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kneels4yu -> emotions taking overr (2/25/2005 8:01:01 AM)
i have a question for any masters out there regarding a sensitive subject to me. i am new here and have just started getting interested in lifestyle. i dont have a master or dom at present but i want to know something. i know myself pretty well and i know that some might say that emotions shuld not get in the way. like when you really fall for someone and want to be theirs exlusively, you want to serve them the best way possible and for me, it means to give my heart as well. i cant serve unless i truly feel for the person and in love with the person. that is my opinion. just wanted to know if i am wrong that i should not let deep emotions get in the way. kneels4yu

EmeraldSlave2 -> RE: emotions taking overr (2/25/2005 8:21:58 AM)
It's never good to let emotions overcome good judgement. That being said, it's very common to have an emotional connection to your dom. It's also very common to have your dom have an emotional connection with you. Here's my advice- if you can IMAGINE a situation, people out there are living it and very happy about it. So don't ever have to ask "do other people?" because the answer is always YES. Some people don't want emotions, some do. Just be yourself.

TallDarkAndWitty -> RE: emotions taking overr (2/25/2005 8:44:15 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kneels4yu just wanted to know if i am wrong that i should not let deep emotions get in the way. In life, there is very seldom a wrong or right, especially when it comes to love. If you want love in your BDSM relationship, be upfront and clear about it. There are lots of tops who want love too. Don't try to model your needs and wants on how you see other people live...you won't find happiness that way. Taggard

quietkitten -> RE: emotions taking overr (2/25/2005 8:46:52 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TallDarkAndWitty In life, there is very seldom a wrong or right, especially when it comes to love. If you want love in your BDSM relationship, be upfront and clear about it. There are lots of tops who want love too. Don't try to model your needs and wants on how you see other people live...you won't find happiness that way. Taggard That was wonderful!

madnessinc -> RE: emotions taking overr (2/25/2005 8:50:15 AM)
Kneels4yu If that is the only way you feel you can serve a master, then find a master that will understand that in you. Everyone is differant, some people don't want to even know the names of who they're with, others want to know so much more. Every master is different, as is every slave.

handsofpleasure -> RE: emotions taking overr (2/25/2005 8:51:49 AM)
I like a play scene as much as anybody but there is a lot more connection when love and affection are shared between a dom and sub. Also the developing of a relationship makes for a much better understanding of the others deeper wants, needs, and desires. It is much more fulfilling for both partners when they can share more over time. Ultimately you have to find a relationship that satisfies your physical and emotional needs.

tomtom1877 -> RE: emotions taking overr (2/25/2005 8:56:08 AM)
ALWAYS be up front and clear about your wants or wishes and do it right from the start. You will be a lot happier and satisfied that way. So will your master. Taggard, hats off to you. Nicely put. tomtom1877

ruffnecksbabygir -> RE: emotions taking overr (2/25/2005 9:57:05 AM)
We all have our own way of living this lifestyle and we all view it through different eyes..... one of the main reasons which i was so captivated by this lifestyle was that i found such intense emotions just pouring out of the couples which i met early on....i experienced such bliss myself when i first met a dom that i connected with...i had never felt such intense love.... i could never serve a Master i did not love, even sex for me without there being love isn't the same, it does not satisfy me.

Destinysskeins -> RE: emotions taking overr (2/25/2005 10:13:34 AM)
Greetings, Welcome to the site and to the Lifestyle, kneels4yu! sighs As many times as this has been stated by a multitude of people it seems it can't be said too much. For each person who enjoys this Lifestyle there is a different style/dynamic/preference/what have you. There is no 'one way'. my advice to you would be to read, research, talk, chat and learn as much as you can. Review what you find and decide what strikes a chord for you. Once you've done so then search for a Dominant who's compatible with those standards. When (not if! [:'(]) you come across those who tell you that what you prefer isn't correct then kindly direct them to the door and wish them well on finding what they seek. [:)] The best of luck in your burgeoning journey!

BlkTallFullfig -> RE: emotions taking overr (2/25/2005 1:01:50 PM)
Dear Knees, This lifestyle is very much about fullfilling emotional needs, so of course emotions get in the way... I mean if getting anything done by anybody was pleasing, we'd be getting bitten by animals or raped by rapists and be satisfied... Okay, that was probably a littl harsh an example... The point is, be yourself, and only get involved with people who are open/available emotionally, otherwise, you'll feel like a miserable used dish rag at the end of the day, and your self esteem will be nonexistent. M

Interesdom -> RE: emotions taking overr (2/25/2005 2:57:33 PM)
I agree with a lot of what's been said here - especially about living your own life based on your own needs. If you are looking to serve rather than just have play sessions, I would advise you to concentrate on the ability to admire and respect a man. I think it is very hard for a submissive woman to serve and obey a caring, dominant man and not end up loving him - it's inevitable.

FangsNfeet -> RE: emotions taking overr (2/26/2005 4:38:55 PM)
Emotions have never been in the way. Infact, they help guide both me and the one I'm with to more and wonderful naughy things. Emotions are great. I enjoy having them and reading them from the one I'm with. Fear, Joy, Passion, and such all lead to great things. And when it's more that just passion, that's when I put the most whip in my lashin. In the creative writting section I wrote a poem called "My Loving Pain" I suggest you read it.

BreakMe76 -> RE: emotions taking overr (2/28/2005 11:37:47 PM)
Communication, communication, communication. Make your feelings known to anyone who considers your for collaring. I found love in my D/s relationship and it is a deeper, more natural, intense and respectful love based on shared values. The key is being honest. Best wishes.

BlouLady -> RE: emotions taking overr (3/1/2005 6:45:57 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: handsofpleasure I like a play scene as much as anybody but there is a lot more connection when love and affection are shared between a dom and sub. Also the developing of a relationship makes for a much better understanding of the others deeper wants, needs, and desires. It is much more fulfilling for both partners when they can share more over time. Ultimately you have to find a relationship that satisfies your physical and emotional needs. I couldn't agree more. Life is hard sometimes and having a connection of love and affections usually makes things a little easier, a little less stressful. Be true to your heart and don't settle.

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