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EmeraldSlave2 -> RE: Freak or Fetish? (2/23/2005 7:33:39 AM)
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ORIGINAL: willing2serve
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And a note: MANY subs and slaves are the worlds biggest control freaks. It can be a fabulous asset to a dom if they know how to use it.
Very interesting statement...Would you care to expound on this?
You did verbalize the meanings of "control freaks" and "control fetishist" quite well..Thank you
Respectfully,
Willing2serve1
Hmmm expound expound...
Many subs and slaves are control freaks. Why on earth else would we want to give all that authority in our loves consciously and willingly to ONE source? We think about control and authority a LOT, we feel it's VERY IMPORTANT. We focus on it, we feel it in our lives and we try and keep it regulated as much as possible.
We LOVE discipline. Where else in relationships would you be fine if you did something 99 times out of 100 right, but got PUNISHED for that one other time? Where else would we find rules and structure, knowing there was a rubric to follow in any sort of situation? How else can we express our control over things so deeply other than in relationships BUILT on structure and rules and consequences directly from our behavior from someone else saying you did "good" or "bad"? Why else get into a relationship built on constantly striving to please someone in JUST the right way? Adapting to their every whim? Why else suffer so much when we are "bad" or disobey? Why else is it SO important to us to FEEL that control, that structure, in every part of our lives? Why else do we work SO hard to demonstrate it- to us, having control over things and making it work the way you want is one of the ultimate expressions of devotion.
We're perfectionists, the ultimate control freak.
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