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Online restrictions - 1/2/2007 5:27:44 PM   
jthorne


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Joined: 10/18/2006
Status: offline 		Hello all.

I currently am providing a lovely sub with some restrictions that she likes. However, she feels like maybe I give her too much say, and that perhaps I am not restricting her enough. Currently I have set limits on how she interacts with people online, most specifically CM. Things like the font to use, how to properly address dominants, required emails to me, permission needed to speak with male dominants, and so on and so forth. There are only about six at this time, as I don't want to make unrealistic demands given this is just online.

I was wondering if some ideas could be tossed at me for further gentle restriction. We are exploring her limits as she is new to all of this, and she is open to anything as long as she's within her comfort zone.

What do you do for simple online restriction/rules, or if you're a sub reading this, what does your dom/me do along these lines?
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RE: Online restrictions - 1/2/2007 5:42:53 PM   
shadevarr


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Status: offline 		There is a wealth of things, but the most important is to mold the sub to fit you. Some of the things that I do is restict them to using proper english when talking with me, not allowing them to use maybe as an an answer to my questions. Those are the things that I am aware that I do...I am sure there are a lot more that just happen subconciously.

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RE: Online restrictions - 1/2/2007 5:52:42 PM   
MmakeMme


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Status: offline 		Online, my Sir asks that I report to Him conversations I have with other Doms and that I write in my journal daily. Sometimes He dictates what is to be in my journal and other times He lets me choose.

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RE: Online restrictions - 1/2/2007 6:24:48 PM   
jthorne


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ORIGINAL: shadevarr

There is a wealth of things, but the most important is to mold the sub to fit you. Some of the things that I do is restict them to using proper english when talking with me, not allowing them to use maybe as an an answer to my questions. Those are the things that I am aware that I do...I am sure there are a lot more that just happen subconciously.


Shade, I require her to use proper English and to spellcheck...although she has said she likes the pronoun capitalization play, so I'm requiring her to use that (she can't capitalize her name or I, she must capitalize dominants' names and pronouns, you know the standard stuff). I think I may follow you and say "maybe" and "ok" are not acceptable answers to me by themselves.

I know when I next talk to her I'm requiring her to get familiar with IRC protocol...we had an accident with that earlier today but luckily everyone was understanding.

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RE: Online restrictions - 1/2/2007 6:28:34 PM   
jthorne


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ORIGINAL: MmakeMme

Online, my Sir asks that I report to Him conversations I have with other Doms and that I write in my journal daily. Sometimes He dictates what is to be in my journal and other times He lets me choose.



When you say he dictates what is to be in your journal, what do you mean by that? He tells you what to say, or he tells you what to talk about, or something else?

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RE: Online restrictions - 1/2/2007 7:23:05 PM   
LadyJulieAnn


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Status: offline 		When I had an online sub, I would require that he assume particular positions when he chatted with me (on his knees, ankles tied to the chair, etc.).  He also had tasks to do like essays, voice messages to my specifications, and taking pictures of himself completing tasks I ordered.  There are a number of creative things you can do with a sub online.

Be well,
Julie

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RE: Online restrictions - 1/2/2007 7:45:29 PM   
sunnydays


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Status: offline 		nice to see everyone not boohooing online relationships.. i think they can be a very good learning curve adn very informative

sunny

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RE: Online restrictions - 1/2/2007 7:54:28 PM   
jthorne


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ORIGINAL: sunnydays

nice to see everyone not boohooing online relationships.. i think they can be a very good learning curve adn very informative

sunny


That's precisely what it is, sunny. She and I are both learning and growing. We are not romantically involved, I'm just helping her test the D/s waters while working on my own skills. Such things don't have to be done r/t or in person, is my opinion!

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RE: Online restrictions - 1/2/2007 8:40:17 PM   
crouchingtigress


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Status: offline 		hi jthorn...
 
i used to punish a sub i was in a LTR with by making him capitalize every  word when he was in need of correction...it is unbelievably hard...and oh how he did suffer....
 
as far as just keeping the leash tight i would say that you have a lot of great micromanaging ideas already....one think i liked was to pick an innocuous word such as like....and when anyone used it in the forum the sub was in with out me...he had to do three kagles....keeps her focused and keeps you in thier mind and body...even when yo are not there..
 
 

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RE: Online restrictions - 1/2/2007 8:43:30 PM   
MzMia


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ORIGINAL: sunnydays

nice to see everyone not boohooing online relationships.. i think they can be a very good learning curve adn very informative
sunny


^5, you have to start somewhere and online can lead to offline.

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RE: Online restrictions - 1/2/2007 9:17:38 PM   
jthorne


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ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress

hi jthorn...

i used to punish a sub i was in a LTR with by making him capitalize every word when he was in need of correction...it is unbelievably hard...and oh how he did suffer....

as far as just keeping the leash tight i would say that you have a lot of great micromanaging ideas already....one think i liked was to pick an innocuous word such as like....and when anyone used it in the forum the sub was in with out me...he had to do three kagles....keeps her focused and keeps you in thier mind and body...even when yo are not there..




Tigress, that is a WONDERFUL idea. I'll have to adapt that, once I can get her interacting in CM chatrooms! Thank you!

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RE: Online restrictions - 1/2/2007 9:23:46 PM   
DiurnalVampire


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Status: offline 		I know Angel is allowed to speak to anyone he wants, however I have his password and I can spotcheck his account if I so choose.  I never do, I dont worry that he is doing anything he shouldnt, but it makes sure he stays that way.
If he does get email from a dominant, he has to ask permission to respond (which seems to be the standard) and he tends to tell me about every conversation they have.
On messenger, he has to check in with me every time he logs on, whether it be with me online or off.  He leaves me a message to let me knew he was on.

DV

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RE: Online restrictions - 1/2/2007 9:34:54 PM   
GoreanGuy


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Status: offline 		Mine has only 1 restriction, we have discussed it and we both understand both our positions on the matter. she refuses to be used by any one except for Me, whereas a slave of Gor could be used by anyone in the books provided the right circumstances     

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RE: Online restrictions - 1/2/2007 9:38:51 PM   
jthorne


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ORIGINAL: GoreanGuy

Mine has only 1 restriction, we have discussed it and we both understand both our positions on the matter. she refuses to be used by any one except for Me, whereas a slave of Gor could be used by anyone in the books provided the right circumstances


Thank you, but that really isn't relevant to the topic at hand. We're discussing online restrictions and forms of simple control, not sexual restrictions and Gor. I am nowhere near that deep with her nor wish to be at this time.

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RE: Online restrictions - 1/2/2007 9:43:02 PM   
jthorne


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ORIGINAL: DiurnalVampire

I know Angel is allowed to speak to anyone he wants, however I have his password and I can spotcheck his account if I so choose. I never do, I dont worry that he is doing anything he shouldnt, but it makes sure he stays that way.
If he does get email from a dominant, he has to ask permission to respond (which seems to be the standard) and he tends to tell me about every conversation they have.
On messenger, he has to check in with me every time he logs on, whether it be with me online or off. He leaves me a message to let me knew he was on.

DV


The restriction on male dominants (it is actually that they ask me first if they may speak with her) is for her online safety. I have delineated other things such as no giving out her real email or her first name on this site unless I say she can. I want her to speak and connect with others, but not indiscriminately. Also by restricting that certain contact, I hope to cut down on some of the more...inappropriate...CM mails she receives as a female submissive. I wouldn't want to have access to her CM account at this time...I've placed my trust in her and she knows that's a gift.

I like your idea about checking in, DV. Think I'll implement it. Thank you very much!

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