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Mercnbeth -> RE: Bypassing D/s protocol by others (2/22/2005 9:48:05 AM)
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THAT is fucking rude !.....
Darth,
"Rude" is an active adjective and it requires activity on both parties. We have never thought any email we've received rude. Ignorant, naive, mundane, immature, sure; but never rude. We would have to care and let the message have a negative impact on us. So far, we haven't received email approaching the threshold of generating negative energy, or making us care. We handle it similar to when we see ignorant, immature, mundane, or naive threads. Every morning we have to sift through them like the cats litter box, granted lately it seems like the cats have a stomach disorder, but it just means that the clumps are bigger and ultimately easier to dispose.
The only difference in email is that we still maintain 100% response. beth and I are different in the respect that we came to this site as a couple, our profile is for a couple, and we are only active at this site and in the life as a couple. Yet regularly we receive inquires for independent meetings, especially beth (GO FIGURE!!). Of course the predominant request comes from single submissive males wanting, even begging, for beth to dom them. I guess beth is the tall, naturally red head, prototype fantasy Domme for these guys. I can appreciate that, and most often we reply with a "thank you for your nice words, appreciate the thought and opportunity, but beth (we) are not interested."
Of course, as I'm sure you've experienced, this doesn't stop everyone. In those cases we take a different tact. 'Evil Merc' begins to answer their inquires. One self described 'slave' craving CBT begged beth to give him instructions for self play - so "beth" ordered him to slam his balls in a car door. That was the last correspondence - and we've checked the news and no 'balls slammed in car door' stories are circulating in any of the strange news blogs.
We also have the luxury, that even though we are not in the 'industry' we are very open about who we are and have no fear of being who we are in public when socially appropriate and/or opportunity permits. When we want to meet people, we get off the email/phone route ASAP. It works best to sift fakes and posers. When a 'couple' emailed us for weeks about their desire to serve us - we invited them to Redondo. Again, it was the last we heard from 'them', or most likely 'him'.
As far as requests for chat goes, again beth is usually requested. I commonly grant it, and have no requirement that she save the conversation for my later review. Why? Many reasons. The main reason is that I believe beth is very good at helping people new to the lifestyle understand what it's like to live with BDSM, or D/s part of a relationship. she provides incite to her life, and gives honest feelings both good and bad, about living as a slave in a 24/7 relationship. As her Master, I feel this strengthens and enhances her beliefs especially when they are challenged. It doesn't matter if she's chatting with a Dom or submissive, male or female. I've found beth's development as a slave enhanced by these contacts, and have no concerns that anyone she chats with will effect our relationship. It the chatter has ulterior motives the chats don't last long. beth does not do any type of 'cyber' scene.
Just like everything else Darth, if you let people bother you, or worse let them know they bother you, they'll persist. In their mind they've succeeded. In our mind, they are 'kitty litter' or amusement; but "rude"? Not possible.
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