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losttreasure -> RE: When will they learn? (1/1/2007 8:21:50 PM)
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ORIGINAL: mgdartist
But i didnt ask for another mudslinging character assessment, but in fact specifically requested that be foregone., and for you to explain to me why what im getting at is wrong, or why im wrong. As even tho I feel youre as pompous, condescending, and judgemental a person as ive yet met online, I'd listen to what you said, as you do seem intelligent, so mere mudslinging doesnt look good on you. And if you'd write something i could respect, I'd then not feel you'd just judged and left without invoking your intellect. But you said I had every right to feel as I do, then just indicated that by excercising it, I'd entitled you to be judgemental.
But i guess we're even now, and were i to choose between being alone and a sub of your calibre.....well theres little need to go there.
I don't believe I assessed your character; I gave you my opinion on your behavior in this one particular instance. There was no judgement on your person... I did not declare you to be something like pompous or condescending. I know nothing about your character and have only the vaguest of impressions of you based on your own writings.
I also don't feel that describing your behavior as obstinate, irrational, and even immature constitutes mudslinging. I did not try to discredit you by making malicious charges against you. Less than perfect reactions to a specific issue does not necessarily condemn a person's entire character. Most of the time.
Nevertheless, since you asked me so politely, I'll ellaborate on why I chose those descriptors for the behavior you displayed. I'm afraid that I do not care to dissect your entire conversation and monologue at this time; I hope that you'll find sufficient argumentative fuel in the reasons I do give.
Obstinate: I rather think it is unnecessary to convince you that you were being stubborn; it is fairly clear that throughout your conversation you were completely unyeilding... to the point where you sacrificed a potential relationship, even if only one of friendship. Few principles I would consider grave enough to warrant such action.
Irrational: The sheer fact that you would continue a debate to the lengths that you did is completely illogical considering the gravity with which you apparently hold your principle. A rational conversation for someone holding a belief as strongly as you do, might go something like this:
Sub: How old are you anyway?
Dom: I prefer not to say at this time.
Sub: That's not fair. Tell me.
Dom: I'm sorry... it's my choice and I have my preferences for a reason. If this is something that you cannot accept, then I'm afraid there's no point in further discussion.
Sub: If you're not going to be honest with me, we can't be friends... that's not even fair.
Dom: I do understand and I'm sorry.
No arguing... no trying to justify your position... no allowing the conversation to degenerate into insults. You make your bed, you lie in it... you don't try to go around trying to convince everyone it isn't such a bad bed.
Immature: Yes, childish. As in not typical behavior that one might expect from a man of your age. I'm afraid that this particular opinion might also be colored by the fact that, in addition to feeling it necessary to post this conversation and subsequent challenge, over three months past this incident you are still defying people to prove that you are wrong. This isn't even the first time you've brought this issue to these forums.
Unless you've had more people agreeing with your position than it appears, the mature thing might be to consider that perhaps those who have expressed disapproval have a point.
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