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MidnightWriter -> RE: When will a dom/me know when he/she has a slave/sub that will met their requirements? (2/21/2005 9:03:26 PM)
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ORIGINAL: BlkMSubneedsspnk
Here's a question I'd like to ask any and all experienced dom/mes:
When will a dom/me know they have a slave/sub that will meet their requirements?
As others have said, it's pretty much up to the dominant. For me, it's when they've shown their will/skill at obedience to my satisfaction, and I know them well enough to want them as a friend if they're not collared. Everything else can be worked on.
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I ask this because recently I had to inform a potential slave that we could not meet in real time due to distance and her lack of financial support. I personally believe that any potential live-in sub/slave should be able to do their part to support not only thier master/mistress, but themselves also. <snip>
Distance is an issue for me, as well - it'd take an exceptional slave to pique my interest if I'm going to have to exercise that much patience between visits - I don't much like cyber d/s.
But the financial bit - that may be one of the differences between a slave and a sub, but when claiming/collaring a slave, I've never thought of it as an issue.
The last slave I claimed and collared was in financial straits, but was quite employable, and in fact, already had a job. When I placed them in my collar, I also took responsibility for their outstanding bills, health, etc. They turned control over to me, totally - when the paycheck came in, I determined how much went to what bill, how much remained available for pocket money, and what to buy for groceries. When bills were caught up and a surplus became available, it was at my disposal.
When he petitioned for manumission, there were no outstanding bills with his name on them, there were 4 figures in the account that had his name on it, a longstanding medical issue had been dealt with (and treatment paid for) and his Yule/Xmas trinket had been ordered - and we both had a sense of accomplishment for turning those finances around. Had I chosen, that account could have been stripped bare, but those outstanding bills became my responsibility when I collared him - doing other than paying those off simply was not an available option. They'd become my debts, in everything but name.
When we parted ways, I was gracious - I let him keep that part of my money that had been stored in his name. But as my slave, all of the fruits of his labor belonged to me, just as much as the debts that came with him did.
I cannot imagine dealing with a slave in any other fashion. Your mileage, of course, may vary.
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