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Verbal humiliation / Name Calling - 1/6/2007 2:03:39 PM

belljar

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I would like to simply poll the submissives who read these forums...when in a scene with your Dom/me, and if you are so inclined that verbal abuse/name calling is a turn-on for you (if done right of course), could you pinpoint one or two things that have been said to you that simply turned you into a puddle (in a good way of course)?

I hope to hear equally from male and female subs on this little poll :)

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RE: Verbal humiliation / Name Calling - 1/6/2007 2:13:33 PM

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For me it is not what is said but how it is said. I cant explain 'the voice' as it has been different in different people.

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RE: Verbal humiliation / Name Calling - 1/6/2007 2:18:17 PM

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Name calling is a turn on for me...it's a very passionate, intimate thing in my book.

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RE: Verbal humiliation / Name Calling - 1/6/2007 2:22:10 PM

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I have had it be both a turn-on and a turn-off, depending on who said it, and the mood I was in when it was given.

There are times when Master can call me "his dirty little whore" and it melts me..then there are times when he says it and my response is "no, I am not"...I have no idea what the difference is for me though.

There are names that are more intimate, but I think you get the picture.

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RE: Verbal humiliation / Name Calling - 1/6/2007 2:42:24 PM

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well things are rarely a turn-on for me in the physical arousal/horny sense, but i've certainly felt aroused internally when being verbally humiliated or degraded at times. not as part of any scene or play, but just as part of regular use and service. this is not something my Master calls me (obviously), but a few other Dominants i've served over the years have called me "nigger" while using me, and it's definitely offensive to me, definitely degrading and shameful, but those very elements make it arousing as well. and these were not people playing a game, they truly and sincerely saw me as just a nigger. that kind of authenticity is necessary if it's going to serve any purpose.

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RE: Verbal humiliation / Name Calling - 1/6/2007 2:47:18 PM

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I don't have a Dom anymore,however, when he'd tell me I was his slut, in a certain tone of voice, I'd get the warm fuzzies all over. I loved it! Especially when whispered in my ear.

When playing with dom friends, I'm his slut at that time, love it when he grabs my hair, in a low tone in my ear,tells me I'm his slut, he's sweet lil whore. It sends lil shock waves to my nether regions!

edit to say...as far as humilation...no way jose`! i make that known right up front! No humilation of any, sort at any time! One of my hard limits!

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RE: Verbal humiliation / Name Calling - 1/6/2007 3:05:32 PM

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I don't like name calling the only this Master calls me is Sweetheart and that is great for me make me happy everytime he call me that. The so called "dirty" names we don't use.

As for humilation that is a hard limit for me. If anythig humilation would turn me off not on.

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RE: Verbal humiliation / Name Calling - 1/6/2007 4:51:05 PM

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For me, it has a lot to do with what is said, how it's said and when it's said. If those three things aren't in sync, then it wouldn't be a turn on anymore. Something can be said in a forceful, intense manner and turn me on, but if it were said in a truly mean way that was obviously meant to hurt me, then it would definitely hurt my feelings, not turn me on. Or if something were said at an obviously inappropriate time, then it may hurt me or even make me mad.

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RE: Verbal humiliation / Name Calling - 1/6/2007 5:33:30 PM

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I think it's different for everyone. It depends upon the timing, the place, the mood, the scene.

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RE: Verbal humiliation / Name Calling - 1/6/2007 7:38:20 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: missturbation

For me it is not what is said but how it is said. I cant explain 'the voice' as it has been different in different people.

I agree. That is how it is for me also.

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RE: Verbal humiliation / Name Calling - 1/6/2007 7:38:34 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: slavejali

Name calling is a turn on for me...it's a very passionate, intimate thing in my book.

I will echo this. It strips me raw and exposes me free of barriers. There is nothing too over the top, and he has said some pretty rough things. It seems the more "offensive" the names, the more I want to dare myself to take.

I agree with those who say tone has a lot to do with it, too. Sometimes his tone is filled with disdain and it flattens me, but in an intensely wild kind of way. Sometimes it's not necessarily a name that does it, but for example he will remind me of the wretch I was before he found me, giving examples. This tends to have me squirming and groveling and kissing his feet.

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RE: Verbal humiliation / Name Calling - 1/6/2007 9:45:47 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: belljar

I would like to simply poll the submissives who read these forums...when in a scene with your Dom/me, and if you are so inclined that verbal abuse/name calling is a turn-on for you (if done right of course), could you pinpoint one or two things that have been said to you that simply turned you into a puddle (in a good way of course)?

I hope to hear equally from male and female subs on this little poll :)

The one that specifically comes to mind that was a real "button pusher" for me was when a particular former Mistress wanted me to clean up after myself after ejaculating inside her. She'd call me her "cumsucker" in a certain way that was rather seductive and a slight bit demeaning or sarcastic. She'd also tell me what a good cumsucker I was (always in an erotic and pleasure induced tone of voice) while I was sucking and cleaning her with my tongue; something that allways made me more enthusiastic while I was doing exactly what she wanted.

That's the best example I can think of at the moment.

- pixel

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RE: Verbal humiliation / Name Calling - 1/6/2007 9:47:28 PM

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I absolutely love to be reminded I'm a bitch in heat, his slut, his toy and numerous other nasty things. I also like to be told "You know yo want it" and things like that.
A man who can talk to and about me dirty in sex or scening is a huge turn on for me indeed.
suzanne

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RE: Verbal humiliation / Name Calling - 1/6/2007 9:48:40 PM

DiurnalVampire

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Oh, hell, I can answer this one for Angel since he isnt on. He turns into an absolute puddle when he is reminded how helpless and physically inferior he is to me. From talking to him about how he cant even pull his own pantyhose on without needing help, to reminding him that e cant beat me in a wrestling match unless i let him get the upper hand. ITs the one surefire trigger he has and has had since the beginning.

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RE: Verbal humiliation / Name Calling - 1/7/2007 4:07:43 AM

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as submissive male i too agree the name calling and the tone of voice go along way ...its helps a submissive know his or her place weather it be good verbal abuse or negative verbal abuse .. i guess in saying each sub has a words that trigger there mind set and excitment in them

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RE: Verbal humiliation / Name Calling - 1/10/2007 9:31:43 PM

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It made no sense in the context, but having her rub up against me in a latex dress while saying it.

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RE: Verbal humiliation / Name Calling - 1/11/2007 5:32:52 AM

Kalira

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Master does not limit his calling me a slut, whore, cunt , etc...to just the times when he has me tied up

He can call me those anytime he so chooses.

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RE: Verbal humiliation / Name Calling - 1/11/2007 5:37:50 AM

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i agree...it is the voice; although here are a few that work whether i hear them whispered in my ear or written in an e-mail :-)

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ORIGINAL: sweetnurseBBW

quote:

ORIGINAL: missturbation

For me it is not what is said but how it is said. I cant explain 'the voice' as it has been different in different people.

I agree. That is how it is for me also.

< Message edited by dawntreader -- 1/11/2007 5:40:40 AM >

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RE: Verbal humiliation / Name Calling - 1/11/2007 6:53:14 AM

mymasterssub69

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if Daddy says it right with heated excitement, i get turned on when He calls me a slut/whore and bitch. that's as far as His verbal will go.

He would never use the N-word on me because we both hate it but He knows i wouldn't respect Him as my Daddy if He ever used it.

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RE: Verbal humiliation / Name Calling - 1/11/2007 7:28:48 AM

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While I am not hers YET, a Mistress who I have known for about a year now, routinely calls me "slut" and "bitch boy." It definitely stirs something inside me....even as I write it here. :-D

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