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submaledavid30 -> what i do wrong ? (1/5/2007 2:46:20 PM)

Hello to all .  I am quite new on here .   Sorry for my bad english , i m french currently living in UK .  I got an add on this site , but nothin ,  nobody write me .  Is this site only for professional people and not for people who do really love this ?




MsLadySue -> RE: what i do wrong ? (1/5/2007 3:20:35 PM)

I don't know why no one has written you. I checked your profile and looked at your pictures and wow.




YourhandMyAss -> RE: what i do wrong ? (1/5/2007 3:28:07 PM)

The obvious answer was nobody has interest in writing. And why, that, is entirely known only to them and them alone.




GuidingLite -> RE: what i do wrong ? (1/5/2007 3:30:58 PM)

come back with this question in a year than we will talk about it coz now is to early for this shit. best.




thetammyjo -> RE: what i do wrong ? (1/5/2007 4:08:17 PM)

Most of the people in the forums come here to talk, our profiles are on so folks can learn about us. If you want to make a good impression, starting participating in the forums, join into the conversations.

And there is nothing that prevents you from contacting someone that interests you either. I advise you to look for folks in the UK primarily if you are living there since many folks don't seem that interested in long-distant relationships.




LadyEllen -> RE: what i do wrong ? (1/5/2007 4:47:20 PM)

Crikey David! Je suis etonnee, que personne a te contacte! Tu es vraiment tres beau, et jointe a ton accent.....je vous en prie! Sont toutes les femmes en Yorkshire aveugles!?

Mais aussi, tu n'es qu'un mois ici enregistre; peut etre trop court temp a decider qu'il y a qqchose qui ne convient pas. Je t'assures, on peut trouver touts qui convient ici, mais on a besoin de beaucoup de patience.

E





MysticFireTopaz -> RE: what i do wrong ? (1/6/2007 8:47:53 AM)

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ORIGINAL: submaledavid30
Hello to all .  I am quite new on here .   Sorry for my bad english , i m french currently living in UK .  I got an add on this site , but nothin ,  nobody write me .  Is this site only for professional people and not for people who do really love this ?


Many Female Dominants prefer that the sub approach them, rather than approaching the sub.  Why not check out the profiles of the Dommes in your area and take the initiative in writing to the ones who sound interesting?
 
Lady Topaz




crouchingtigress -> RE: what i do wrong ? (1/6/2007 8:59:13 AM)

i second the poster that said "wow" and the one that said "Many Female Dominants prefer that the sub approach them, rather than approaching the sub"
 
honestly one month is not enough time, like Tammy said, come join us, talk laugh and cry there are some amazing folks with amazing stories to share...and just for a heads up....according to a poll some one did on another bdsm site which got about 500 replys....its takes about a year to 2 on average to find some one really worth sharing your world with.
 




iwearpanties -> RE: what i do wrong ? (1/7/2007 3:36:03 AM)

hello 

i have had the same troubles and are new friend the french male in uk .. how ever ive sent several hellos too Mistress and even  few Male Dominants  but not one ever responded  not one  . As a submissive it would be nice just too have a Dominant  say no or not intrested instead not responding unless not responding is say no??????    i know some will write back here you didnt contact me . but he few i didnt wrtie to ha profiles that got my attetino as submissive... so i ve given up wrtiing and sending out messages




submaledavid30 -> RE: what i do wrong ? (1/8/2007 12:33:18 PM)

i ve sent alot of hellos and detailled letter about my person,  and my interests . All olites letters just presenting me to others . I gave also my phone number to prove that i am genuine , i got yahoo messenger and a cam , i gave my nickname , but nobody ever contacted me . I know i got to be patient . But people on here even dont have a savoir vivre . They even dont answer  , saying , yes or no .  They just ignore You .   Its not because i am a sub that i have to be ignored in that way . Because a Mistress or a Master who dont even take a 4 seconds time to reply in 3 letters or 2 , sayin yes or no ,   that Lady or Men is worth less that the sub .  In life there is some savoir vivre .




BraceletMe -> RE: what i do wrong ? (1/8/2007 1:29:46 PM)

David - I'd suggest to try and not take it personally, even though it is hard not to sometimes.  I am finding out more and more that many people can't even manage to maintain minimal standards when it comes to common courtesy if there is not some immediate and obvious gain in it for them - and when I say that I am not even talking about this site or others like it, that's just real life!
 
Beyond that, there is the usual issue of there being so fewer dommes than submissives or slaves.  It is impossible not to become very discouraged at times - really no other way to put it.
 
The only suggestion I might make is that when you do write to someone, it is good to comment specifically on her profile in addition to providing information about yourself.  Perhaps you are doing that but it wasn't evident to me from reading your prior posts.
 
If you are genuine and sincere and that shows in your e-mail, that ought to at least garner a response.  That's the easy part.  Having something develop from there is what's hard.




BlkTallFullfig -> RE: what i do wrong ? (1/8/2007 1:48:29 PM)

Some things that may be holding you back from my perspective:
quote:

Im not lookin for a 24h . I am straight still , but would like to discover a bi experience .
Please type me a mail message for more informations
It doesn't exactly say what if any type of relationship you seek, only what you are not in addition to your kinks.   Nothing wrong with those, but I wouldn't reply to someone who clearly stated he's not interested in taking the relationship to serious/long term potential, which is what 24/7 means for me (as opposed to bondage or sex 24/7).    I also wouldn't reply to someone who is definitely straight but needs me to make him enjoy sex with another man, but that is just me and related to the issues I've encountered in ambivalent people.    M




LadyEllen -> RE: what i do wrong ? (1/8/2007 1:51:24 PM)

David

Peut etre vous pouvez m'envoyer un exemple des presentations que vous envoyez? Je serait heureux a aviser ou on pourrait l'ameliorer. C'etait pas un question de votre anglais - c'est qu'on peut souvent dire qqchose comme homme, que n'est pas acceptable pour femme, surtout quand on se presente.

Aussi, je vous aviserait a rechercher ici se concernant les profils. Il y a plusieurs de threads ou on a demande des conseils, comment on doit ecrire un profil que sera plus d'interet pour les maitresses.

E




LaTigresse -> RE: what i do wrong ? (1/8/2007 1:51:29 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyEllen

Crikey David! Je suis etonnee, que personne a te contacte! Tu es vraiment tres beau, et jointe a ton accent.....je vous en prie! Sont toutes les femmes en Yorkshire aveugles!?

Mais aussi, tu n'es qu'un mois ici enregistre; peut etre trop court temp a decider qu'il y a qqchose qui ne convient pas. Je t'assures, on peut trouver touts qui convient ici, mais on a besoin de beaucoup de patience.

E




and there you have it




EnglishPortia -> RE: what i do wrong ? (1/10/2007 10:54:26 AM)

And... from what I remember of the UK "scene" there are a number of Munches you might think of attending in your area too...

I know for sure that there is/ was one in Leeds, and, IIRC there's one in Sheffield too...

www.informedconsent.co.uk  has a very comprehensive event list...





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