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marieToo -> RE: What Makes A Good Post? (1/4/2007 9:02:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mgdartist quote: I don't understand.... Why is there a "pity" if "this doesnt matter--any of it"? no, it's readily apparent. If youre a forum regular, and take offense at something said, it's doubtful youll quit the forums, and I'll likely see your response the following read. A brand new user however, who comes in asking a dumb question. or even making an outlandish statement is given no quarter, and made to regret their mistakes in a most denigrating way by what I've come to know as the "cm welcome team", who seem always on the alert for the vanilla cone, and then see to it they are trifled with, sniggered at, then dispatched, as often as not. just like I doubt I needed to explain that, and you knew my intent only too well marieToo. sweet of you, but bait me again, we dance. MGD Nah, I wasnt trying to bait you. I almost agreed with most of what you said, then it seemed as your post came to a close that it had contradicted your previous comments. I don't think my question was rude. I was genuinely confused by your seeming contradiction, but interested enough to want to understand. "Bait", from me, would have been far more provocative, so as not to leave any question in your mind. And I can't recall a time that I said anything else to you that could be classified as 'bait'. In fact, I dont recall much interaction with you at all, save maybe for the "truth" thread and maybe another time when I complimented one of your porn flicks. To comment on your response, I guess I'm a "forum regular" by now, though not the cliquey type. And I regularly get my ass kicked around here. So, I'm not so sure that it's newcomers only, or just people who are less concerned with sugar-coating their words. I've seen alot of newcomers get a warm welcome, but as you've mentioned I've also seen them get reemed out uneccessarily; I was one of them when I first showed up. I have no desire to recount the instance in details, but a couple of regulars tried to put me through the wringer on a particular issue that we didn't agree on. They failed miserably of course, and each talk to me now with respect, but I think where people feel united as a group, there may be a sense or a need to 'initiate' newcomers. I dont agree with it, but to some extent I think it's human nature. Again, I would say there are also alot of very warm and welcoming people here too. Thanks for your response.

cacodylic -> RE: What Makes A Good Post? (1/4/2007 9:12:25 PM)
What Makes A Good Post? black walnut, black locust, redwood, ....

mgdartist -> RE: What Makes A Good Post? (1/5/2007 12:50:00 AM)
MarieToo bah, I'm sorry. I think I knew better and that I could have well misread you when I hit post button. apologies. Initiate huh? get tough or be abused. If youre not havin a good go of it on the other side, and come here for a little sympathy or understanding, guess you arent gonna get it. Maybe you don't deserve it. What threw me was, I'd been long no stranger to the lifestyle, but hust hadnt the full knowledge of all the jargon and intense labelling and codification used. It gets pretty complicated, and theres a lot to just be absorbed concept-wise. But that's really not the worst of it, as truth is, for the first time in my life, I'm almost ashamed to say I'm a Dominant, and until I came here, was intensely proud and confident in it. My former state is slowly returning as I'll not be anything but better by fire. But intil it does, I guess in many ways, It just pisses me off that in this lifestyle, which lives and breathes on trust, so little is to be found here, and that we all, being so very much akin in our needs and deviances, enjoy so very little unity and kinship.. Marie, given what I wrote, you're reply was very sweet and kind I admire that. MGD

patina -> RE: What Makes A Good Post? (1/5/2007 7:46:32 AM)
i second your post, there are some who think they are the know all of this site . I have found this to happen on all sites which have forums. They are the "older females " who like the desire to control. This is not age issue but amount of time on this site. It is like the click of the snobby twits in Jr. High Schol. They are the daughters of the School Bd., are on the cheerleading squad, date the football quarterbacks, given most of their grades by teachers, they are bullies to other classmates but the darlings to the public. Just like the Texas Fab 5. I have been blasted several times by them and will be so again as i am independent strongwilled and have a big mouth. I voice my opinion, if I am wrong I will apologize. If not I just ignore those who tell me so, as I count my opinion of myself more than theirs. I usually get a lot of private emails telling me I was right in what I said. People are too afraid to go against them. They like to make jokes about it but maybe its time they took a long hard look at themselves. The moderators sure don't. Patina

marieToo -> RE: What Makes A Good Post? (1/5/2007 1:48:29 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mgdartist MarieToo bah, I'm sorry. Don't be. I like your fire. quote: Initiate huh? get tough or be abused. If youre not havin a good go of it on the other side, and come here for a little sympathy or understanding, guess you arent gonna get it. Maybe you don't deserve it. It's just a theory, but something I have seen time and time again amongst groups, online and rl, but moreso online. Especially in the aol chatrooms. There is a wolfpack mentality amongst people who feel the need to 'belong'. And I have seen newcomers in those rooms get torn to shreds for no good reason. You have a bunch of weaklings who have no control over their real lives who can hide behind a screen with a bunch of other people who don't 'belong' anywhere and tear down others in order to make themselves feel empowered. Happy people do not behave that way; therein lies the "pity", in my book. It brings no shame to the newcomer, but to those who are behaving in an ugly way. I think a bit of that exists here as well; though not to the extreme that I've seen it in the chatrooms. I also think alot of conflict issues on the boards can be attributed to the fact that people need validation, and when they see someone come along and say something that "hits home" or touches a sensitive spot (even if inadvertantly) a person will go apeshit on someone who really didn't mean to effect that response in them. Then the 'sidetakers' jump in and it really turns into quite a brawl and destroys a good topic. I think its ok to offer a supportive word to someone we care about, but I think we discredit our friends when we don't have the confidence in them to be able to hold their own in a debate. On a positive note, I've also seen many people here, take the time to post to people who are hurting. People who have absolutely nothing to gain who will sit here and write out a post to someone offering them moral support and a shoulder to cry on. When I see that, it restores my faith in humanity and makes me look at myself to see if I'm up to that bar. Some "stranger" a million miles away whose effort and words have a positive affect on a person that they'll never meet or know or see. I find that profound, yet it has nothing to do with our 'common preference'. quote: I guess in many ways, It just pisses me off that in this lifestyle, which lives and breathes on trust, so little is to be found here, and that we all, being so very much akin in our needs and deviances, enjoy so very little unity and kinship.. I think we all have something in common, but to me it's basic and general. We really would feel no more united than we do with any other group that we participate in. The fact that Im chit-chatting with a bunch of people who understand my perviness is a good conductor of general understanding for alot of topics, but it really doesn't bond me tighter with any of them than any other commonality would. I mean, to some extent I understand your point, but I don't think that it's a given that we should stand any more united than any other people simply because we share ONE thing in common. As a group, we have different moral cores or codes of ethics. Practicing Ds doesn't automatically make us a more pure group than any other would be. In other words, beyond the DS commonality we are as diversified as any other group or 'type' of people would be. That's just my take on it. quote: Marie, given what I wrote, you're reply was very sweet and kind I admire that. Thank you. On another day I probably would've been a shithead about it, so don't hold me to that 'sweet and kind' thing. :)

mgdartist -> RE: What Makes A Good Post? (1/6/2007 2:46:40 AM)
MarieToo perhaps too idealistic, i want so much to disagree with your last paragraph regarding unity. Not to get paranoid, but with these political winds, we could easily be assaulted by new laws, and statutes, and our own unity could one day be sorely tested. We have always borne a stigma, and I have fought it elsewhere, and our solidarity should be evident to those who may peer inside our world in disgust. They are out there, believe me. I also firmly restate, that compared to them, we are not so very divergent, and tho we may wish to show our uniqueness, are we really, among ourselves? I'm further continually baffled by this firm focus on "matching" and ever so specific chemistry, as I've learned a wide spectrum of sub-types I could easily enjoy. Sure a nice painslut could afford some feiry release, and wildly ecsessive indulgence, but a sweet, soft, sensitive natural submissive, I know I could also so cherish as emotional and deep as they can be, You can just look long in their eyes, knowing there is no need to hurt them, as they are there for YOU-and begin to understand there is something...so high minded you'll shiver, and as her devotion takes root in your mind, you wonder how those outside D/s, can even call what they get love. Were I to go on, you'd soon see that each is as a canvas, distinct in form, which I must create upon. all different, all singular, and all approved of, simply because they are that general traitholder i seek. Some are so rare and needing the aquired taste, I've become fearful of too many "live fors" and "loves" in my profile, fearing they'll think anything there is required. Just being a submissive...and who she is...She could NOT be anything but worthwhile. make any sense? MGD

ElectraGlide -> RE: What Makes A Good Post? (1/6/2007 10:31:19 AM)
A good post is one that does not get blasted by cheap shots by the peanut gallery. You will hear that post has been done a thousand times. If you try to come up with an original obscure off the wall post, it will not be taken serious, than the cannon will be pointed at you. Then you become the target of the post.

Real0ne -> RE: What Makes A Good Post? (1/6/2007 12:15:29 PM)
On this forum? Any topic where opinions do not matter. Any topic people can express themselves Any topic that requires no research. Any topic that intellectuals can intellectualize Any topic where a good bicker fest can thrive Any topic that does not require extensive knowledge and or experience in physics or engineering and science Any topic where people do not fear government reprisal Mostly mundane stuff that bores me to tears with a few exceptions of course

WyrdRich -> RE: What Makes A Good Post? (1/6/2007 9:13:14 PM)
Fast Reply I like a good roll in the mud. I like when people spout platitudes or claim some moral high ground in one thread that is completely contradicted by their behavior in others. I like it when people post drunk. I love it when people who don't open the blinds in their little room, much less go outside, assume their opinions represent popular thought. I love it when people who have never actually done something for real proclaim their expertise. I always smile at those who are capable of turning ANY topic into a rant on their pet peeve. (And just for the record, I do not have any specific person/s in mind with the above statements).

TemptingNviceSub -> RE: What Makes A Good Post? (1/6/2007 9:53:07 PM)
A good post is one where the OP really is sincere within their question, not simply a way to ruffle feathers and laugh behind their monitor screens..A good post is one where it makes me go.."I never thought of it that way"....A good post to me is where I get a glimpse of that "person" and can relate to what they say...as to what Marie says about initian by fire.....possibly...but if you think about it ...does not life in general give us many tests that we go through?So hence testing wether good or bad still may stop us in our tracks for the moment to possibly see something with new eyes...Tempting

Lorelei115 -> RE: What Makes A Good Post? (1/6/2007 10:20:34 PM)
Fast Reply To me a good post is either A) entertaining or B) informative. Entertaining can include anything from witty humor to word games to pissing matches, and informative can include anything from hard facts to philosophies to insights into another's life.

Sinergy -> RE: What Makes A Good Post? (1/7/2007 7:41:21 PM)
Two words Duct tape. Sinergy p.s. "Duct Tape" is two words.

OedipusRexIt -> RE: What Makes A Good Post? (1/8/2007 8:48:54 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: cacodylic What Makes A Good Post? black walnut, black locust, redwood, .... I thought this was quite humorous.... not to mention a good answer! I would speculate that redwood would be a little too splintery, unless your post needed to be located outside in the weather. Nice juxtaposition of meaning. Witty, that.

mgdartist -> RE: What Makes A Good Post? (1/9/2007 2:12:04 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Sinergy Two words Duct tape. Sinergy p.s. "Duct Tape" is two words. Not sure where you got that, but we used to have a different take on it, and always shortened it to "2w" when needing to say it to each other. It goes like this: "2w" "huh? "2w" "whats 2w?" "2w = 2 words" "dillhole, wtf you tryin to say..what 2 words?" "two words = you suck" so when i say "2w" to you, go ahead and be offended, although I've known several submissives who took it as a high compliment. lol MGD

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