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Domme Space? - 12/29/2006 2:08:50 AM

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Okay gang, have patience with me here. I am running on not enough sleep and work is only 2 hours away so I may not seem too articulate, feel free to ask for clarification (or tell me I'm nuts)

I have heard of subspace and I was wondering if there is a Dom/me equivalent?

Every time my sub (or someone else) mentions a new kink, I swear a thousand pictures fly through my head and I feel like I'm "not quite there" until the images cease.
I also get pulled under while playing, even though he and I are taking this very slow. Is this something that happens to everyone in the beginning? Right now it is of concern to me as I tend to be a bit sadistic and before I go on, I need to know that I can stop.
After one has been at this a while, does it become "old hat" and do you think my head will stop spinning every time someone mentions (insert kink here)?

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RE: Domme Space? - 12/29/2006 2:51:40 AM

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I cant answer if you head will ever stop spinning but i can say i do go into whati guess people would term as domme space .I feel a high and evrything else around me isnt really there, im focused only on my boy and what im doing and feeling. It passes after a session when we cuddle and talk to each other i guess like with subspace it slowly comes back down to earth sometimes with a bump too

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RE: Domme Space? - 12/29/2006 8:41:15 AM

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I use different terms for different headspaces.

Topspace for being focused on the physical activities and my bottom -- happens at clubs when I tune out the others and can zone in on just us or at home when we do SM.

Domspace is when I'm feeling completely confident and focused on myself and my own pleasure. Doesn't mean I don't think about my sub or slave but that there is no hestitation, no second thinking, and no doubt in my mind that what I desire is best for both of us right now.

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RE: Domme Space? - 12/29/2006 9:41:45 AM

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When I'm in a scene where I'm very connected, the world narrows to just me and my partner. Ever noticed that during really good sex? Same works for scenes!

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RE: Domme Space? - 12/29/2006 3:01:47 PM

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ORIGINAL: PsyVamp

Okay gang, have patience with me here. I am running on not enough sleep and work is only 2 hours away so I may not seem too articulate, feel free to ask for clarification (or tell me I'm nuts)

I have heard of subspace and I was wondering if there is a Dom/me equivalent?

Every time my sub (or someone else) mentions a new kink, I swear a thousand pictures fly through my head and I feel like I'm "not quite there" until the images cease.
I also get pulled under while playing, even though he and I are taking this very slow. Is this something that happens to everyone in the beginning? Right now it is of concern to me as I tend to be a bit sadistic and before I go on, I need to know that I can stop.
After one has been at this a while, does it become "old hat" and do you think my head will stop spinning every time someone mentions (insert kink here)?
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Nice topic! I have thought about "Domme Space" for a long time.
To me, Domme Space is that feeling of connectiveness that I feel
when I have someone who I feel is submitting to me.
For me, it is not just the physical domination but I have what I need and that
is also mental domination.
It is hard for me to put into words, very hard to explain.
I am in Domme Space when I have someone who I feel has surrendered
himself to me.
I can only feel this way with someone who has satisfied me physically, mentally,
emotionally, and on all the levels that matter to me.
Trust is key.
he is MINE. he wants to be MINE. he wants and craves to serve and be with ME.
I am the D and he is the s, and all that this will entail between us.
I have a sense of peace and comfort and security.....
I am content, the searcher has found what she was searching for.
She needs to look no more. This is what she wanted all the time.
Since I don't seek or date vanilla, my search for a companion has ended.

This is Domme space to me.
Heck if I was vanilla, you could even say it was LOVE.

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RE: Domme Space? - 12/29/2006 3:43:30 PM

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Wait until you are watching yourself do a flogging or spanking.

I had what could best be described as an OOB experience. I was getting into the rhythm of what I was doing and I realized I felt like I had "shifted" to the side and was watching what was going on. There are times it feels like Slave takes me with him.

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RE: Domme Space? - 12/29/2006 4:27:17 PM

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Dear PsyVamp, Ladies and Gentlemen;

The term "Top space" is rather new language to my mind's eyes; however the term 'dominant space' has been with several meanings with me.

Dominant space is a controlled personal space. It can mean that the three feet zone for slaves not to enter without permission, as in presentments, rituals and such. And, it has also meant in being in a state of being where the Master/Mistress/Dominant was in an 'unworldly' state; out of body, mystical, floating, narrow/tunnel focus and the rest of the world disappears. in normal speed and others are in slow motion and or where you're in slow motion and everybody is in normal speed.

As for my personal experience, I make sure I have a bit to eat and not heavy, just curb the complaints of a stomach and well hydrated. I don't go into the flying state or 'dominant space' per se until I am out of the scene entirely. So, I have a delayed experience.

In my mind's eyes I see, that body chemicals go into action when going into a scene where 'nerves' and 'emotions' are involved. Sense of smell also gets involved and it makes a body chemical cocktail and you get buzzed, impaired and a bit tipsy.

Respectfully submitted for consideration,
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RE: Domme Space? - 12/29/2006 7:55:30 PM

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I thought about that after I wrote it, you are correct, there is no way for someone else to know if my head will stop spinning.

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RE: Domme Space? - 12/29/2006 8:05:50 PM

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Yes, yes and yes. Thank you everyone, its nice to know that I'm not completely "out there" and that there are others who would be able to understand my situation even though I seem to have a hard time putting my thoughts into words.
I also like the idea of really getting into a scene and I do pull back out when he and I have stopped playing (or talking about playing) , it just seems like I am so ON for hours to days after that.
I'll be going to a club in another 2 weeks, it will be interesting to see how I feel after that.

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RE: Domme Space? - 12/29/2006 8:13:54 PM

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I think I understand what you are talking about. I have a similiar experience with your Domme space. When Angel and I discuss things, especialy things that he gets into as much as or maybe even more so that I do, they tend to stick around. I find msyelf thinking about them constantly, pondering how I could make them happen, what would go into it and whether or not I would enjoy his version of them as much as I might my own. The closer we get to my relocation, the more I realize he and I are both doing this. Its almost like a perparation for our time together.
Face to face scenes I slip into my own headspace where the rest of the world doesnt exist, but I think everyone does that when they realy focus. But you re definately not alone in being "up" from activities for days on end. I am just getting used to having the ideas buzzing around in the back of my head pretty much regardless of what I am doing at any point in time.

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RE: Domme Space? - 12/31/2006 2:26:39 PM

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I am not sure I can speak for any Dommes but my most wonderful experience with a Domme was when I was at a low point in my life and asked a wonderful Mistress to help me through the pain of rejection. She graciously agreed and the sesion that insued was absolutely the most wonderful of my life. I can only liken it to a religeous conversion experience I had when young and impresionable. The scene was so honest and pure that she started to flow into my pain and was feeling every stroke with me and I could feel her joining me in the revery. Fortunately she had a Dom that interceeded and brought us both down or we could have ended in the hospital with me in stitches and both of us smiling from ear to ear. Like I said I don't know if this is what is called Dom- space but I hope all Dominant people and submissives can have such a wonderful joining of the spirits. I hope I didn't miss the point of this thread but I had to say something here.

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RE: Domme Space? - 12/31/2006 2:53:41 PM

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I am not sure I can speak for any Dommes but my most wonderful experience with a Domme was when I was at a low point in my life and asked a wonderful Mistress to help me through the pain of rejection. She graciously agreed and the sesion that insued was absolutely the most wonderful of my life. I can only liken it to a religeous conversion experience I had when young and impresionable. The scene was so honest and pure that she started to flow into my pain and was feeling every stroke with me and I could feel her joining me in the revery. Fortunately she had a Dom that interceeded and brought us both down or we could have ended in the hospital with me in stitches and both of us smiling from ear to ear. Like I said I don't know if this is what is called Dom- space but I hope all Dominant people and submissives can have such a wonderful joining of the spirits. I hope I didn't miss the point of this thread but I had to say something here.

That was beautiful.

It reminded me of a very simple act that was witnessed at a gathering. After a play session, Slave and I had retired to the living room. It had gone very well. I sat on the couch. Slave knelt before me, closed his eyes and extended his hands to me palms up. I reached out and placed my hands palm down on his. I closed my eyes and we began to slowly caress each other's fore arms up to our shoulders and neck, very slowly for about 15 minutes. I have no idea where we "went" but when we came back.. the room was dead silent and my Domme buddy was sitting there wide-eyed and said "now THAT was beautiful!" I wish I knew what that was. I can best describe it as a pure energy exchange between the two of us.

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RE: Domme Space? - 12/31/2006 4:30:18 PM

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I am not sure I can speak for any Dommes but my most wonderful experience with a Domme was when I was at a low point in my life and asked a wonderful Mistress to help me through the pain of rejection. She graciously agreed and the sesion that insued was absolutely the most wonderful of my life. I can only liken it to a religeous conversion experience I had when young and impresionable. The scene was so honest and pure that she started to flow into my pain and was feeling every stroke with me and I could feel her joining me in the revery. Fortunately she had a Dom that interceeded and brought us both down or we could have ended in the hospital with me in stitches and both of us smiling from ear to ear. Like I said I don't know if this is what is called Dom- space but I hope all Dominant people and submissives can have such a wonderful joining of the spirits. I hope I didn't miss the point of this thread but I had to say something here.

That was beautiful.

It reminded me of a very simple act that was witnessed at a gathering. After a play session, Slave and I had retired to the living room. It had gone very well. I sat on the couch. Slave knelt before me, closed his eyes and extended his hands to me palms up. I reached out and placed my hands palm down on his. I closed my eyes and we began to slowly caress each other's fore arms up to our shoulders and neck, very slowly for about 15 minutes. I have no idea where we "went" but when we came back.. the room was dead silent and my Domme buddy was sitting there wide-eyed and said "now THAT was beautiful!" I wish I knew what that was. I can best describe it as a pure energy exchange between the two of us.

My sub and I are usually touching a lot almost like that when we first get back together (we are LD right now and only see each other twice a month). I think that may explain things a bit, it may help our minds connect more, establishing the physical connection that is not sexual or dominating or submitting but knowing. Usually, anything that I am thinking, he verbalizes to me within a few weeks, I think that is what makes my head spin most, hearing my thoughts verbalized by someone else.
Maybe he is right and we are "sole mates" (the spelling is deliberate).

Another thing that I just thought about, it seems the more he submits, the more real I feel. Maybe I am just nuts but I am letting him slide into this role slowly. I think if it went any faster, the power trip would be too much for me.

I do have to say thank you again to everyone for their replies, they have really helped me this weekend.

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