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how do you introduce properly - 1/3/2007 9:02:33 PM   
altruisticsub64


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Status: offline 		how do I properly introduce my self to a real time mistress
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RE: how do you introduce properly - 1/3/2007 9:09:47 PM   
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Status: offline 		"Hi, I'm (insert your name here)."

You're making things too hard!

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RE: how do you introduce properly - 1/3/2007 9:30:04 PM   
pixelslave


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Status: offline 		If you mean here on CM, try starting by reading her entire profile and journal.  Then write to her asking a question or two about her interests (vanilla ones) that the two of you have in common.  Also be sure to follow any specific instructions that she had buried someplace in her profile.  If you don't meet her "specifications" don't waste your or her time.  Otherwise, just be polite and treat her as any other woman.  Don't call her Mistress, act like a worm, crawl on your knees, etc.  Instead, be a man who is courting a woman he'd like to get to know!  Once she responds, be sure to let her set the pace and do your best to patient and not to be too pushy.  Flirting is always a nice thing to do as remember, she's still a woman who likes to be courted and reminded that she's attractive!
 
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RE: how do you introduce properly - 1/3/2007 9:32:22 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam

"Hi, I'm (insert your name here)."

You're making things too hard!

Master Fire



Yanno, it's not that simple.  Sometimes they kind of mumble their own name, and you have to ask for clarification.

Such are the challenges of the real life sub.......

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RE: how do you introduce properly - 1/3/2007 9:48:03 PM   
SweetDommes


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I agree with what he wrote, but I'll add in to check and see if they have any postings on this side of the site - those can give you a lot of insight into what the person in question is really like.

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RE: how do you introduce properly - 1/3/2007 9:59:56 PM   
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Status: offline 		You must always introduce in abnormal fashion,using twisted words so that your opposite does not ignore you at once.You must describe yourself perfectly as what you are?Then you must speak about some mutual interests.During the process be patient,cool & never show any kind of eagarness.Compare yourself with her profile & stress on best points which suit her.That is very important.

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RE: how do you introduce properly - 1/3/2007 10:03:08 PM   
gooddogbenji


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quote:

ORIGINAL: letmecollaryou

You must always introduce in abnormal fashion,using twisted words so that your opposite does not ignore you at once.You must describe yourself perfectly as what you are?Then you must speak about some mutual interests.During the process be patient,cool & never show any kind of eagarness.Compare yourself with her profile & stress on best points which suit her.That is very important.


Not sure if this is facetious or not..... 

Any help?

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RE: how do you introduce properly - 1/4/2007 6:14:44 AM   
thetammyjo


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Status: offline 		Do you mean in a face-to-face meeting at a munch or club or worshop?

Do you mean online?

In both cases just say what MasterFireMaam says to start, hold out your right hand for a handshake if face-to-face, and then say briefly why you are saying hello. A post you read online, her smile in her photography, the way she attracted a mini-crowd around her at a munch, you heard positive things about her from others, etc.

My thought is that this added on part will be the trickiest because just saying "I saw you were a dom" is very overdone and shows no interest in her but only in her role that she shares with a good portion of those on this board.

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RE: how do you introduce properly - 1/4/2007 7:06:59 AM   
pinkkeith


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Status: offline 		I think Pixel summed it up nicely. There are no written rules of how to address a dominant; they are all different and have different tastes. When I go to a munch, I don't address as sir or ma'am or what not, but by their name. I've never run into anyone that wanted me to call them anything differently then their name when first meeting them. Just treat dominants (male and female) like any other human being.

< Message edited by pinkkeith -- 1/4/2007 7:26:46 AM >

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RE: how do you introduce properly - 1/4/2007 7:18:37 AM   
gooddogbenji


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Status: offline 		Dominates and dominants both, really.

Yours,


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RE: how do you introduce properly - 1/4/2007 8:35:26 PM   
undergroundsea


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Status: offline 		I have been thinking of trying a new approach. I am settling on this one.

Comes now before you this 4th day of January, the year 2007 this humble man named Sea. Prays he you will grant him the honor of an introduction. And he further prays that you will dismiss the speeding ticket.

Cheers,

Sea

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