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RobertCloud -> RE: Breaking the Ice (1/5/2007 12:59:25 AM)
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#1. Read the entire profile. Not just the part on the main page but open up and look at all the likes and dislikes and make certain that they are even looking for something other than just a friend or anything at all.
#2. Read their journal if they have one.
#3. I usually ignore the photo. Sometimes the photo is old, sometimes it is not even them. Sometimes it is used to scare some off, other times it is used to try to lure people in.
#4. If the profile mentions in it that they are from the US or United States, they probably are not. Most people in the US will not say that.
#5. If the weight is listed, do a height weight ratio, if they say they weigh 78 pounds and are 6'-1, they probably are not from the US either, and are using Kilos. You are likely in for a scam.
#6. When you do write your email do not write a one liner, be personal, but honest, direct. Make some comment to show you read their email and journal, and show something about you that is not in your profile or journal.
Above all, do not show hesitancy, or worry about whether they will contact you back or not.
Personally, once I email someone (when I was looking, I am not anymore) I then hit the Hide Button. That kept me from accidentally emailing them a second time if they did not respond to my email. Most do not like to be bothered multiple times. If they do not respond it is best to let it go. If they do respond you can open their profile and unhide them and place them in your favorites. Or at least read the message to see if it is favorable first.
Do not count on even a favorable reply meaning that it will last more than a few emails. Most of the people here are getting tons of emails and even if they are sending you a favorable email they are likely talking to several that they are favorable to as well. This could be a long process before you find one that will want to talk to you exclusively, but don't give up hope. For I have known many that have succeeded and have met here or on other sites similar to this and made wonderful lives together.
Just, in most cases it is up to the Dominant to make the first move.
One of my best relationships even happened when I had emailed someone and then unsent the email. The lady emailed me to ask why I had unsent it and we got to exchanging emails. Even though the relationship lasted only six months we are still friends over two years later and very good friends. So if nothing else you will gain some remarkable friends.
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