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pinkkeith -> RE: Is it really too much to ask a Master? (1/10/2007 10:40:29 AM)

I don't think this is too much to ask. I have been tested a number of times and luckily they have all turned out negative. Yet, I know that every time I go to get tested I'm nervous as heck. I practice safe sex, but you never know.



ADomDoc -> RE: Is it really too much to ask a Master? (1/10/2007 10:46:39 AM)

You would be irresponsible to NOT ask everyone involved to be tested prior to any sexual play.  And why bother getting involved w/ an infected Dom/me, sub or slave if you find they are infected.  IF you know you are infected, then you should be looking for others who are also infected (be it HIV, Herpes, etc) ... at least then you  aren't spreading disease to anyone new.  (It IS possible for someone w/ a dormant case of HIV to be converted to active AIDS by someone carrying a more virulent & active form of HIV/AIDS.)

I'm as negative as can be but am still glad to prove it to a sub or slave who might be interested.





FelinePersuasion -> RE: Is it really too much to ask a Master? (1/10/2007 10:47:31 AM)

I would not come with in 10 feet of someone sexually who will not provide current recent std test results. "trust me" I am clean will not fly with me. Most men do not show symptoms when or if  they do in fact carry an STD.

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Is it really too much to ask a new Master for HIV/Hep C testing before a sexual relationship starts? i, at one point, was talking to a Master that was tring to make me trust His word on it. 



SCswitch -> RE: Is it really too much to ask a Master? (1/10/2007 11:07:32 AM)

It should be a standard request in this lifestyle.  That is your life, and you are responsible for your safety as well as the Dom. 

I would not proceed with the relationship if it bothered me that much, and he refused. 

Respectfully,  SCswitch



Shylahgirl -> RE: Is it really too much to ask a Master? (1/10/2007 11:35:45 AM)

Asking for someone you are about to start a sexual relationship with to be tested is ALWAYS a good idea.

I know that when I met my Master he had just been tested and showed me his results without me even asking.

There's a chance the the "master" you talked to who wanted you to take his word for it was telling the truth. But it's the same as asking a new boyfriend to get tested. You don't know where the person has been. That would be something even the most submissive, passive person should put there foot down on.

For a Master/slave relationship to work there needs to be some amount of respect and careing for the slave concerns as well as the Masters and careing enough for the slaves peace of mind to get tested is showing that you care enough just to do it. Even if you know well enought to stake your lif on it, still both partys should be tested if one asks for it.

I know, in Utah at least, IHV tests are free, I'm guessing it's the same in other states too.



windchymes -> RE: Is it really too much to ask a Master? (1/10/2007 1:10:17 PM)

Any "Master" who tells you to simply accept his word at something as serious as STD testing is another unfortunate and glaring example of using "Manipulation by Domination". 

Kudo's to you for being mature and responsible.[:)]



QuietMistress -> RE: Is it really too much to ask a Master? (1/10/2007 1:29:21 PM)

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ORIGINAL: yourobject

Is it really too much to ask a new Master for HIV/Hep C testing before a sexual relationship starts? i, at one point, was talking to a Master that was tring to make me trust His word on it. For me, that just is not enough. Even though i may love a Master with every part of me, i know i would not trust him or anyone, to hold a gun to my head with one bullet in the chamber, spin, then pull the trigger.


I feel you are very wise to do so.  He can pick up a testing kit at the local pharmacy.  The results are numbered and he calls in to get them after the allotted time it takes to process.



onestandingstill -> RE: Is it really too much to ask a Master? (1/10/2007 2:13:56 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LeatherBentOne

Once tested and found negative, what would stop anyone from having unprotected sex afterwords with a person who is infected?  Then, transmitting a disease to you?  I find one-time testing before initial sexual contact can be a false sense of security for that reason.  Why do people hesitate to practice safer sex all the time?

Me personally, I have a latex allergy but use condoms with casual people any time I play and deal with being raw as hell for two days after.
Lamb skin does not stop aids and polypropylene is 30% more prone to breakage than regular condoms.
With my mate I just plain don't want to have all the issues in our sex life my latex allergy affords me & the ability to be spontaneous. I know there's a small chance he'll have unprotected sex with another.
Besides their reactions to wearing a condom with me when we first started being intimate help calm some of those fears or make me feel more at risk but it gives me a good judge of how they'll relate to their non-mated partners.
Even still I get tested once every 6 months since I did have multiple partners before (not now by choice though we're technically open)and so will he.
It is a risk, but it FEELS so very different and better w/o one.
Besides leaving your home to go to work any more is a risk.
You have to decide which are worth taking and which not to choose for yourself.
suzanne
** edited because I forgot to spell check and we all know how lots of people want this to be viewed as an essay contest with perfect spelling.



blinkingababy -> RE: Is it really too much to ask a Master? (1/10/2007 2:59:22 PM)

no it is not too much to ask, it can be life threating



gailcd -> RE: Is it really too much to ask a Master? (1/11/2007 11:06:13 PM)

never do anything unsafe.



persephonekore -> RE: Is it really too much to ask a Master? (1/17/2007 12:55:25 AM)

I went to Camden NJ and over heard this guy talking about fucking all these girls. And that one of the gilrs wanted to fuck him and she asked him to get tested for all HIV and he freaked out and was like "what's my name? I don't have HIV, I don't have that shit, anyone who knnows me knows that I don't have it" and I was just thinking ewwwwwwww what a fucking pig. Anyone who says that shit is bound to have something nasty with them. Even if it is only Hep C they have, still, it's disguting. And I think that it's very irresponsible for a Master/Dom not to get tested if they are to treat you with care and respect. I think it would be disrespectful for him not too.



gandalf0297 -> RE: Is it really too much to ask a Master? (1/27/2007 9:52:16 PM)

nope



Amaros -> RE: Is it really too much to ask a Master? (1/28/2007 8:43:28 AM)

Don't be absurd - it's not only a reasonable request, it's your right, nigh an obligation - hell I'd probobly be suspicious of somebody who didn't ask.



BOUNTYHUNTER -> RE: Is it really too much to ask a Master? (1/28/2007 8:50:16 AM)

A std test is required here and in return I provide results from my  last one..I practice safe sex and am tested every  6 months...all ways remeber when he says" I don't like the way if feels.I perfer not to use a comdom.".then this is a person I wouldn't trust my life too and I would tell that person"BUDDY cover that stump or we won't hump ..be well..WILLIAM ..



beltainefaerie -> RE: Is it really too much to ask a Master? (1/28/2007 9:32:55 AM)


If he throws a big fit about this safety precaution, what else would he not care to be conscientious about?



bearincuffs -> RE: Is it really too much to ask a Master? (1/28/2007 10:26:40 AM)

Asking a new sex partner or a new Master to be tested for HIV/Hep C is the most wisest thing to do in my opinion. Even if one oe the other walready done so six months prior. I make a point to be tested for the HIV virus every year and in is recorded and signed by the the health nurse. And have just recently done the full series of vaccinatons for Hep a & B just as a safety measure. Then I know when a new sexual relationssip starts, I have the record to back me up when I'm asked if I've been tested. This removes any doubt on my part and I expect the same from the other person, no matter who he is!



Adrenochrome -> RE: Is it really too much to ask a Master? (1/28/2007 4:18:37 PM)

I would consider it de rigeur, frankly. I do my best to get tested every nine months, regardless of a lack of sexual contact during that period (since HIV can crop up after a lengthy incubation) -- at minimum, I get tested once a year. Since it is literally a matter of life and death, I ask any potential sexual partner (including my slave) to get tested prior to contact. Naturally, I'm open with my (thus far negative) results.

Anyone refusing to go get tested makes me arch an eyebrow in suspicion. That's if they're just some person on the street. If they're a potential partner, and they refuse, I won't have sexual contact with them. And, in my humble opinion, if someone is trying to use their Dominance as leverage against getting tested, then they're too stupid to waste any more time with.



BabyNyla -> RE: Is it really too much to ask a Master? (1/28/2007 4:22:11 PM)

I don't think it's too much to ask.  But I might be an awful person, lol.  I ask for tests even after my husband comes back from deployment.  I worry first and foremost about myself, since no one will look after you as much as you do yourself :)



krikket -> RE: Is it really too much to ask a Master? (1/28/2007 4:58:12 PM)

I don't think it's too much to ask, but I'm not surprised that someone balked at it.  Considering the number of "doms/masters" i've met with who wanna jump into the sack (or on the floor, against a wall, etc.), without even knowing my last name, not much surprises me these days..lol.

Good luck..
jimini



desires2 -> RE: Is it really too much to ask a Master? (1/28/2007 5:02:21 PM)

I think it is a reasonable request--if he won't agree--then move on.  I say that because you would not have asked the question if it was not of great importance to you..Stand by what need to feel safe, sane and consensual...~smiles~



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