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What being a wife means to a slave... - 12/28/2006 11:24:31 AM

slavejali

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Sometimes in life we like to separate things out,

put them in neat little boxes marked

"This is this" and "That is that",

"a wife is this", "a slave is that".

Maybe I am too simple minded

for in being both...

I cannot distinguish between them,

both mean to me that I am tied to you,

both mean that those ties bind me to you.

In my kind of loving,

There is no not being a slave,

I am truly a slave to love.

My submission to love controls me

and makes me your slave.

My submission to your love

makes you my jailer,

locked and bound with invisible binds.

This is a marriage of love,

you hold the key to my heart,

please keep me forever locked within its confines,

I love these chains that bind....

Whether someone knows me as

your wife or slave

and calls me as such,

their naming of names and titles and such

all sing one song to me..

"I am yours".

Happy Anniversary

Master

Husband

Lover

Friend

So much love

Your slave, Your wife, Your Lover, Your Friend

Jali

xxx

P.S. being your wife too has bonuses, we get two anniversaries a year :)

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RE: What being a wife means to a slave... - 12/28/2006 11:46:47 AM

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I love you sweetie and I'm very happy that you are in my life.Happy anniversary!

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RE: What being a wife means to a slave... - 12/28/2006 12:19:49 PM

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sounds like a fairy tale jali ...

congratulations to you both!

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RE: What being a wife means to a slave... - 12/28/2006 2:08:36 PM

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I'm not sure I'll ever grok a slave and master getting married except for legal and medical benefits...or perhaps extreme social pressure.

http://www.collarchat.com/m_664645/mpage_1/key_marriage/tm.htm#664658\
Questions regarding marriage and Ds or Ms relationships

http://www.collarchat.com/m_576306/mpage_1/key_marriage/tm.htm#576397
Master, boyfriend, husband

http://www.collarchat.com/m_83805/mpage_1/key_marriage/tm.htm#83805
Ds love and marriage

http://www.collarchat.com/m_132827/mpage_1/key_marriage/tm.htm#132827
bdsm and marriage

http://www.collarchat.com/m_239723/mpage_1/key_marriage/tm.htm#239723
Marriage and Ds

http://www.collarchat.com/m_247668/mpage_1/key_marriage/tm.htm#247668
Ring or collar, what's the difference?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_291606/mpage_1/key_marriage/tm.htm#291606
Marriage and bdsm

http://www.collarchat.com/m_455701/mpage_1/key_marriage/tm.htm#455701
Marriage and bdsm lifestyle

http://www.collarchat.com/m_466530/mpage_1/key_marriage/tm.htm#466530
Marriage and femdom

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RE: What being a wife means to a slave... - 12/28/2006 3:20:05 PM

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JalisMaster and SlaveJali-
Congratulations to both of you on your anniversary- and Jali, thanks for sharing that poem. It was beautiful. I wish you both the best.

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RE: What being a wife means to a slave... - 12/28/2006 3:43:22 PM

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***Congratulations on your anniversary, may you enjoy many more***

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RE: What being a wife means to a slave... - 12/28/2006 5:10:06 PM

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awwwwwwwwww congrats! What a beautiful OP too!

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RE: What being a wife means to a slave... - 12/28/2006 5:22:41 PM

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Awwwwwwwwww congratulations you two!

Wishing you many more years of happiness together.

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RE: What being a wife means to a slave... - 12/28/2006 5:43:01 PM

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Me thinks Jalismaster is one lucky person.

May there be many more anniversaries to follow

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RE: What being a wife means to a slave... - 12/28/2006 6:09:33 PM

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Congrats and wishes for many years to come filled with love, joy, even the rougher times make for better smoother times..

Happy Anniversary!!!

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RE: What being a wife means to a slave... - 12/28/2006 6:11:30 PM

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Congratulations to you both.

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RE: What being a wife means to a slave... - 12/28/2006 6:31:47 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

I'm not sure I'll ever grok a slave and master getting married except for legal and medical benefits...or perhaps extreme social pressure.

I know some who find it terribly hard to equate M/s & marriage. For me, and a few others I know, marriage was the harder thing to commit to than a collar. Wolf and I were together for 5 years before I was collared, and another 4 before I submitted to his desire to be married.

For me the marriage meant giving up MY identity, I became a extension of him. Even as a collared slave, I had my own seperate identity, my own name, and the ease of being able to walk away unencumbered.

I think much of it depends on your view of marriage as either a lifetime commitment, or as something disposable. *shrugs*

As for the OP, Happy anniversary, may the cold light of reality make your dreams pale by comparison.

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RE: What being a wife means to a slave... - 12/28/2006 7:03:07 PM

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Warm congrats to Y/you both. i agree completely. As a matter of fact in the slave ceremony Master and i did, it states "you are my wife", "I am your Husband." W/we're not married yet but it's all the same - i don't think i could feel a deeper level of commitment by being legally married.

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RE: What being a wife means to a slave... - 12/29/2006 12:54:33 AM

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Beautiful poem..thanks for sharing.

Congrats!

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RE: What being a wife means to a slave... - 12/29/2006 1:25:11 AM

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Deep and wonderful.

Best wishes.

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RE: What being a wife means to a slave... - 12/29/2006 10:33:51 AM

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Beautiful. Congrats to you both!

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RE: What being a wife means to a slave... - 12/29/2006 1:53:57 PM

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Thanks so much for everyones well-wishes

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For me the marriage meant giving up MY identity, I became a extension of him. Even as a collared slave, I had my own seperate identity, my own name, and the ease of being able to walk away unencumbered.

I often see the marriage part as a "brand" of sorts. It's true what you say, it entails the total loss of identity, in marriage you even lose your name and get your Owners branded onto you. Being married to Master was really significant for me, I was really aware of it being a paramount event that signified me stepping out of my past and fully embracing my future with Master. I had to give up my late husbands name and accept Masters, it might seem like a trivial thing....but I really felt the impact. By Master branding me with his name, it released me from my past in a very subtle, yet profound way. He removed my previous brand and placed his on me. I guess the legalities of marriage papers is like signing off on purchasing a car, so that you fully own it, rather than just taking it out for a test drive where you have no legal obligation to it. So in that romanticised view, I could see marriage papers as the equivalent to "slave papers", a legal recognition of ownership.

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RE: What being a wife means to a slave... - 12/29/2006 4:12:03 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: slavejali

Thanks so much for everyones well-wishes

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For me the marriage meant giving up MY identity, I became a extension of him. Even as a collared slave, I had my own seperate identity, my own name, and the ease of being able to walk away unencumbered.

I often see the marriage part as a "brand" of sorts. It's true what you say, it entails the total loss of identity, in marriage you even lose your name and get your Owners branded onto you. Being married to Master was really significant for me, I was really aware of it being a paramount event that signified me stepping out of my past and fully embracing my future with Master. I had to give up my late husbands name and accept Masters, it might seem like a trivial thing....but I really felt the impact. By Master branding me with his name, it released me from my past in a very subtle, yet profound way. He removed my previous brand and placed his on me. I guess the legalities of marriage papers is like signing off on purchasing a car, so that you fully own it, rather than just taking it out for a test drive where you have no legal obligation to it. So in that romanticised view, I could see marriage papers as the equivalent to "slave papers", a legal recognition of ownership.

Master and I got married on Dec 9th and I'm in the process of changing my surname to His. I don't want to be known by my ex husband's surname any more, although it's the name I've been known by since I was 19 years old - nearly 30 years ago.

I understand what you are saying, about changing your name "releasing" you from your past. For me it feels like the time I removed my wedding band. That was the first step, and changing my name will be the last in my progression from separation, to filing for divorce, to remarrying. All in 4 1/2 years

I am proud to have His name as well as His collar and ring.

Congratulations to you both, may you have many years of happiness together

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RE: What being a wife means to a slave... - 12/29/2006 4:38:28 PM

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Beautiful! Beautiful! Congratulations with wishes of joy for Y/your life together...forever and ever...

You have given me hope for the possibilities....

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RE: What being a wife means to a slave... - 12/29/2006 5:08:35 PM

slavejali

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Hey congratulations Rayne !!!! I'm so happy for you~!..and yes same here re wearing his name, ring and collar with pride, all symbols that I am his

I do really love and respect symbologies so thats probably part of it...its all good

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