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steviemichael -> have i made a mistake (1/6/2007 6:09:48 AM)
having spent the last few weeks talking and having a online connection with a Mistress basically talking about life what we love in all manner of things from favourite movies and books etc She has more recently prepare this one some tasks reguarding of the sexual nature and this tastk at first was desireable and fullfilling however this task is becoming the only Task that she sets for me and dare this one say its becoming boreing...would it be out of place too ask for something new somethings differnet ?

bandit25 -> RE: have i made a mistake (1/6/2007 6:14:44 AM)
Well, this is online...keep that in mind. It's hard to say, not being a Domme; however, I think you can prolly approach the subject. You know, she may be busy with life or she may be using this task to see how well you do with boring stuff.

LaTigresse -> RE: have i made a mistake (1/6/2007 6:26:28 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: steviemichael having spent the last few weeks talking and having a online connection with a Mistress basically talking about life what we love in all manner of things from favourite movies and books etc She has more recently prepare this one some tasks reguarding of the sexual nature and this tastk at first was desireable and fullfilling however this task is becoming the only Task that she sets for me and dare this one say its becoming boreing...would it be out of place too ask for something new somethings differnet ? Since when did submitting become all about thrills, chills, and excitement??? I am going to suggest that if you wish to hope for something less boring you get your hiney to work on the boring stuff. I guarantee there will be someone willing to if you don't! If I had to guess, I would guess she is testing you. So far I'd say your failing.

steviemichael -> RE: have i made a mistake (1/6/2007 6:34:21 AM)
a test ? this one was not aware from the outset with this Mistress that this one has too prove my gift of submission but maybe you are correct maybe there are those who require a submissive too pass a test thank you for your reply be well.

LaTigresse -> RE: have i made a mistake (1/6/2007 6:36:59 AM)
Well, let me ask this. Exactly what did you expect? It ain't all about sexual thrills yanno.

steviemichael -> RE: have i made a mistake (1/6/2007 6:43:32 AM)
this one is of the same mind that it is not > It ain't all about sexual thrills < my oringnal post was simplly why i have been concerne because the M when She does give this one a task it is of the sexual nature and always the same sexual task * hence why this one was bored after the second or third time .be well.

bandit25 -> RE: have i made a mistake (1/6/2007 6:47:38 AM)
Perhaps, then, you need to evaluate what you want/need. I'm not sure how or if you can get your needs met in an online relationship. I mean, there's only so much one can do. If you are just looking for someone to give you differing sexual tests, then I do have an idea. Why not create another profile (a Domme) and send yourself emails of what you want done? Yes, I am being a bit sarcastic (ok, a lot sarcastic). You may need to have a talk with her and simply ask her what her goals are for this relationship. If they don't correspond with yours, then you have your answer.

crouchingtigress -> RE: have i made a mistake (1/6/2007 6:55:09 AM)
with out knowing her or more about it (care to explain?) i would say it could be she has a fetish, often people with fetishes seem one tracked and single minded sometimes...in fact they can some times the fetish can totally eclipse the person providing the fetish. ie: a foot fetish person might forget all there is person who belongs to the foot.

crouchingtigress -> RE: have i made a mistake (1/6/2007 6:58:18 AM)
ooops forgot to answer the question.....it would not be out of place to ask for something differnt, doms are not mind readers, and it is never out of place to discus what your needs are in a relationship providing you do so respectfully.

thetammyjo -> RE: have i made a mistake (1/6/2007 6:59:19 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: steviemichael this one is of the same mind that it is not > It ain't all about sexual thrills < my oringnal post was simplly why i have been concerne because the M when She does give this one a task it is of the sexual nature and always the same sexual task * hence why this one was bored after the second or third time .be well. First, always talk to the other person before you talk to us -- what if she sees this and gets upset? You may have committed an unforgiveable error in her mind.... Second, she may just not have that much experience or imagination when it comes to men and sex when it isn't face-to-face.

windchymes -> RE: have i made a mistake (1/6/2007 7:34:58 AM)
Maybe "Mistress" (if indeed is is an "ess", since you only know this persona online, and it happens a lot) finds your task extremely stimulating and is enjoying the thrill immensely. Isn't this what being a slave is all about?

bandit25 -> RE: have i made a mistake (1/6/2007 7:37:33 AM)
Not to highjack, but I don't know...is that what being a slave is all about? If one's needs aren't being met, well, I don't understand the point. Unless your (the universal you, not you personally) needs are to meet your Master's needs. But, then I don't understand how one would pick a Master. In my mind, anyone could be that specific slave's Master.

LotusSong -> RE: have i made a mistake (1/6/2007 7:39:10 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: steviemichael this one is of the same mind that it is not > It ain't all about sexual thrills < my oringnal post was simplly why i have been concerne because the M when She does give this one a task it is of the sexual nature and always the same sexual task * hence why this one was bored after the second or third time .be well. That may be the only thing she knows how to do?

tangldupinblue -> RE: have i made a mistake (1/6/2007 7:40:55 AM)
i only read the op so sorry if i offend anyone but....my Daddy waits for me to ask him to make it harder (for some things not all) he says thats when he knows i'm ready to accept more. blue

sub4hire -> RE: have i made a mistake (1/6/2007 7:43:30 AM)
As someone said you need to communicate with her first. If you don't, the relationship is already on the rocks. Communication has shut down. If you talk to her everyday, what do you talk about? Why do you feel it would be out of line telling her about your feelings? She is online, good chance she could be playing with 150 other people and her imagination has already been drained. In any event the only way to truly know is to ask her.

domiguy -> RE: have i made a mistake (1/6/2007 3:25:17 PM)
Maybe she feels that you are incapable of performing more than one given task a year succesfully....Baby steps. I hope she has drained your bank account and all you have left in your hand is your sore dick. Find someone real and leave these televangelist transexual dommes alone.... All they seem to want is dumb lil' subbies monies. out. D.G. p.s. Jesus please protect me from your followers.

LTRsubNW -> RE: have i made a mistake (1/6/2007 4:53:09 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: bandit25 Well, this is online...keep that in mind. It's hard to say, not being a Domme; however, I think you can prolly approach the subject. You know, she may be busy with life or she may be using this task to see how well you do with boring stuff. Or she could just be fucking with you.

Fitznicely -> RE: have i made a mistake (1/6/2007 5:58:55 PM)
Stevie: Why not take the initiative and suggest things that might please Her. I don't play online, but in my experience, a subbie's mind is usually teeming with good play ideas. If she's had any kind of experience, she'll know that too and could well be happy to hear your (respectful) suggestions.

juliaoceania -> RE: have i made a mistake (1/6/2007 6:11:50 PM)
quote: Since when did submitting become all about thrills, chills, and excitement??? You mean it isn't? My Daddy will have to be informed because I find it pretty thrilling personally[:D]. Maybe we are doing something wrong? But then again I get turned on by doing his laundry and organizing his place... one of those freaky service oriented types.

Fitznicely -> RE: have i made a mistake (1/6/2007 6:23:51 PM)
Yep, that's freaky [;)]

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