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RE: Is there a way... - 1/9/2007 7:12:52 PM   
KatyLied


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Status: offline 		I hate to tell you this, but sometimes when you block a person, they will come back and haunt you as another profile.  Just saying.  Sometimes it's better to ignore than to block.

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RE: Is there a way... - 1/9/2007 7:13:59 PM   
cuddleheart50


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Status: offline 		I have ignored him after the first couple of emails, and have gotten 10 since then....

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RE: Is there a way... - 1/9/2007 7:14:50 PM   
bandit25


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Status: offline 		Good point, Katy.

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RE: Is there a way... - 1/9/2007 7:20:28 PM   
KatyLied


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I have ignored him after the first couple of emails, and have gotten 10 since then....


I think it's a bad idea to feed a person's dysfunction.  He wants attention, and that's what you give him when he sees the "blocked" flash in front of him.  We used to be able to "delete unread", but I don't think that function is here now.


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RE: Is there a way... - 1/9/2007 7:22:14 PM   
sweetnurseBBW


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Status: offline 		Did you try and report him? Not sure if that will do anygood or if you can.

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RE: Is there a way... - 1/9/2007 7:22:59 PM   
blushingflower


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Have you told him you're not interested and that you'll have to block him if he doesn't stop?

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RE: Is there a way... - 1/9/2007 7:23:12 PM   
cuddleheart50


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Status: offline 		I'm not worried about him, he will go away in time...

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RE: Is there a way... - 1/9/2007 7:24:56 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		The only way to deal with anything you don't like in cyberland is to ignore it.

Anything else only suggests that you recognize it as something that actually merits your attention and energy.

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RE: Is there a way... - 1/9/2007 8:13:00 PM   
LTRsubNW


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quote:

ORIGINAL: cuddleheart50

Too make youself invisible to some profiles here, so they cannot see you when you are online.  Hmmmmmmmmm


Yes, but it requires the use of a very expensive cream and I've never used it once without becoming more visible....so I'm afraid I can't really help much here.

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RE: Is there a way... - 1/9/2007 10:01:58 PM   
MysticFireTopaz


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quote:

ORIGINAL: demureone

quote:

ORIGINAL: MysticFireTopaz

I believe that if you click the "Hide User" button for the profile, they will not come up in your searches, nor will you come up in theirs.  However, if they do a direct lookup on your screen name, I am pretty sure you do come up and they can tell if you are online.
 
Lady Topaz


I'm sorry, but the hide feature doesn't hide you from their searches... only them from yours.  I did check.



Thank you for checking.  It is a shame it doesn't do that. 
 
I do agree with what others have said about blocking being the way to go with the annoying ones, though some will create another screen name and try again.
 
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RE: Is there a way... - 1/9/2007 10:56:30 PM   
Sinergy


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quote:

ORIGINAL: cuddleheart50

I guess Im just gonna have to block them, didnt want to do that, but they just dont see the light!!!



One aspect of an abusive relationship deals with what happens when person A leaves person B.

Person B keeps contacting person A. 

Person A does X to get away from them.

Person B's psychology drives them to redouble their effort after noticing Person A is still doing something which involves Person B.

From a profile standpoing, anything you do merely starts the hard-wired brain nuttiness in the person harassing you, making them redouble their efforts.

If you simply ignore them in your head and delete their emails, your lack of any discernable response at all will eventually make them give up and go away.

Anything they see you do to try to make them go away simply starts the entire cycle all over again from the beginning.

Just me, etc.

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RE: Is there a way... - 1/9/2007 11:08:33 PM   
simplyangelic1


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Status: offline 		If you are talking in general on the collar me site.  You can block a user.  I know that keeps them from contacting you.  Not sure if it makes it so they can't see you or not.  The other thing you can do is de-activate your profile.  Not delete it.  Then nobody can see you, but you can see them.

Oops...Seems I should have checked for a page two...

Ignore him if you can.  Hopefully he will lose interest and move on.  I had to take a more extreme approach with my stalker but then too, I had made the mistake of having a first meeting with this person before realizing how he really was so more was involved then a few emails on CM.  Good luck.


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RE: Is there a way... - 1/10/2007 12:02:59 AM   
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ORIGINAL: cuddleheart50

I have ignored him after the first couple of emails, and have gotten 10 since then....


 I take it it's a guy? If it is, you could always create an entry in your journal that says ''After many sessions with the psychiatrist I've been seeing, I've decided to come out of the closet and acknowledge I’m a female to male crossdresser''




- R

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RE: Is there a way... - 1/10/2007 8:02:12 PM   
LeMis


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When the problem person e-mails you, just do NOT read their e-mail and delete it, out of sight - out of mind.

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RE: Is there a way... - 1/11/2007 6:57:53 AM   
domiguy


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Status: offline 		The only thing I can suggest is to become invisible before you visit this site.  It's worked well for me.

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RE: Is there a way... - 1/11/2007 7:19:37 AM   
Rule


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Status: offline 		Simply do not log in, but visit CM as a guest.
 
If the problem is limited to the other side you can log in on the forum side only.
 
However, I guess that you want to read your mail on the other side. In that case log in, copy your mail, log out, read it and answer it in Word or whatever, log in again, paste your answers into your replies and log out again. That minimizes log-in time. You may want to vary the times when you log in, so he cannot anticipate on them.

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