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strange question - 12/26/2006 11:21:22 AM   
Cynicalsadist


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Status: offline 		Ok I had an odd experience was talking to one on here most of last night.  No sign of collar under consideration etc.. She joined a few days a go not this morning says has found her master.  What i am confused on was why she ddint say anything last nioght when we talked for over 3 hours?
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RE: strange question - 12/26/2006 11:24:50 AM   
MyMasterStephen


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Status: offline 		Because some people seem to think that they can become a slave with a snap of the fingers.  Such people also tend to un-become a slave again at another snap of the fingers a few days later.

Forget her.  Move on.

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RE: strange question - 12/26/2006 11:27:04 AM   
Cynicalsadist


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Status: offline 		ok was wondering what that was about  thank you for you repssonse

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RE: strange question - 12/26/2006 11:28:13 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		Probably because she was shopping around and keeping her options open. 

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RE: strange question - 12/26/2006 12:12:56 PM   
mystiquenz


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Status: offline 		do you really think that speaking for three hours constitutes a relationship?  If so, i think you need to re-think!

it could very well be that the lady concerned is "keeping her options open" or, she has decided within that timeframe that you are not what she seeks, and moved on. 

I recently talked to a dominant for a lengthy period too, but i would not be so foolish to consider that one lengthy conversation constituted a relationship. 

Good luck in your search ...

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RE: strange question - 12/26/2006 12:14:10 PM   
slaveofdarkhold


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Status: offline 		maybe she just didn't feel like telling you? Hate to sound like a broken record and all but this is the internet, people can say whatever they feel like at the time.
Maybe she really did find someone overnight. Maybe it's serious, maybe she doesn't know what she's talking about. Maybe she got back with someone she broke up with. Maybe she was with someone all along and just didn't tell  you because she wanted to flirt. Maybe she doesn't like you and made up that she found a Master to put you off.  
You could try asking her, she would probably know better than anyone else.Alternatively,   I second the vote to forget it and move on.

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RE: strange question - 12/26/2006 12:16:44 PM   
Cynicalsadist


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Status: offline 		hold on never thought a 3 hour conversation last night constituted arealtion ship.  I just hgappen to look before i talk to anyone she joined 12-24 and was nothing about anything last night about collar etc this morning there was and sorry I asked wont do that again

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RE: strange question - 12/26/2006 12:28:42 PM   
bandit25


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Status: offline 		Don't take what people say personally or seriously, for that matter.

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RE: strange question - 12/26/2006 12:33:56 PM   
OnlyHis


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Status: offline 		  There are all kinds of people here and on the world wide web. I have met a lot of fantastic and very helpful people here but i have also seen some subs/slaves( ?) that take their collars on and off at the drop of a hat .  Sooner or later you can begin to tell which ones are the ones that are really looking for the One to help fulfill their lives and the ones who are just here to play games. 

   Best of luck in your search

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RE: strange question - 12/26/2006 4:32:04 PM   
juliaoceania


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Cynicalsadist

hold on never thought a 3 hour conversation last night constituted arealtion ship.  I just hgappen to look before i talk to anyone she joined 12-24 and was nothing about anything last night about collar etc this morning there was and sorry I asked wont do that again


I do not think that you should be sorry you asked, but if you really would like to know, then perhaps you should ask her?

Perhaps the avalanche of mail so overwhelmed her she put that up to stop it. I think you would be flabbergasted at the amount of mail new submissives get...

..but the only way to know for sure is to go to the source.

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RE: strange question - 12/26/2006 5:58:02 PM   
Donnalee


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Status: offline 		Maybe she didn't know how to tell you, No.  It's amazing to me how many people have trouble with a simple, "No, thank you."

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RE: strange question - 12/26/2006 6:06:04 PM   
diamonddreamlove


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Status: offline 		Don't be concerned about posting here.  Some will answer kindly, some won't.  Ignore the replies you don't like lol and go on with what you want to know.  As far as the sub is concerned i agree you won't know unless you ask her.  As for happening suddenly that does not have to be the way it is.  She may have been seeing someone who got concerned when she joined her and suddenly HE decided to put the collar on.  Is amazing how a sub can somedays seem like a bone at dog feeding time. 

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RE: strange question - 12/26/2006 6:12:26 PM   
whisperedsighs


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Status: offline 		If the girl was new to BDSM it is quite possible that she was having conversations with a couple of people and one of them slapped a collar on her and she accepted as new "submissives" often will do. 

Or she was keeping her options open, and decided on someone else.

Or it was the only way she could tell you, that you weren't the right one. 

Who knows.  It's online.  I am sure you will given time find the right one.

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oh my god that was so wrong! .... again please!

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RE: strange question - 12/26/2006 8:22:31 PM   
erebus


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ORIGINAL: Donnalee

Maybe she didn't know how to tell you, No.  It's amazing to me how many people have trouble with a simple, "No, thank you."


Either that, or totally clueless. 

It is surprising how often a female submissive will be 'under consideration' in their profile or journal so quickly. 

Folks, it takes time, just like in a vanilla relationship.

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RE: strange question - 12/27/2006 7:40:01 AM   
afeathr


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Status: offline 		I don't know what the girl in the OP's situation was doing or thinking, but in response to "being under consideration" or "being collared" so quickly after joining Collarme... In my case, I joined because Sir asked me to join.  I wasn't even aware of the site until He and I were official and he mentioned it.  Therefore when I got online I was already taken, and ended up staying to meet new people and learn more about the lifestyle.

Things are not always what they seem.  Less judgement and more thought is always a welcome thing.

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RE: strange question - 12/27/2006 11:46:57 AM   
sub4hire


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Cynicalsadist

Ok I had an odd experience was talking to one on here most of last night.  No sign of collar under consideration etc.. She joined a few days a go not this morning says has found her master.  What i am confused on was why she ddint say anything last nioght when we talked for over 3 hours?


What exactly is a collar of consideration?  Someone wanting to take advantage of someone so they use terminology they figure sounds good or what?
When I was searching I negotiated with dominants, simple as that.  I was under no ones care.  I played with no one.  I made my own decisions in life because I knew myself best.  When I found the person I wanted, I submitted.  Simple really.  Back then...nobody uttered the words collar of consideration.
Going beyond that.
If she joined a few days ago, who is to say she wasn't already with someone?  When I joined this site I was with my dom for several years prior. 
Perhaps he just instructed her to say she is not looking in her profile?

Perhaps she is brand new...and found a predator.  Someone who did take her under their wing to use her.  He or she instructed her to make it part of her profile?

Perhaps she was overwhelmed and needs a break, thinking by adding the fact she has found someone to her profile it will stop the sudden insurge of e-mail?

Perhaps she spoke to you and decided looking right now is not for her at this point in time?

There are a great many reasons why she could have done the things she has done.  The only way for you to get the answer you desire is to ask the source.

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RE: strange question - 12/28/2006 6:51:47 AM   
fantasy69maker


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Status: offline 		I try to send new subs a note  on their first day here telling them to take their time and explore a little before they accept a collar.LOL often the resopnce after just a FEW MINIUTES online is "I have accepted a collar and may not communicate with Doms" often  followed  the next day by the addition to their profile of the words"Master and I arew so happy togather that he is looking for another  sub to join  us"

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RE: strange question - 12/28/2006 8:47:24 AM   
HoustonDave


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Status: offline 		Jim said it best..."People are strange, when you're a stranger."

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RE: strange question - 12/30/2006 12:52:56 PM   
Mavis


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Status: offline 		When i first found collarme, i was waaay turned off by the profiles on the main page..  Most said stuff like  "Thank You Collarme!   I just signed up, learned about BDSM, and collared my first slave in less than 10 hours!!!  Collarme is the best!!"  -MasterWolf

E-Gads.  I ran back to ALT as fast as my litle fingers could mouse me there.   Later, i learned that was all marketing spiel, i think the first 90 members here were collarme staffies.  Still, instant collars are pretty regular happenings here and at other sites of this nature, if she really did just sign up and hook up with the next incoming IM, can bet she'll be available again shortly.  Probably several times over the next 3 or 4 months. 

Not to imply she's just stupid, with ads that tout the ability to "hook up with your fetish" just by registering, many buy that perception that it's that easy to have a safe and fulfilling relationship.    It takes a bit of time for some to realise the marketing of these sites is very different from how most "practioners" actually work.

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RE: strange question - 12/30/2006 12:58:57 PM   
nephandi


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Status: offline 		It could be she just did not tell you and was just flirting whit you, could be she was a butterfly that just sudderly desided to be somone`s slave, could be she just did not consider it inportant to tell you, or perhaps she and her Master just sort of cliked and it was true love. As sugjested OP to know for sure the reason, you should ask the lady in question.

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