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being strict online - 1/9/2007 5:10:22 PM

GenuineSoul

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looking for ways to be more strict with My slave online. W/we do have a real time relationship, which is what I have the most experience in, however her and I only get to see each other about once a week. she is looking for more control when W/we talk online. Looking for any suggestions, rules, etc that have worked for people in online relationships. thanks for any help.

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RE: being strict online - 1/9/2007 5:21:21 PM

powerofcontrol

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Assign tasks for her to do online so you can check them. Maybe keeping a journal of her thoughts, emailed to you at assigned times. Have a schedule for her to follow in your on-line contacting. Dictate how on-line communication is to take place, and when. These basic things will establish discipline.

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RE: being strict online - 1/9/2007 5:30:01 PM

LadyJulieAnn

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You can require her to interact with you while in a particular position (ie. kneeling), have her wear something to your specifications, or incorporate some simple bondage (gag, ankle restraints, etc.).

Have fun,
Julie

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RE: being strict online - 1/9/2007 5:32:28 PM

justinasamerk

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Here are a few ideas to up the control...
1-online diary or journal must be written and you as a dominant respond to it, keep up on whats going on through her head
2-have her sleep on the floor, talk about those experiences, what she feels to not even be allowed to sleep in her own bed
3-monitor her diet, exercise, health and fitness...allow her to only eat a certain type of food...rather then saying she may not eat..this this this...tell her what shecan only eat...
4-when talking to you on the phone or writing via im,have her kneel down
5-give her daily written assignments pick a topic, have her discuss it or write about it, go over it with her the next time you see her in person
6-have her write a poem, a song, an erotic story, for you to both share when face to face

When in a distant relationship that main thing is to keep your slave busy, and have her know that you are watching her or still there.
Hope this helps Genuine, good luck...

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RE: being strict online - 1/9/2007 5:37:34 PM

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Can see here filing her nails... while acting like she's having trouble ramming a 12 inch dong up her pooper!

out.

D.G.

p.s. Jesus please protect me from your followers.

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RE: being strict online - 1/9/2007 5:42:52 PM

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this type of thing fails me.........

You: so I told you to do such and such, you fuckin' slut, you really let me down, I can do this by myself without the heartache of you coming in and dragging my soul down to hell.
She: Oh, Master; I weep tears of sorrow...
You: Let's move beyond, finger yourself in atonement
She: Yes...Yes,yes,yes, oh Master I clean myself.
You: Do it pretty...

I mean what is the idea other than eroticism, you command and you cannot reach...like a harlequin romance----everybody gets fucked...

How can you hold dominion over that which you cannot grasp, at will? Don't give me the enthralled ideas, absence makes the heart grow fonder, only works for a few weeks or months at most.

What is the control?

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RE: being strict online - 1/9/2007 8:32:21 PM

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In my first D/s relationshipI had a poly sister who did not live with us.
What he did was give her rituals to do in the morning when she woke up, gave her a spacific instruction to call him once she'd completed this ritual, and he had another ritual she did when she went to bed.
Give her a list to read, or instruct her to read a book or web site and report her thoughts to you.
Things that occupy her daily she does just because you want her to would help.

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RE: being strict online - 1/9/2007 8:52:03 PM

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Hi Genuine Soul. You do the same as when you are together. Give her instructions of things to do, or things to wear, like Leotards and Tights or Fishnets and Mary Janes. If she has a web cam, that is even better. Whe I was with MADAM, it was like your relationship. She would either chat with me or e-mail me things she wanted me to do. And when I had Mistress Haley, that was only Cyber. She had me take digital pictures of things she had me do, wo she could see that I really done them, and also get some enjoyment, as if she was there with me.

I have loads of things I had to do for MADAM and Mistress Haley, but there are too many things to write here. E-mail me and I can tell you all kinds of things I done for them, and a few others that helped me out too.

Still Looking for a Cyber Mistress, BalletBob

PS HI Onestandingstill !

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RE: being strict online - 1/9/2007 11:12:06 PM

MasterHXB

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Doming a slave online is a fool's game. Itis not the real thing, so don't waste your time.

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RE: being strict online - 1/9/2007 11:24:55 PM

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As a sub who has had Dominants try to control her via the internet, it doesn't work. For me there is no control without the consquences. You can tell me all day long to sleep on the floor but when the computer is off and it's time for bed, where do you think I'm gonna lay my head if you is not there to ensure I'm doing what you said?

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RE: being strict online - 1/9/2007 11:30:17 PM

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the one thing ppl dont seem to get from online relationship is that is is based on exactly the same thing as real timr relationships... TRUST..if you dont got it you dont got it....lets face it.. alot of rt bdsm relationships dont last very long either.. i think they can be a very valuable tool....omg...we are all online now... .looking for that one person to call our other...we all start online..im very lucky.. i havea online sub..he is wonderful...he does everything i ask and i ask him to do things i can track...and if you ask any rt sub the worst punishment they can get is to be ignored...well same for online...

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RE: being strict online - 1/9/2007 11:47:48 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sunnydays
the one thing ...TRUST.... if you ask any rt sub the worst punishment they can get is to be ignored...well same for online...

Truer words have never been spoken. I thought I had done all he asked and was being a good girl. we spoke of meeting next weekend. now nothing... . neglect is a painful tool.... I do not recommend it if you wish the relationship to work. Neglect causes deep and painful scars....mine weep. I am left feeling the fool.

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