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RobertCloud -> RE: Meeting for the first time (1/5/2007 9:33:47 PM)
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ORIGINAL: dom4femslavesub
I think only women put so much into a meeting. Just go for it, if it works, it works, if it doesnt it doesnt. I know it seems hard, but the search will continue if it doesnt, the world will not end. I see every bad experiance in meeting someone as bringing me closer to the right one. Take care!
You are not correct, some men do put a great deal of effort and emotion into a meeting. It depends on the person. Some women do not put as much as others do.
Personally, I put a lot of effort and there is a lot of stress in that first meeting for me as well. Though it is usually not of the same nature as it is for the submissive. Yet, I am also very much of the romantic, and with me I am NOT looking for a scening partner. I am looking for someone that will be a lifelong partner, so I tend to look at it with a deeply strong heartfelt emotion as well.
No, I will not tear up and break down and cry for days on end if it fails or if they do not show up, but the truth is, I have shed a few tears when someone I cared about deeply failed to show up and they did not even care to tell me they would not be there. And no, I do not think this makes me less a Dominant, or less a man like many in the lifestyle may think. Being Strong, and Strict, does not mean that my heart cannot feel pain.
So... I do disagree, there are men that feel strongly about meetings. Dominant as well as submissive men, and telling a woman to just face the facts of the situation is not even beginning to understand them. As a Dominant you need to truly understand a woman, completely and fully. Not just her needs sensually, but also emotionally, mentally, and within the lifestyle. You take on the responsibility of providing for the WHOLE woman, not just one aspect of her, and if you are only looking to providing for one aspect then you are doing yourself and her a disservice.
I have found more beauty and more profound fullness in a relationship because I have reached into the depths of a woman to touch every fiber of her soul, to tune her to become the most beautifully played musical instrument that the world has ever known. Her moans, her squeals, her words, her thoughts, her laughter, her sighs, her breath are all notes to a song that only a true Dominant can begin to orchestrate for he knows what is the essence of a woman, and he knows that there is nothing that is within his submissive that he should not learn and that he should ignore. Nothing.
Yes, she is there to serve you. You are there to nurture her. If you do not learn everything there is to know about her how can you possibly nurture and inspire her to be a better submissive or slave.
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