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Question of ethics - 1/9/2007 5:25:17 PM

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I have been seeing a Mistress for a while now but no LTR has been established, or has she collared me. However she doesn’t like the idea of me meeting other Mistresses, it seems to bother her that I even chat with a couple. She has openly said that she has no right to tell me not to considering the fact that no commitment has been made. She is also aware of the fact that I’m seeking a LTR. If she chose to collar me I would probably accept it but I really don’t think she wants to or at least has some reservations. She is actively seeking other subs or slaves.
My question is should I just abstain from contact with anyone else or should I continue to explore other possibilities?

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RE: Question of ethics - 1/9/2007 5:54:13 PM

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ORIGINAL: LTRSub4U

I have been seeing a Mistress for a while now but no LTR has been established, or has she collared me. However she doesn’t like the idea of me meeting other Mistresses, it seems to bother her that I even chat with a couple. She has openly said that she has no right to tell me not to considering the fact that no commitment has been made. She is also aware of the fact that I’m seeking a LTR. If she chose to collar me I would probably accept it but I really don’t think she wants to or at least has some reservations. She is actively seeking other subs or slaves.
My question is should I just abstain from contact with anyone else or should I continue to explore other possibilities?

What do you WANT to do? You are beholden to no one but yourself at this stage. If it really bothers her, yet she doesn't want to offer a collar, then she has to deal, in my opinion.

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RE: Question of ethics - 1/9/2007 6:45:57 PM

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Agreed. What do you want to do?

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RE: Question of ethics - 1/9/2007 7:23:00 PM

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I agree with what MasterFireMaam has said. You don't owe the Mistress in question anything. You need to do whats best for you and not keep your life on hold. What you could do is tell her straight out that you want to know her intentions. If she really cares about you I would think that she would be honest and tell you why she hasn't collared you already and if she plans to in the future. Otherwise you should be able to chat with other Mistresses in case you do meet the one who will end up offering you her collar.

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RE: Question of ethics - 1/9/2007 7:38:28 PM

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ditto to everything that has already been said

you are a free agent at this time & you need to do what is best for you

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RE: Question of ethics - 1/9/2007 7:50:06 PM

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I'd ask her directly what your status is with her before I would act.

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RE: Question of ethics - 1/9/2007 7:50:48 PM

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Since you do not belong to her, and she's seeking others outside you and is not being exclusive then go ahead and speak to whom you like. yes some people w/ill say it's her right to speak to others and demand you don't, but I don't go for double standards.

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RE: Question of ethics - 1/9/2007 7:59:08 PM

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Double ditto to everything said thus far. She needs to decide what she is doing vis-a-vis you and you have a right to know that. You also have a right to make your own decisions in this.

It ain't easy, tho and I wish you the best.

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RE: Question of ethics - 1/9/2007 8:07:01 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LTRSub4U

I have been seeing a Mistress for a while now but no LTR has been established, or has she collared me. However she doesn’t like the idea of me meeting other Mistresses, it seems to bother her that I even chat with a couple. She has openly said that she has no right to tell me not to considering the fact that no commitment has been made. She is also aware of the fact that I’m seeking a LTR. If she chose to collar me I would probably accept it but I really don’t think she wants to or at least has some reservations. She is actively seeking other subs or slaves.
My question is should I just abstain from contact with anyone else or should I continue to explore other possibilities?

Why not share how you feel with her and discuss what your options are?
Be honest, and let us know how it goes!
Good luck!

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RE: Question of ethics - 1/9/2007 9:46:47 PM

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Have you told her you desire her collar, feel you are ready, and want to become hers exclusively and for an LTR? M

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RE: Question of ethics - 1/10/2007 5:19:51 PM

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I want to thank each of you for your thoughtful responses. Has been a big help.

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