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QuietlySeeking -> RE: Rethinking my orientation (1/27/2007 7:36:23 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Queenalice
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I don't sport the classic earmarks of a submissive when I am in that state of mind. My pain tollerance is frighteningly low, and shows no sign of getting any better.
Perhaps I should rephrase this. I am not a huge masochist. But I will accept pain from my Mystress if she sees fit to give it. (a rare occasion, and never over the top) I find myself, however going into fits of anger when this happens. For instance, she slapped me across the face at one point, (an approved action on my list) and it caused me to switch, instantly. It wasn't all that painful, but the action of it caused a "How dare you strike me!" type of reaction.
Perhaps the problems lay in the difference between what I want and what I can take.
Thank you again for letting me pick your brains
Just because you reacted that way once or twice doesn't mean anything. I know a switch who reacted the same way when she was being topped and was spit on. Her Dom quickly found himself shuffled out the door, her yellling at the top of her lungs, with barely enough time to get dressed. It was something that triggered an emotional response from her past. Once she dealt with the past experience, she was alright with it in subsequent play-dates with that Dom....
Don't characterize yourself based on particular events....choose based on what you feel inside when she isn't physically in your presence....IMHO, but what do I know...I'm just a Dom. *laughing*
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