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edana -> RE: How do you feel about Gor? (1/3/2007 10:07:33 PM)

Posted by Leonidas, who never will remember to make sure that his slave wasn't the last one logged in.

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ORIGINAL: RobertCloud

OMG... Where have you been? You have not been reading the news in the last ten years have you?
The incident in Syracuse, NY where a man was found to have an underground bunker and was training women to be sex slaves. He had captured them off the streets. He was a self-proclaimed Gorean Master, and when he was found he was training the kajira in their positions. <snip>


Sorry, this is just plain not true.  I actually followed this case very closely because early on it sounded as if this guy might have been a misguided Gorean.  Gor and Gorean were never associated with him, at all.  If anyone has a credible source to the contrary, I'd love to see it, but again, I followed this case closely end to end, and no association was ever reported.

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There is the self-proclaimed Gorean Master in Arizona that killed three of his slaves because they did not satisfy him anymore and it was his right. They were after all only chattel.


The only case that I know about that is even remotely like this is the SlaveMaster case.  He was the guy who sealed his victims in 55 gallon drums.  I know about this case because one of the women who was killed was a friend of one of my slaves.  If that is the case you're talking about, again, this is just plain false.  SlaveMaster never professed to be Gorean, and was never associated with Goreans.  He did troll online BDSM chatrooms looking for victims.

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There was the incident in England recently where a group was found having converted an underground air-raid shelter into a training ground. They had kidnapped over 25 women and were training them to be kajira. They called themselves the Gorean League of Britain.


Never heard of this one.  Closest I've heard of was the woman who told a friend in the US that she was with some Goreans in England, and wanted to come home, but had burned her passport and return ticket.  The police were called and sent to the location, but could find no evidence of a crime.  No allegation of kidnapping was ever made.  Again, if you have some credible source for this, I'd love to hear it, but if it's like the first story you listed, sorry, but I'm dubious based on your grasp of the facts so far.

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I personally have been contacted by a woman on this site that forces people into financial desitution and then gives them the only way out by forcing them to submit themselves as slaves into their Gorean Group. To prove their devotion to their group they have to perform some sort of initiation. In the case that I was contacted in they were trying to think of a torture to perform on this woman that would force her to then torture her own 14 year old daughter to prove her loyalty.


Bullshit.  Not to put too fine a point on it.  I have been associated with Goreans for nearly 20 years, and I have never run across a group that operates in a fashion even remotely similar to this.  The closest would be some of the earliest biker gangs who claimed to be "Gorean", but that was way before your time, skippy.  I don't know if someone fed you a line of crap, or if you are taking a story and "embelishing" as with the first story you reported, but either way, you are speaking out of some orafice that is not associated with your face now.

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No, you are right, NOT ALL GOREANS force people into collars, but I personally have known some that have, and you can read the papers every so often and find stories like these where others have. And you can NEVER tell me that a CHILD raised in a Gorean family that is raped as a child and brought up into the lifestyle before she is even 10 years of age was given a choice in the matter.


About like you personally know the facts of the Pennsylvania case? 

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I cannot tell you how many of these stories I have heard and of these stories I have heard, yes some are in regular BDSM families, but by far they are outnumbered by families that are Gorean by more than 10 to 1. I even know of one incident where the child was seven and when the police asked her if she knew what a Gorean Bow was, she showed them.


Got any evidence (from someone a little more credible than you, at this point, please) of this?  I'd love to see it.  Educate me.

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The Gorean Bow is NOT EVEN IN THE BOOKS. It is strictly a sexual use position created by online players and is nothing but a perversion of what the books offered.


Marauders of Gor, page 261.  Any other wild assertions you'd like to make while you're at it?

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These are some of the reasons I left Gor. The worst part about it is that though Goreans will say they are not BDSM and BDSMers will say that Goreans are not BDSM... the outside world sees them as the same thing. So whenever a Gorean does one of these Monstrous things it makes the whole BDSM lifestyle look as bad, and BDSM had nothing to do with it. If Gor is NOT BDSM then leave the BDSM boards and find your own... or admit you are a subbranch of BDSM and get over it.


I'd be willing to wager at this point that the reason you "left Gor" is that you have trouble stringing two true statements together, and you wore out your welcome pretty fast.  So, now you're here to spread the gospel according to Robert.  Nice.

To the Regulars of the Ask a Mistress Section: Sorry to barge into your section again, but this one was just a little too egregious to let pass without comment.  I hope that this guy's post, and my reply, don't derail your thread.




BDSM05478 -> RE: How do you feel about Gor? (1/3/2007 10:08:13 PM)

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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

Edited to add: It's a book. Why don't you go interview those who actually have been forced into sexual slavery? It's happening now in other countries and I'm sure there are plenty of horror stories to go around.


It happens here in the US too right under your nose in almost every major city.




SweetDommes -> RE: How do you feel about Gor? (1/3/2007 10:08:36 PM)

I believe that you are misunderstanding benji.

His point, I believe, is that while the books you mentioned may draw someone into the lifestyle, it isn't something that they base their lifestyle on (usually).  Goreans, however, base their lifestyle on the books that drew them into the lifestyle.




edana -> RE: How do you feel about Gor? (1/3/2007 10:08:38 PM)

ooops.




gooddogbenji -> RE: How do you feel about Gor? (1/3/2007 10:10:44 PM)

To repeat (I really should get a sub to do my repeating for me) these books are not the basis of the lifestyle.  Some may choose to base their lives around a work of fiction, but the majority of the lifestyle ploughs its own course.

As to Old Guard, any group of people on a somewhat common base will develop an elitist group that claims knowledge of old traditions.  Old Guard is a disputed thing at best, and even the people in it rarely expect others to follow their protocoll (unless at their events, where house rules apply).

And about those notes, any real Gorean Master would know which cliff it is - but to give you a hint, it is a bad sea beyond.  Sailor beware.

Yours,


benji




Nosathro -> RE: How do you feel about Gor? (1/3/2007 10:19:44 PM)

benji
 
There is only one sea on Gor.  And I happen to know some Old Guards...we are friends. 
 
Oh you know there are some 230 posts...it that some sort of record?
 
I wish you well
 
Nosathro




Nosathro -> RE: How do you feel about Gor? (1/3/2007 10:27:24 PM)

Okay...
 
So someone who reads some of de Sade works on the sexual gratification one get when he ties a woman up and whips her has nothing to do with the BDSM Lifestyle...okay..for some reason that does make sense.[&:]
 
I wish you well
 
Nosathro
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ORIGINAL: SweetDommes

I believe that you are misunderstanding benji.

His point, I believe, is that while the books you mentioned may draw someone into the lifestyle, it isn't something that they base their lifestyle on (usually).  Goreans, however, base their lifestyle on the books that drew them into the lifestyle.




Lorelei115 -> RE: How do you feel about Gor? (1/3/2007 10:32:18 PM)

If someone were to take the collected works of de Sade and base a lifestyle around that and nothing but that then yes, it would be the same thing. But you don't often see that in BDSM. Its more often a lifestyle taken from a wide range of many sources.

By the way, if someone were to take the collected works of de Sade and base a lifestyle around them, they would probably be arrested. One could only hope they were arrested before it went too far...




SweetDommes -> RE: How do you feel about Gor? (1/3/2007 10:33:51 PM)

Once again, the point ISN'T that it has nothing to do with BDSM - but that most of the people who are drawn into the lifestyle by his (De Sade's) works don't base their lifestyle entirely on his writing.  As benji already said - it's life imitating art vs art imitating life.




ADomDoc -> RE: How do you feel about Gor? (1/3/2007 10:44:33 PM)

Acting as if Gor were a real place is just plain silly; right up there with the Ministry of Silly Walks!  So are Star Wars conventions & Furries.  But there is nothing innately harmful in being a fan of something.

For me the film version of Mailer's book 'Quiet Days in Clichy' w/ music by Country Joe was more edifying ... but I didn't adopt it as a lifestyle after I saw the movie.  I have to admit, I did wear a coonskin cap when I was 7 yrs old & watched Davy Crockett played by Fess Parker ... but I grew out of that.

45 yrs ago I managed to read up thru at least part of #10 but it became obvious that John Norman had run out of plots & ideas ... and yet he kept writing!  (In those days there were few books that went into BdSm other than the Marquis or Anaïs Nin & they were first banned, and then hard to find.)

Norman's books are the equivalent of Romance Novels for submissives and has about as much relevance to reality as romance novels have to real life.  It is mindless entertainment, just as romance novels are. 

BUT for those who have a dearth of functional interpersonal relationship experiences & a feeble scene imagination of their own, it seems to form the basis of one branch of BdSm that supplements their structure & rules.

I've seen a few comments that compare Gorean to Old Guard, and that's a valid comparison.  Both stand on rigid rituals established by someone else.   As far as I'm concerned, to each his own, there's nothing wrong w/ stealing a play idea from someone else. 

But for myself, I have an imagination up to the challenge of negotiating a unique relationship, unique house rules & unique play with each of my subs or slaves.  I shy away from subs/slaves who are seeking Gorean just because it shows they have a rigid mentality and I prefer a more agile mind open to new experiences ... rather than one stuck in fetishes & rituals.  Again ... to each his own. 








gooddogbenji -> RE: How do you feel about Gor? (1/3/2007 10:47:50 PM)

Actually, at this point it's more like pulling fingernails.

Nosathro, I know a few people who debate like you -  when in doubt, stop listening and keep repeating the same thing.  I tend to avoid debates with them.

Also, while generalizations are wrong, just remember that many people see any Gorean's actions and assume all Gorean's are like that.  Remember that when you post here, before wondering why Goreans have such a bad reputation.

I have made my points, and others have clarified them.  Feel free to respond.

Yours,


benji




SweetDommes -> RE: How do you feel about Gor? (1/3/2007 10:50:25 PM)

I'm with you, benji - although I liken it to pounding my head against the wall.  Since I have no need for brain damage, I believe I'll stop now and let him think that he's won.




gooddogbenji -> RE: How do you feel about Gor? (1/3/2007 10:51:40 PM)

Yeah, you wouldn't want to end up Gorean....

Sorry, that was cheap.  But funny.

IMHO.

Yours,


benji




Leonidas -> RE: How do you feel about Gor? (1/3/2007 10:57:34 PM)

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45 yrs ago I managed to read up thru at least part of #10 but it became obvious that John Norman had run out of plots & ideas ... and yet he kept writing!  (In those days there were few books that went into BdSm other than the Marquis or Anaïs Nin & they were first banned, and then hard to find.)


Sorry, fact police here again.  45 years ago (1961), was six years before the first book would be published.  The tenth book wouldn't be published until 1976.  30 years ago maybe?

To the Goreans posting here:  Folks, you need to look at where you are, and realize that you're not going to do any good here.  The OP asked how the Dommes here viewed Gor and Goreans.  It's perfectly valid for them to state all the reasons why they don't like us, think we're wierd, bad, misguided, deluded, sexist, or even that they think we cause global warming, if they want to.  Unless you see something grossly innacurate being posted, as with the above, I'd suggest you just let them have their thread.  If you do see something factually false (as opposed to someone's opinion that you disagree with) correct it as succinctly and informatively as you can, if you feel you must.




gooddogbenji -> RE: How do you feel about Gor? (1/3/2007 11:12:24 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Leonidas

Sorry, fact police here again.  45 years ago (1961), was six years before the first book would be published.  The tenth book wouldn't be published until 1976.  30 years ago maybe?



Actually, I believe, if http://www.mslit.com/details.asp?bookid=FW00000761 is to be trusted, that it was published in 1966, or 5 years later.  To be precise, January, so not even 5 1/2 years later.

It doesn't make anything more valid, just kinda bursts your bubble though.

Yours,


benji




Lorelei115 -> RE: How do you feel about Gor? (1/3/2007 11:30:08 PM)

Granted, that may be what the OP asked, but I think this thread has evolved a ways beyond that. I think counselling Goreans to "keep to themselves, these here folks just don't understand us, so let them have their opinions" is wrong. Its true that a lot of people here may have negative opinions of Goreans, but how are we supposed to learn any better if none of you will talk about it? I've already learned a lot from this thread and the Goreans who have posted here and some of it has upped my opinion of you folks considerably. I have to admit, if it were not for this thread there are probably many things I would never have known about Gor, because I am uncomfortable in socializing on the Gorean boards. Granted, perhaps this thread would be better in a more neutral territory such as General Discussions or something, but I honestly have to congratulate the fortitude of those who have taken themselves OUT of the Gorean boards in an attempt to help outsiders understand them better.

People fear what they don't understand, and hate what they fear. I don't think keeping yourselves isolated in the Gorean boards will help your cause. I think the only thing that will help is calm, reasoning discussion. Yes, you may feel as though you are flamed or attacked, but I think you should remember that most of that comes out of a misunderstanding of who you are and what you stand for. Instead of responding in kind, use the last resort. A very quiet, reasonable voice, and acceptance of the fact that we all have views and beliefs that we hold near and dear, and all are worthy of respect.





MmakeMme -> RE: How do you feel about Gor? (1/4/2007 12:07:57 AM)

Lorelei, thank you for your post, although I do believe the Goreans who have posted have, for the most part, remained calm and have spoken their truths quietly and clearly. Both sides have remained neutral-ish, although there have been some inaccurate generalizations.

It wasn't too long ago that I defended "this side" saying they (the Goreans) were misunderstanding what they "perceived" to be inciteful behavior, but after watching for a time, I saw I'd overlooked some things. While Gor may not be everyone's cup of tea, I cannot figure out why there is such massive railing against them.

Have very  many BDSMers bothered to read the Gorean board? I didn't for a time because I had no idea what it was. My Sir gave me a task to learn more about Gor so that I could have a better understanding about my own submission. I did as He asked and wound up with a great appreciation for Goreans. They are most honorable, usually polite to a fault, and have definite ideas about gender roles. It's not for everyone and they aren't out "recruiting". ~shrug~ (Kinda reminds me of the hetero / homo war of a couple decades ago - heteros were afraid they were going to be recruited to a lifestyle in which they did not fit. Anyone remember the Reagan years? It still kinda goes on today although on a much less heated / hateful level.)

As a woman who was brought up in a society that told me I had to act dom to get ahead, I acted dom to get ahead. No one is taking my accomplishments away from me. Gor doesn't threaten who I am or what I do. In fact, it is quite the opposite. I think it's a lovely way to live for those who espouse that particular lifestyle, and it was very difficult for me to understand why there were such impassioned opinions against it ... until Lorelei posted what she did about fearing what one doesn't understand and hating what one fears.

There may never be an conclusion to this debate. Hopefully, though, there will be other Sirs who are wise enough to have their subs do open-minded research into new territory. Understanding promotes peace.




Vendaval -> RE: How do you feel about Gor? (1/4/2007 1:23:16 AM)

I have read several of the Gor books in the past and am
re-reading them in sequence now.  The ideals of honor
and responsibility appeal to me.  The various books
describe different cultures on Gor; some based on
feudal socieities, some nomadic, others are city-states.
There are obvious parallels with certain Earth cultures
and specific Gorean cultures, practices and traditions.
 
Not all of the philosophy is to my liking and yes,
Mr. Norman can be terribly pendantic.  lol
 
As to the Gorean Lifestyle folks, most of them
here on CM are polite and respectful about answering
questions and explaining the finer points of their
traditions.
 

Peace,
 
 
Vendaval


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ORIGINAL: KaramelGoddess

How do you Ladies feel about the fictitious planet of Gor where women are considered less than men, and submissive men are considered less than nothing?
 

~Kara




UtopianRanger -> RE: How do you feel about Gor? (1/4/2007 1:37:57 AM)

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ORIGINAL: KaramelGoddess

This may have been asked before...
 
How do you Ladies feel about the fictitious planet of Gor where women are considered less than men, and submissive men are considered less than nothing?
 



Hmmm......

Well....I'm not a lady but after watching Nicolas Cage be tricked and then burned alive in ''The Wicker Man'', I have both a healthy and new-found respect for the Goreans.




- R




AlwaysLisa -> RE: How do you feel about Gor? (1/4/2007 6:14:44 AM)

Thank you Leonidas,

You addressed the one post I was concerned with, the facts didn't add up.

Bowing out now....
Lisa

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To the Goreans posting here:  Folks, you need to look at where you are, and realize that you're not going to do any good here.  The OP asked how the Dommes here viewed Gor and Goreans.  It's perfectly valid for them to state all the reasons why they don't like us, think we're wierd, bad, misguided, deluded, sexist, or even that they think we cause global warming, if they want to.  Unless you see something grossly innacurate being posted, as with the above, I'd suggest you just let them have their thread.  If you do see something factually false (as opposed to someone's opinion that you disagree with) correct it as succinctly and informatively as you can, if you feel you must.




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