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pixelslave -> RE: Do you get it???? (12/28/2006 9:24:17 AM)
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ORIGINAL: MstrssPassion
One quick question to the OP: Do you feel that this is a message that only the dominant women or those who serve them should be reading?
There are threads about abuse, how do we recognize abuse, how do we avoid abuse, who is most abusive, who is the most abused, why do we abuse, is what we do abuse, etc threads all over this board.
No one segment of this particular "lifestyle" is most likely to fall prey to this... but so long as people jump into this with their libido leading them rather than their brain, it is more likely that their rosie after glow will be that of embarrassment (or worse-cuts & bruises) rather than ecstasy & bliss.
I was involved with a Safe House Organization for a few years & we assisted several people with getting out of abusive situations. Every single person we spoke with admitted that they had jumped in too soon, without being properly informed & completely green.
Most, it seems, don't want to take time, get educated or follow some basic rules. They are too quick to make snappy comebacks & call people one-true-wayers or "you can't tell me what to do" or just because it's right for you doesn't mean its right for me...
Maybe, just maybe if they had listened to others or followed some basic rules they would not have found themselves in these horrible predicaments.
just 2 cents... nothing more
It doesn't always happen as you describe. After many years together, my former Mistress changed and became verbally and emotionally abusive. She wasn't like that at all in the beginning. It began at a certain point and then escalated over time, until it was undeniably abusive and very bad for my mental health, as well as for my unmentionables to witness who were frightened and confused by it.
I don't think all kinds of abuse can be lumped together as happening for the same reasons or causes. It was very difficult for me to plan a way to extract myself from the situation. As submissive males, we don't have the same options available to us as most females do. There aren't safe houses for abused males to go to like there are for women, at least not that I've ever heard of in the places I've lived (Michigan & currently Texas). The legal system is biased against us, believing we can't possibly be abused by women. Dominant women know this, and in my experience, are able to use it to their advantage; particularly when they are in control of the money and are also in positions of power within the community.
- pixel
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