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RE: Jumping into a new relationship - 12/25/2006 8:26:48 PM

theRose4U

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there were a whole slue of doms that firmly believed that the way I was going to totally recover from my release was my immediately surrenduring to another owner.

I would say this is nothing more than the sharks smelling fresh meat.

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RE: Jumping into a new relationship - 12/25/2006 8:41:04 PM

LadyHugs

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Dear Ladies and Gentlemen;

This is not addressed to any one individual and or any particular thing written.

What is missing as for cause of ending a relationship--is not always a case of not 'wanting' a person but, a matter of growth and either Dominant and or submissive flailing away in the water without progress and or 'land in sight.'

Some individuals do find their glass ceiling and some do not. Some in partnerships become unhappy as one partner has found their ceiling and the other is still looking for it. Contentment is not 'there' per se. Some need to exhaust all the avenues and adventures, exploring everything as to come to a final conclusion of what 'happiness' is as the role defines them.

Some relationships are never meant to be forever. Some are a brief time when the individuals grow into who they will finally become. Sometimes, it is nobody's fault and that the experience is enough to launch someone in a different direction. It is the best for them --those involved in that relationship.

Those Masters that are teachers and or healers, often are those who briefly touch a slave's life and then are gone, as they grow and mature into themselves. Sometimes--it is just growing out of each other. No one individual is in the wrong. Sometimes relationships end due to the time is ripe.

Some relationships end, due to military transfers that have the individuals apart and no ability to communicate and or continue. Some relationships end due to serious illness, injuries and or death.
It isn't anybody's fault. In my mind's eyes--fault shouldn't be the only circumstances to be focused upon for justification of a relationship's end. All things should be considered.

Just some thoughts.

Respectfully submitted for consideration,
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RE: Jumping into a new relationship - 12/26/2006 9:37:16 AM

Celeste43

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You're making the unstated assumption that the sub wanted to be in the relationship and was devastated by the unexpected release. Probably what happened is the opposite, the sub started withdrawing her feelings and began protecting herself, no longer caring about the dom for long before release. In other words, she already worked through her emotions before physically leaving.

And once we break up, he hasn't the right to tell me a goddamned thing, I can cry for a month if I want to, and conversely I can go paint the town red that same night if I feel like it. When it's over, it's all over.

Adding, if he attempted to patronize me after breaking up by telling me that he was ready to move on but I wasn't, I would be confirmed in feeling that he was a jerk wanting me to moon over him while he whored around. Not uncommon in vanilla relationships either, this jerk behavior where the guy doesn't want her but is steamed because she's over him.

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