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To come to terms. - 1/5/2007 9:29:25 AM

MasDom

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OK so basically I don't have to believe in male supremacy, or female supremacy.

I believe in the choice to stand were you feel is rite for you ,when it comes down to it.

The rite To try and pull up a label in a society or existence.
One you feel fits you , and brings you fulfillment.
A simple way to say this is who and what I am.

But for me beyond it all....
I just still believe in this as a lifestyle choice.

So I guess i,m looking for some one who fully understands that.
That one understanding and realistic person who can come to terms with my personal desires.
Respect me for who I really am inside.

I guess i,ve also come to terms with people wanting to believe in that supremacy.

It doesn't really make you wrong...
Doesn't make you rite either!

Here i,ve come to realize
I can have a Friend who believes in his own supremacy over all else, as just a little mind set of his Dominant trait.
Also I can have a Friend who just simply believes in male supremacy as a matter of fact.

Both of who don't influence my day to day ,or question me on how I choose to live my life.

Because this "as we all have come to realize as a lifestyle" is chaotic.

To a point,
its filled with a multitude of different wants and desires.
People who look for all their wants and needs to be fulfilled, salve or Master alike.
Emotional and physical needs, Simple ways of acting or enforcing ones self.
Jokers and honest people alike.

All I can do is look for that special some one
Who most fits happily into her place by my side.

In the end it doesn't matter if I became a Polly Dom , Or stayed a singular Dominant....

Because in the end its all up to choice.
Both the choice of that person to be what they
have chosen to exist as.
And for the person who ends up with them to accept it for what it is.

In the end i,ll always be who I am.
Whether a Dominant or not.

They?...
They will always see what they like,
and what they hate in each of us.

The ones that stay are meant to.
No need to say the word fake or liar.
It either is or it isn't.

And to that I have found my resolve.

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RE: To come to terms. - 1/5/2007 9:59:44 AM

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If I understand your post correctly, you are pretty much stating "to each their own", a sentiment that I also strongly believe in myself. You are also stating that people who believe in some sort of superiority based upon orientation or gender can be your friends even if that is not your point of view, as long as they respect you, again I agree.

The few people that have been disrespectful to me based upon my orientation or gender because they thought themselves superior basically paint themselves as inferior in my eyes. Superior people do not need to announce it. But that is just my experience.

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RE: To come to terms. - 1/5/2007 10:06:54 AM

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Yes.
To each their own....

Gorien, Polly, Casually Dominant....
Slave, deep seeded submissive or casual submissive....

In the end if it isn't what you both wanted, some one has to stop and be honest about it all.

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RE: To come to terms. - 1/5/2007 12:39:35 PM

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Ummm, welcome to planet Earth and the human race....

Personally, I don't mind people who feel they're superior as they can be quite comical in their naivity (think Frasier & Niles). I generally only get ugly if they try to treat me as inferior.

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RE: To come to terms. - 1/5/2007 6:03:38 PM

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curious as to why you use the term "Supremacy"??? (sorry not going to get into another debate on word issue, but thats a new one for me)

Sounds like you are a little frustrated in your search MasDom, try to stay positive, be true to yourself and do what YOU think is right. Who cares what others say or how protocols, are with whatever group you come in contact with. Don't conform to what others say you should be, instead, be your own "supremacist" and someday you will find that girl you are looking for...but first..be positive no girl wants a depressed Dom...

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RE: To come to terms. - 1/7/2007 8:31:02 AM

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I think it's not so much about male and female supremacy as it is about personal preferences.
There has to be balance in a relationship for it to be beneficial to both.
As long as the energy ebbs and flows without a tug of war type of conflict I think all approaches that are balaced for those people are successful work.
Some relationships are one leader and one follower, some are one leader many followers, and some are many leaders one follower.
There are also relationships where the mantle of control is handed back and forth consensually between the parties involved.
I say find which one works for you and don't worry so much about how other people's energy in their relationships flow.
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RE: To come to terms. - 1/7/2007 9:19:42 AM

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I think... I may obviously be incorrect... but I think MasDom is using "supremacy" to portay a confidence one has in "knowing their role." As in knowing who they are, and thinking that they've mastered it somehow. And I think he is talking about how someone can get lost in this idea and lose touch with what they actually are; get off course from what really counts.

It's hard to find someone who's actually come to terms with who they are and can accept it wholly. But when they do and they "fit" as you say, it's a beautiful thing. Honesty is crucial. Just my 2 cents.

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