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darchChylde -> RE: Dommes sharing Male Subs (1/8/2007 4:30:07 PM)
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from a submissive's standpoint:
i'm in my second BDSM/D/s "relationship" in 10 years, i put the word "relationship" in quotes because my first Mistress was was a stage Dominatrix at a club. She hired me because of my appearance and easygoing demeanor, since we had dealings off-stage (i basically got tied up, beat, and humiliated for fun and profit) i considered it as a D/s relationship until only recently, and only now do i know that i was merely a playtoy.
Now i am in an actual D/s relationship and while there is much that did carry over from my earlier experiences, i now know that i was never before an active submissive but a bottom and did not truly have a Dominant, and now have much more to learn than i had ever imagined. At that time i was passed around between the Dominatrix in question and i had litle self-respect or desire to question anything that she asked me to do. I was pretty much a slut then, even outside of our "relationship", so when it came to sexual acts i had no real limits of my own (other than homosexual acts or anything anal, giving or recieving), and neither did She. I feel that i was treated as property, and not prescious in any way but that i was good on stage and in bed, and that i had helped her gain status amongst the Lady Dommes in Her circle.
Now, before there was any play in my current relationship with Ma'am [other than one scene that was eventually aborted by Her sick (honestly physically ill, and hearin him in the other room retching and etcetera took away from the mood) husband, which was seeing if we were compatible and before we had made a commitment with each other]; Ma'am had me fill out one of those BDSM checklists (actuaally for a femsub, because that's what She had available since at that time They had two subs in the poly family who were both girls and Ma'am really hadn't considered taking a male sub until meeting me) and on that list were several specific points about being traded with other Dominants. After i had filled it out, we had sat down and talked about several points that i had written in "will discuss" instead of simply marking "yes" or "no".
As Her style is sensual instead of true sadism, for my benefit She expressed that there may come a time when She will allow me to scene with a trusted Domme so that i can get the pain that so does it for me. In such a situation, She would supply the possible Domme but we decided that i would have the final say on whether i would be willing to scene with them and the three of us would discuss the limits. As for sex, i don't see her sharing me with another Domme; if it did occur, i would once again have the final decision. Outside of the community i may have a sex-life if i choose, but it would have to be with someone that She approves of (if not necessarily knows personally), and that she knows my headspace before i have sex and that protection is carefully and religiously used.
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