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RE: Threesome.. How To? - 2/15/2007 4:01:18 PM   
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Status: offline 		Everyone knows that the definition of a threesome is Domiguy and at least two women....Any of you women who feel otherwise should contemplate some deep psychotherapy to get at the "root" of your problem...Undoubtedly there is something wrong with your vaginas and it has scrambled your brains....

It is never a bad "idea" to have a back-up...Just like Miss America If she is unable to pefrorm her duties that's when the runner-up steps in to fill the void.....I feel entirely the same about lil' sub susie.

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RE: Threesome.. How To? - 2/15/2007 4:15:56 PM   
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Status: offline 		Just to add my 2 cents to the discussion... xboarder, from what you've said about your girl - only being willing to discuss the issue after a few drinks, setting limitations on any potential threesome, being sexually unexperimentive (is that even a word?) - I think that this threesome idea has about as much chance of happening as a chipmunk vs. a woodchipper: even if it happens, it's going to get messy.

Aqua and I have discussed possibly being in a threesome, but we realized that neither of us is willing to see each other being with someone else. When we started talking about "rules", we stopped, looked at each other, and nixxed the idea then and there. If the two of you aren't absolutely secure in your relationship, I suggest finding other ways to bring the spark back to sex, because involving another person means both of you having to reevaluate the level of trust that you have in your partner, your sense of worth to said partner relative to the possible worth of another person, etc. Once again, chipmunk and woodchipper.

I'm not saying that you shouldn't think about it... but my advice would be not to put any pressure on the issue. It seems like it's a delicate enough conversation topic for the two of you.

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RE: Threesome.. How To? - 2/15/2007 4:49:36 PM   
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Status: offline 		Onsome and Twosome from beyond yonder, wishing
a hoping their lonesomes could find more than mere kissing.
Along came a threesome and swept them away
Forever in libation will all threesome play

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RE: Threesome.. How To? - 2/15/2007 5:08:34 PM   
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I've been on this website for a while now, met some great people and had my share of fun...
I've currently settled into a relationship with a great girl.. but she is very vanilla. Not much interest in BDSM, but she's starting to enjoy some very light things..which is great, I'm in no rush to tie her up and beat her silly.. or vice versa..

But she did bring up the topic of a threesome.. She's shy, so she doesn't want to approach any girl she knows or might potentially like.. also we don't have a specific place to goto to explore this option either. So I though I'd ask you wonderful folk for some direction.

We really dont' know where to go about looking for someone to share some fun with.. might not be full out BDSM oriented, or even close, but just a fun time. I'm not new to threesomes, neither is she, but we've both only done it with random people.. ie - none of the people involved were dating.. so no feelings involved.

Any help and ides on 'how tos' would be really really appreciated..
A big thanks in advance to all..



Okay...here's how you approach a threesome;

You and the GF are 2.

That leaves 1.

You go up to a hot chic, you show her your GF, you say "yeah?"

She says "Uh huh".

That's 3.

Any further questions...my cell is on from 6 a.m. to 9 p.m.

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RE: Threesome.. How To? - 2/15/2007 5:35:59 PM   
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RE: Threesome.. How To? - 2/15/2007 7:59:26 PM   
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Status: offline 		personallly since it sounds like you guys are amatuers at this an escort is a great idea and won't  be as likely to make your girl insecure since its not so personal. That or the swinger websites but i bet anything alot of single women on there who want to be with a couple are pros

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RE: Threesome.. How To? - 2/16/2007 4:41:03 AM   
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ORIGINAL: xboarder

Wow.. Thank you for the quick relies and insight.

Sorry, Should have mentioned that we were interested in a MFF, but I'd be willing to try MMF (but thats a whole other story, which has never come up)

I am definately looking to get to know the other girl and have all 3 of us go out and get to know eachother and make sure we are on the same level with things, with no talk about the sex...That's absolutely a must.

There will definately be boundaries. My Gf doesn't want me to kiss or have direct sex with the other girl.. everything else is fine.. which i am completely willing to settle with to keep my gf comfortable.
She has experience with girls before.. girl on girl play after having had a few drinks.. she's done oral and more.
She claims that she used to be bi-sexual, but now she's not anymore, but wouldn't mind trying it again... this is what confuses me.

We've been together for about 10 months, and now sex has become routine, and she's not very experimental..just a few bdsm tricks here and there.. so my main idea behind this is to spark something again and have fun together...


Ask your gf why doesn't she want you to kiss or have direct sex with the other girl?  Understand her headspace when it comes to the subject of 3somes.  More than likely she doesn't want you to have an emotional relationship with another woman because she's afraid that it'll effect the relationship between you two in some negative manner.

My suggestion.. find other ways to make sex fun again between the two of you.  You could always start role-playing, or giving her fantasies while you play with her pussy.  Or develope a deeper level of trust and rapport so that she'll begin to enjoy being tied down while having sex, or being tickled.  Once you've got her where she's unable to get herself free all you've got to do is say "I can do anything I want with you.." .. and then make love to her.  When you're finished be sure she enjoyed herself, and then untie her.

Basically, find something that'll turn both your flames up higher.  Women are dying to do anything their partner wants.. but they won't or can't until they trust you completely, and/or they're turned on enough that it sounds sexy to them.

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RE: Threesome.. How To? - 2/16/2007 5:33:50 AM   
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Status: offline 		YOU NEED TO LAY IT ON THE LINE TO HER. TELL HER SHE NEED TO BRING A FRIEND HOME AND NOT TO WERRY YOU WILL STILL LOVE AND RESPECT HER BUT RIGHT NOW SHE JUS FRONTIN SO SHE SHOULD SHOW YOU SHE MEAN BUSINESS. dONT TAKE NO FOOLISHNESS TELL HER SHE NEED TO PLEASE YOU

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RE: Threesome.. How To? - 2/16/2007 5:38:05 AM   
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Status: offline 		why do doms think its as easy as going to the store topick up someone for them to have sex with....its really alot harder then you think.

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RE: Threesome.. How To? - 2/16/2007 5:41:59 AM   
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ORIGINAL: tyku

My suggestion.. find other ways to make sex fun again between the two of you.  You could always start role-playing, or giving her fantasies while you play with her


This quote gave me another reminder of how we ended up coming to the decision to go ahead with a 3-some..

Besides my other lengthy post of suggestions... lol... sorry, I'm long-winded, I know, here is something else that helped us. My partner and I spent a lot of time talking during sex and play about having another in the bed, and fantasizing about it until we both got to the point where we really felt like we were not only ready for it, but also, really wanted it.


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RE: Threesome.. How To? - 2/16/2007 5:48:42 AM   
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Status: offline 		I have to agree with Simply Michael here.  He said it all.  She will run like heck if she gets afraid.
I would try to find a local bdsm club and go to a Munch.  That would give her a chance to see we are "normal" who like to wear a lot of leather and black.
Regards.

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RE: Threesome.. How To? - 2/16/2007 7:58:13 AM   
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Status: offline 		look for the 3rd party on AFF. you can find nilla girls there only looking for one night.

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RE: Threesome.. How To? - 2/16/2007 8:18:47 AM   
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RE: Threesome.. How To? - 2/16/2007 8:21:20 AM   
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RE: Threesome.. How To? - 2/16/2007 8:24:36 AM   
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Status: offline 		Daddy wants me to find him/us a girl to have a one day stand with and i've been looking for about a year....not to be rude but why is it so hard to find a girl who is willing to come, have a mind blowing life changing experience, the go away.....again sorry to be rude.

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RE: Threesome.. How To? - 2/16/2007 8:27:55 AM   
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Status: offline 		take time and ease into it,, threesomes are fun but can be stressfull if its the first time , best to jsut let it happen,, kinda like an evening of games and sitting around and talking ,, i have found to work rather well , due to the fact that usually when you comfortable people around for some odd reason some one usually brings up the sex topic,, and then allyou have to do is casually guide it to the topic that you want ,, and well then you find out what and who and a sometimes more that you thought, but alas never and i mean never rusth the situation ,, and make sure that all parties are comfortable and ready,, if not stop and take the time,, when people are comfortable and relaxed  you tend to have a lot more fun and the experiance is wounderful, as opposed to the rushing  and everyone feels "icky"
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RE: Threesome.. How To? - 2/16/2007 8:30:59 AM   
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ORIGINAL: sensualmagirl

AFF -- www.adultfriendfinder.com and actually, I'm not sure, but that might have been a little joke? I'm not sure, been on there and it's not all that easy to find people who aren't fronts for some porn site.

lol no joke, i have 2 swinger friends who met on there and are now married

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RE: Threesome.. How To? - 2/16/2007 8:32:37 AM   
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ORIGINAL: tangldupinblue

Daddy wants me to find him/us a girl to have a one day stand with and i've been looking for about a year....not to be rude but why is it so hard to find a girl who is willing to come, have a mind blowing life changing experience, the go away.....again sorry to be rude.

blue


I honestly, can't answer your question on that... The one woman I've had a 3some with, her and I are still friends 3 years later... that's how both of us wanted it, I don't really do one night stands... sorry... you could try the swinger sites or go to a swingers party, I don't know, but for me, I wouldn't be interested in a one night thing, ever.

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RE: Threesome.. How To? - 2/16/2007 8:36:15 AM   
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ORIGINAL: mixielicous


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ORIGINAL: sensualmagirl

AFF -- www.adultfriendfinder.com and actually, I'm not sure, but that might have been a little joke? I'm not sure, been on there and it's not all that easy to find people who aren't fronts for some porn site.

lol no joke, i have 2 swinger friends who met on there and are now married


oh, so cool... nice to hear... a success story

my vanilla (well, obviously not so "vanilla"... he's just not my Master) LTR partner and I met our male friend for 3somes on there... we introduced him to our female friend (I met her on a bicurious chatroom on aol)... and, well, you know....

I haven't done anything with that side of my life in sometime now, but, we met the two people, have known them both for 3 years now... very good friends to us.

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RE: Threesome.. How To? - 2/16/2007 8:42:38 AM   
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ORIGINAL: tangldupinblue

why do doms think its as easy as going to the store topick up someone for them to have sex with....its really alot harder then you think.


I *totally* second that.



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