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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

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There is no harm in asking.

'Etiquette' will be determined by the recipient. A big part of it is you being prepared for an answer you didn't expect or contrary to what you wanted to hear. Often an "offensive" reply is a response that the recipient doesn't agree. If you take disagreement as hostility or insult it's best not to ask. There is no "best" way or "one" way; but there still should be logic, pragmatism, and experience behind the answer. It also helps to know something about the person or persons perspective. Asking "why" behind the "what" is appropriate if the "why" behind the answer isn't clear to you.

If you're in a relationship nobody you could ask, regardless of the level of on-line "respect" they have obtained can answer you more effectively than your counterpart in the relationship. They should know more subtleties about you, and more of the texture behind the inquiry. Even if the experience level may not be as great as what you perceive from the posters; the direct personal experience with you is much more valuable and is much more likely to relate to you. It is especially sad to see or get requests that ask such things as; "How do I get my master to spank me harder?" or the like. Here's a person you identify as your 'master' implying ownership in an intimate relationship and you expect better answers from someone at the other end of a keyboard instead of someone as close to the other end of a flogger? If there is any example of "bad etiquette" in a relationship I'd love to hear it.

Good luck - ask away - be ready for answers you don't expect.