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RE: Is sex a requirement? - 1/9/2007 9:45:05 PM

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Hell, I require it in the parking lot or any other damn place I want it, and boy do I want it.

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RE: Is sex a requirement? - 1/9/2007 10:01:31 PM

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Not a requirement, but can be a fringe benefit.

Gotta love a job with good fringe benefits.

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RE: Is sex a requirement? - 1/9/2007 10:56:46 PM

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Is sex really a neccesary part of BDSM? as a submissive, i'm born to serve in most any capacity as requested. but are subs really expected to serve in the bedroom?

It is with me.

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RE: Is sex a requirement? - 1/10/2007 5:13:08 AM

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Ok but be warned benji this bitch bites

Do me a favour and stop while it's still attached - once it's off, the pain recedes.

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I might or i may find new ways to continue your pain

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RE: Is sex a requirement? - 1/10/2007 5:14:12 AM

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blow job. Is blowing really a job ?

Yeahhhhhh its a hard job (pardon the pun) but sum1s gotta do it
And that sum1 is me with relish

Would that be hot dog "relish"?

Eww yak no

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RE: Is sex a requirement? - 1/10/2007 5:43:17 AM

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Noooooo, it is not a requirement AT ALL. However, every single male submissive that has contacted me wanting to serve has, at some point, begun to try and insinuate the service of that little pecker of theirs in there somewhere.

They write, I say "ahhhhhh, lesbian!" They reply along the lines of "oh I know, I just want to serve" So me being the fairly tollerant woman I am decide to give them enough rope to hang themselves IF they have not already bored me to tears. Every single one has managed to get the subject of sex or their penis into an email or IM exchange within 2-5 interactions. Not one has been able to concentrate enough to complete the first task I give them as a test. And trust me, it is so easy a cave woman could do it.

Now with a female submissive/slave. There will be a point that sex will more than likely be involved but not immediately.

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RE: Is sex a requirement? - 1/10/2007 5:44:50 AM

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If blow jobs are a job then I am accepting applications

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RE: Is sex a requirement? - 1/10/2007 7:03:12 AM

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Is sex really a neccesary part of BDSM? as a submissive, i'm born to serve in most any capacity as requested. but are subs really expected to serve in the bedroom?

Depends on the relationship.

If you don't want sexual contact, then you need to be upfront about that when you are negotiating. If you think you'll never want it, make it a hard limit; if you think things could change, make a soft limit.

However, realistically speaking, while consent to sex can be withdrawn legally at any time during the relationship, you want it today but not next week (at least in the USA) emotionally and relationshipwise it is rarely that clear cut. After you've been sexual with someone it is very difficult to stop being sexual especially if you are living together. Sometimes people grow apart sexual or they both just don't have time but if at least one partner still wants sex, it is emotionally difficult to stop without creating very negative feelings.

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RE: Is sex a requirement? - 1/10/2007 7:05:06 AM

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blow job. Is blowing really a job ?

Yeahhhhhh its a hard job (pardon the pun) but sum1s gotta do it
And that sum1 is me with relish

Do you put the relish in your mouth before...or after???

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RE: Is sex a requirement? - 1/10/2007 8:46:45 AM

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Not required..but it sure is creamy and yummy frosting on the bdsm cake. I get so turned on by a scene, I can't imagine not having sex or something that is sexually connected.

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RE: Is sex a requirement? - 1/10/2007 9:33:52 AM

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I have one boy I sleep with. I will not sleep with the other. A personal preference.

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RE: Is sex a requirement? - 1/10/2007 9:50:31 AM

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sex does not have to be part of bdsm, unfortunately there are many who disagree because it is the only way they can get laid!

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RE: Is sex a requirement? - 1/10/2007 10:43:43 AM

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If blow jobs are a job then I am accepting applications

Hmm i need a new job lol

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RE: Is sex a requirement? - 1/10/2007 10:45:10 AM

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ORIGINAL: CreativeDominant

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blow job. Is blowing really a job ?

Yeahhhhhh its a hard job (pardon the pun) but sum1s gotta do it
And that sum1 is me with relish

Do you put the relish in your mouth before...or after???

I get my fave flavour of relish during if ya catch my drift

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RE: Is sex a requirement? - 1/10/2007 10:46:08 AM

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mirkala thinks that it depends of what Master/Mistress wants of you. Maybe if they don't want a sex slave you don't be one.

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RE: Is sex a requirement? - 1/10/2007 11:18:57 AM

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While it is not necessary for all, for us it is intense foreplay; sets the dynamic for sex and continues afterwards. It adds heat to the fire.

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RE: Is sex a requirement? - 1/10/2007 11:24:54 AM

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If someone is truly intrested in service, then sex is secondery to a submissive who know how to serve.

If a Dom/ Domme say they want your service then require sex from you and that's not what you want then you shouldn't serve that person.

Service needs to make both sides happy and if you're stuck in a situation that involoes sex and that's not what you want the it's not making you happy and therefore not working.

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RE: Is sex a requirement? - 1/10/2007 11:35:49 AM

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No, its not. If it was a part of BDSM ProDoms would indead be prostitutes. My most enjoyable relationships are the ones that are emotional, physically and sexually fulfilling. Although it might not neccessarily have to be a part of it, to me it is more rewarding if it is a part of it.

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RE: Is sex a requirement? - 1/10/2007 11:42:16 AM

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Noooooo, it is not a requirement AT ALL. However, every single male submissive that has contacted me wanting to serve has, at some point, begun to try and insinuate the service of that little pecker of theirs in there somewhere.
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Now with a female submissive/slave. There will be a point that sex will more than likely be involved but not immediately.

I've had the same experience with males. Even the older subs who claim to just want to be my sub handyman eventually end up asking for some sort of sexual perk to their service, as if I'm into an exchange or barter of my sexual favours for their handymen favours.

I bought my own toolbox and electric toys and I do most of my own handywork as a result! LOL

It's been a long time since I was able to talk to a female submissive with any seriousness (mainly because I just don't seem to attract them) so my memory is a bit foggy, but I do agree that they were usually into figuring out if our mental and practical needs and personalities meshed, loooooong before any talk of sex would come up. If they brought up sex quickly, I pretty much assumed they were either 1) a guy 2) a kid 3) looking for a third for some man in their life.

S.

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RE: Is sex a requirement? - 1/10/2007 11:44:22 AM

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Is sex really a neccesary part of BDSM? as a submissive, i'm born to serve in most any capacity as requested. but are subs really expected to serve in the bedroom?

It is with me.