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mymasterssub69 -> Growing old as a submissive (12/26/2006 5:30:24 PM)
i know this is something i should talk with Daddy and i shall since i have committed myself to Him for life. However i'm gradually approaching that magical age of 40 though i don't look a day over 30. i merely wanted to hear some thoughts from older submissives/slaves (as well as Doms and Dommes) about growing as a submissive. thanks in advance.

KatyLied -> RE: Growing old as a submissive (12/26/2006 5:41:02 PM)
Wow, 40 is old? Who knew?

Aileen68 -> RE: Growing old as a submissive (12/26/2006 5:43:14 PM)
Help. I've fallen and I can't get up. edited to add...do you mean physically? Mentally?

diamonddreamlove -> RE: Growing old as a submissive (12/26/2006 5:45:16 PM)
Smiling approaching 50 in a couple months soooo nope 40 is not old. LOL and besides Master is about 9 1/2 yrs older and i think that we shall grow old together doing the things we enjoy in the manner we can both handle. diamond

mymasterssub69 -> RE: Growing old as a submissive (12/26/2006 5:50:23 PM)
physically 40 may not seem old to you however in my condition (medically and Daddy knows this) tomorrow is not promised to either of us

KatyLied -> RE: Growing old as a submissive (12/26/2006 5:52:38 PM)
quote: tomorrow is not promised to either of us No one is promised tomorrow. Where did you get the idea that anyone is?

mymasterssub69 -> RE: Growing old as a submissive (12/26/2006 5:53:01 PM)
thanks diamond mine is about 10 yrs older than me

mymasterssub69 -> RE: Growing old as a submissive (12/26/2006 5:54:30 PM)
some do take that for granted ...i did at one time

Aileen68 -> RE: Growing old as a submissive (12/26/2006 5:58:01 PM)
Actually, I'm a little over a month away from 39, so 40 is right there for me. Physically I'm not as limber as I used to be. I have really tight shoulders that just don't want to be stretched as far as I sometimes need them to be. And I've always had screwed up knees since my teens. Outside of that I don't have any major medical conditions that I deal with. And mentally I view age as being a state of mind. So I'm about eighteen.

juliaoceania -> RE: Growing old as a submissive (12/26/2006 6:13:18 PM)
How do I feel about growing older as a submissive woman a couple months shy of 39? Well, as a woman I have days I cannot believe how fast it has went so far, other days I feel old, other days I feel pretty damn good about aging gracefully. I came to the conclusion wearing makeup makes me look older, I needed to quit smoking and exercise more. I have started on a low carb lifestyle regime to regulate my blood sugar and give me more natural energy.... I do not feel badly about getting older, I just want to keep my parts healthy and happy for as long as possible. I have been told more than a few times I look good with no age qualifier like "you look good - for your age"...lol, and the first time I hear the "age" word attached to that statement I will probably be offended[:D] So, how do I feel about getting older as a submissive? I have read more than once a submissive person feeling low about aging, stating that every dom wanted a younger sub, even when they were on their 50s. I have read submissives that make this blanket statement about men in their age group, and I always think to myself How come when I have read profiles of men my age and older I see a good many men wanting women their own age and stating that they specifically do not want a very young submissive? The more I thought about my perception contrasted against other people's perceptions I just figured it was the glass half empty or the glass half full paradigm. I see the glass as being half full. I did not waste energy on profiles of men seeking what I am not, instead I focused on men that were looking for someone like me. I feel as though I grow as a human being as I approach 40, at this point I am hopeful that I have found what I am looking for in a mate. I am looking for someone to grow old with and enjoy my life with. My submissiveness is just another aspect of who I am, his dominance is something we view the same way... We both were searching for this when we found each other. I tend to be attracted to men that have had similar experiences to myself, and it makes me feel connected when the men I have been interested in feel the same way. Just my experiences

KatyLied -> RE: Growing old as a submissive (12/26/2006 6:59:27 PM)
quote: some do take that for granted ...i did at one time Many do take it for granted and it is sad. I wouldn't wish ill on anyone, particularly where their health is concerned, but I think that having a "wake up call" can be a good experience. I had one this past summer. It was scary, but it was also a good thing for me because it made me realize what is important.

hisannabelle -> RE: Growing old as a submissive (12/26/2006 7:05:47 PM)
well, i'm not anywhere near 40 (i hope i do live to be 40, though! and i don't think 40 is old at all), but i thought i'd respond as someone with a dominant who's much older (54) and also as someone whose health is not good. i think that, both for dominants and submissives, it's really important to reassess what you want in life and what you need out of the relationship as you go along. that changes drastically as you age and also as health situations change, etc. (both of ours have worsened considerably in different ways since we got together - for other reasons, hehehe.) i also think it's really important to be with someone who really makes decisions in your best interests - because that becomes so important when you're having a huge chronic pain attack out of the middle of nowhere, or you just can't get out of bed for whatever reason, or kneeling for an hour is out of the question because your knees are creaky. i mean, sometimes he has to tell me GO TO BED! or force me to take care of myself, even when it means we don't spend as much time together or as much time playing, and i often have feelings that this is keeping me from serving him as well as i should, but i realize that we have to take care of each other in this way. so i think that it's always important to keep each other informed about your health and about what you can do to make things easier health-wise. i just thought i'd post this since you mentioned that your health was not good either. hugs i think growing older as a submissive, though, is just like growing older as a person...we change, and so our relationships change. i'm sure what 24/7 d/s is to the two of us now will not mirror a 24/7 tpe between the two of us 10 years from now. just a couple thoughts.

givemyall -> RE: Growing old as a submissive (12/26/2006 7:07:57 PM)
I hit 39 lastweek ..... cant really complain I suppose, although it takes me longer to get the print of the pillow off my face in the morning nowadays. I think over the past year or two I have physically aged alot more than I would like, but I am making up for that because my mental age is in decline. I find that im more confident about myself as I get older so I guess its all a bit of give and take.

krikket -> RE: Growing old as a submissive (12/26/2006 7:19:14 PM)
50 would be nice to see against..if i remember right, but then again..since memory is the 2nd thing to go, i might not like being 50 again...LOL All kidding aside, my best advice is to be very aware of each other, treasure the time you have together, and rejoice in it. None of us have a contract guaranteeing tenure...so have fun, enjoy, grow, learn and most of all love... cheers and Happy new year jimini quote: ORIGINAL: diamonddreamlove Smiling approaching 50 in a couple months soooo nope 40 is not old. LOL and besides Master is about 9 1/2 yrs older and i think that we shall grow old together doing the things we enjoy in the manner we can both handle. diamond

ownedgirlie -> RE: Growing old as a submissive (12/26/2006 7:31:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: krikket All kidding aside, my best advice is to be very aware of each other, treasure the time you have together, and rejoice in it. None of us have a contract guaranteeing tenure...so have fun, enjoy, grow, learn and most of all love... Bravo. I am 41 and Master is 58 and diabetic. So far age and heath has not prevented us from enjoying a wonderful dynamic together, nor has it created any obstacles to anything he chooses to do with me. When such things do interfere, I assume we will just work around them, adapting and evolving to life. Most important, however, is to live in the present and relish in what we have today.

LotusSong -> RE: Growing old as a submissive (12/26/2006 8:00:17 PM)
My advice: Strive to grow old gracefully. You are not going to stop it. Adjust your play to offset your best talents. Slave is now 62. He had this very concern. Ten years ago he liked to play hard and now finds his pain tolerance is not what it used to be. Things that interested him then are not all that much of an interest now. I've aged and had to alter my preferences also. We intend to keep going until one of us breaks a hip. I know 50+ looks scary to the 20-30 somethings.. but believe me, it's kind of nice. :) What's nice about it? We no longer feel the need to prove how sub or dom we are. We know. We have run the gamet of the fetishes and have found our favorites. We don't go into a blind panic if one or the other falls silent for a few days. We know how to grant each other "space". We can figure out bullshit at a glance. We can recognize patterns of behaviour and their outcomes. We just have BEEN THERE.

erebus -> RE: Growing old as a submissive (12/26/2006 8:11:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: juliaoceania So, how do I feel about getting older as a submissive? I have read more than once a submissive person feeling low about aging, stating that every dom wanted a younger sub, even when they were on their 50s. I have read submissives that make this blanket statement about men in their age group, and I always think to myself How come when I have read profiles of men my age and older I see a good many men wanting women their own age and stating that they specifically do not want a very young submissive? The more I thought about my perception contrasted against other people's perceptions I just figured it was the glass half empty or the glass half full paradigm. I see the glass as being half full. I did not waste energy on profiles of men seeking what I am not, instead I focused on men that were looking for someone like me. I'd look for a compatible person, rather than a specific age. That said, there is no way I'd ever be with someone who is younger than, say, 35, not that someone that young would entertain the idea of being my partner! I'd have nothing in common with a woman of 21 or so. The only reason I'd seek out a younger woman is if she would be willing to have children. Even at my advanced age, I've not given up on the whole idea, :}

dawntreader -> RE: Growing old as a submissive (12/26/2006 9:04:20 PM)
i did not even explore my submissive nature till i was 43 and it was with a younger man... i STOPPED worrying about age when i turned 40 and life has been better for it. Living each day to the fullest is something so often forgotten and regardless of preexisting conditions, no one is guaranteed tomorrow.

slavemaia -> RE: Growing old as a submissive (12/26/2006 9:07:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mymasterssub69 i know this is something i should talk with Daddy and i shall since i have committed myself to Him for life. However i'm gradually approaching that magical age of 40 though i don't look a day over 30. i merely wanted to hear some thoughts from older submissives/slaves (as well as Doms and Dommes) about growing as a submissive. thanks in advance. Oh that's easy - i just go backwards now. 40???????? Let's see i was that age once - yes that's right i was. Enjoy now - it's all any of U/us has. i've been very fortunate in my life to have had pretty near excellent health, a flexible, adaptable body and a relatively easy time keeping myself HWP. So in terms of actual age i never have looked as old as i am. But i think one of the most important things is to have a Master who thinks you're the sexiest woman alive. i'm lucky enough to.

akisha -> RE: Growing old as a submissive (12/26/2006 9:09:06 PM)
my knees have been screwed since i was 16, due to sports and such, we just make adjustments for those things. I don't think age really matters, you just adjust to what your physical limitations are and go from there. I'm also very loose jointed and have a habit of dislocating for no apparent reason, hence suspension is a concern for me. Haven't done it yet but I'm sure with the right precautions it can be done. Just takes fore thought and adjustments.

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