunches

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RE: Taken in Hand - 2/21/2005 3:03:05 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mistoferin

TravisTJustice posted a link on the scene related links boards to a site called Taken in Hand. The links board gives no option to reply to the OP so I am posting here. I found the site to be very interesting and think that others here may find it of interest as well. I am including the link again here and would like to know others thoughts on the site.

http://www.takeninhand.com/

Thank you Travis for providing it.

It is indeed a great site. I could ramble on here for ever about why it's so good, but the essays and articles there speak for themselves.

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RE: Taken in Hand - 2/22/2005 11:56:02 AM

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I recall seeing that site before and didn't bookmark it then; now I remember why.

My first reaction is that it looks interesting, and I read a few articles as well as some of the comments and started to get the the feeling that it was like a pep rally or something. Although there appear to be a number of different contributors, they seem cut from the same mold or like clones. Then I noticed comments like "everyone here is so smart" which also implied "just like ME!!!!" It reminds me of occasions where I've gotten around a crowd where everyone has the pastel colored sweater that they aren't wearing but instead have the arms tied around their necks and they are all trying to be like everyone else. It's too homogenized and bland for my tastes.

So anyway, I like the concept but seems to me something isn't right with the execution, perhaps with overzealous policing of what they allow on there. Although I can see why other folks might like that site, there is something about it that just gives me the creeps.

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RE: Taken in Hand - 2/22/2005 2:58:42 PM

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So anyway, I like the concept but seems to me something isn't right with the execution, perhaps with overzealous policing of what they allow on there. Although I can see why other folks might like that site, there is something about it that just gives me the creeps.

Hiya HappyPerv,

Your "Cravat Emperor" warnings are understood and appreciated. :-)

It's possible there's an element of "Stepford Wife" pervery about the site, but then I see that and variations of it all over the place in the scene. I don't really see it as any different to any other place that holds strong views about its own dynamic -- OTK, for example as a female supremacy perspective or any of the myriad of Gor-based expressions of D/s. In many cases a person or couple new to the scene might stumble into it through one of these three portals (using an overly simplistic example here) and never progress beyond it. Nothing wrong with this if it works to satisfy whatever needs people have, of course. I don't want to rave too much in support of TakenInHand lest I be seen as having some kind of a personal stake in it -- I don't. I also don't want to counter your warnings because I actually agree with you, to a point. I guess I made the assumption when I posted the link that everybody would be able to filter the overly sycophantic parts of the site as I do, not just there, but everywhere on the net.

Does that make sense? It's early in the morning here and the first coffee of the day hasn't yet kicked in. *heh*

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RE: Taken in Hand - 2/23/2005 11:55:55 AM

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Everything you said makes perfect sense, Travis. I will quibble a bit with the semantics, though, of referring to my "warnings" about that site; I'd prefer to call them my "impressions". So I'd encourage folks to go and look around and make up their own minds. They may see pages I didn't and end up thinking the site is great and that I must be crazy; wouldn't be the first time something like that has happened.

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RE: Taken in Hand - 2/23/2005 12:05:17 PM

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i just quickly browsed through the site....thanks for sharing the link with us : ) the site seems a bit different, i don't have the time right now to really read it and go through it as i'd like to but are these people into bdsm or what? why is it "taken in hand" is it a different spin on bdsm i don't know about? what's going on here! lol...

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RE: Taken in Hand - 2/23/2005 3:50:09 PM

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ORIGINAL: happypervert

I will quibble a bit with the semantics, though, of referring to my "warnings" about that site; I'd prefer to call them my "impressions".

I'll admit I was stuck on the "warning" word too when I posted. Impressions is certainly a far more correct and what I would have said myself, if my ol' brain hadn't been so foggy when I posted ;-)

I originally posted this particular link after reading somebody's profile in which she (relatively new to the scene) expressed some concern that her views on relationships might be a bit old fashioned. The site certainly addresses that kind of concern people might have in this day and age of "equality" and "liberation" from all those old fashioned/traditional notions of male-female relationships. In my own personal situation, what my wife and I found most invigorating about the whole kink scene was that people could choose and be encouraged to live in ways that "normal" society might think is strange or even outright reject. Households in which the man rules the roost are typical of one lifestyle choice that, these days, goes against the commonly accepted (vanilla) society values. Whenever anybody consciously decides to break away from society in any way, it's often important to have that decision validated in some way. Not always, of course, but part of the reason people associate with ANY group of like-minded people is to have their own values and choices validated and accepted. Sometimes, even within the scene, those old fashioned styles of relationship dynamic are considered antiquated even though in many respects couples who live this way could possibly make more of a rightful claim to be living a 24/7 lifestyle than their critics. I'm not singling out any individual or group for criticism here. Just merely suggesting that there's more than one way to skin a cat :-)

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