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When is it my fault? - 1/10/2007 1:14:58 PM

willingslave316

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Hello to A/all here.

My Mistress has decreed that i am to have no contact with any other females, both Domme and sub while i remain on this site.

While i have no problems with such an event, i am also instructed to give Her email to any female that contacts me! If such person does write to Ma'am, She will usually find out what was said and whether or not She believes that turned me on. This of course leads to the severity of my punishment.

my question is this: How can i be blamed if another Mistress decides to contact me? my reply would be no more than a thank You and my Mistresses email so what would stop another Mistress telling lies to my Mistress in order to get me a very severe punishment?

i don't want to leave the site. i like it here and have met some wonderful people and i have not been asked / instructed to.

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RE: When is it my fault? - 1/10/2007 1:21:14 PM

SaintAllie

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You are in the "ask a mistress" forum.. asking questions .. can this be construed as "contact"? if so... I suppose you are now going to be punished.........
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RE: When is it my fault? - 1/10/2007 1:24:59 PM

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That, Mistress would be a judgement call.

There has been no email contact, merely general conversation in a chat room type environment.

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RE: When is it my fault? - 1/10/2007 1:44:29 PM

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First your Mistress should tell you what to do about people that write you and their messages.
My suggestion if she won't give you direction is women's names are pink, mens names are black or blue.
Leave the pink messages that come alone and let your Mistress open read or delete them.
Don't open them or reply at all.
Even a no thank you IS you communicating with them.

LOL hell you're now communicating with me in this thread and I'm a woman.
Do what she asks and you won't be in trouble.
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RE: When is it my fault? - 1/10/2007 1:48:00 PM

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Doen't make a whit of difference why...she told you not to. Either obey her or don't.

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RE: When is it my fault? - 1/10/2007 1:51:21 PM

SaintAllie

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you stated no contact at all.. so what you really meant was no mail..

Why don't you ask your Mistress what to do with unwanted mail?.

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RE: When is it my fault? - 1/10/2007 1:51:25 PM

MsHeather

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Easy fix go into Mail Controls & send all female mails to your Bulk folder and tell your Mistress you have done so. This should fix it unless you are just online at this time and use CM mail as prinmary contact avenue. If thats the case this probably will not work.

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RE: When is it my fault? - 1/10/2007 2:11:09 PM

willingslave316

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Thank You MsHeather, i will do that.

i will also tell Ma'am about what i did here and accept the punishment accordingly.

Mistress will hopefully understand and if not, well i bought it on myself really.

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RE: When is it my fault? - 1/10/2007 3:17:53 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: willingslave316

Hello to A/all here.

My Mistress has decreed that i am to have no contact with any other females, both Domme and sub while i remain on this site.

While i have no problems with such an event, i am also instructed to give Her email to any female that contacts me! If such person does write to Ma'am, She will usually find out what was said and whether or not She believes that turned me on. This of course leads to the severity of my punishment.

my question is this: How can i be blamed if another Mistress decides to contact me? my reply would be no more than a thank You and my Mistresses email so what would stop another Mistress telling lies to my Mistress in order to get me a very severe punishment?

i don't want to leave the site. i like it here and have met some wonderful people and i have not been asked / instructed to.

w s

If she's setting up the relationship so that she can punish you because it's raining...and you're agreeing...then you might have to hide your profile. Of course, she might just be looking for reasons to get mad at you so she has a reason to punish you. I highly recommend you talk to her about it. If she doesn't want to discuss it, consider what kind of relationship you're really getting into.

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RE: When is it my fault? - 1/10/2007 3:33:43 PM

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Dear willingslave316, Ladies and Gentlemen;

In my mind's eyes--any Mistress/Master who isolates a slave from the community is insecure and does not trust their slave to honor their relationship and or commitment.

From the post, the Mistress is and will base your punishment based on assumptions as well as the assumed intent of those who contact you.
Seemingly, you're more of a little boy, a prisoner then a trusted servant. But, perhaps being more law aware; I prefer having more than assumptions as to cause any punishments. And, as a Dominant--I will use a slave's body to please me and do not need excuses as to apply impact, e.g. spanking, canes, etc.

As to your direct control over other individuals making their contact with you; is as absurd as you having control over a bug that smacks into your windshield while driving or somebody driving their car across the road in your path. The only control you do have is with yourself. In my mind's eyes--it is not your fault when others approach you and to give a polite reply and refer all future inquiries to the Mistress/Master. To not reply would be rude and when you reply politely--it reflects civil politeness on you and her/him alike.

Respectfully submitted for consideration,
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RE: When is it my fault? - 1/10/2007 4:06:14 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: willingslave316

Hello to A/all here.

My Mistress has decreed that i am to have no contact with any other females, both Domme and sub while i remain on this site.

While i have no problems with such an event, i am also instructed to give Her email to any female that contacts me! If such person does write to Ma'am, She will usually find out what was said and whether or not She believes that turned me on. This of course leads to the severity of my punishment.

my question is this: How can i be blamed if another Mistress decides to contact me? my reply would be no more than a thank You and my Mistresses email so what would stop another Mistress telling lies to my Mistress in order to get me a very severe punishment?

i don't want to leave the site. i like it here and have met some wonderful people and i have not been asked / instructed to.

w s

#1 you are all ready talking to a whole heck of a lot of people with this post.

#2 I can't relate to this idea at all; no grok on this end. The only time I have controlled who Fox talks to has been when I knew that person was harmful to him -- then I didn't say "don't talk" I said "you can't play with him/her because XYZ reasons".

Personally I'd say such attempts to restrict who you talk to is a sign of possible abuse down the line. It is common practice of abusers to isolate their victims.

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RE: When is it my fault? - 1/10/2007 5:09:14 PM

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Why would another Domme take the time to "lie" to your Mistress when she most likely doesn't know you or your Mistress?

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RE: When is it my fault? - 1/10/2007 5:52:51 PM

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I come from a back round where isolation was used a primary tool of my enslavement, and i have a few thoughts on it.

one it is very effective, in that it makes the slave focus on the owner...and it can be wonderfully fun to have your own world....but it also can be lonely.

it is also a very extreme (and to my mind a little unimaginative) way of cultivating the relationship.

as i say it is extreme and your relationship sounds like an online one, i would think something of this level would be more supportive to your growth and acclimation if you and she were in meat life together.

it perhaps denotes insecurity or imaturity on her part.

i am always leery about folks who talk about "severe punishments" for minor, and especially unavoidable, infractions.

i think you are right to be confuzed....sit down and talk with her on this.....have her give you some clear ideas about what she gets from severe punishments and see if you cant negotiate a system where you do not have to fail her in order to engage in rough play.

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RE: When is it my fault? - 1/11/2007 3:17:45 PM

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Obediance is a form of servitude, and your Mistress has desired your obediance. You can be obediant and ignore the request of Mistresses contacting you, or you can be polite to the unknown mistress thus being disobediant. The choice lies within you to follow the course of action thay makes your heart happy. Now if you are disobediant is that not a justification for punishment? So your Mistress may choose to punish for your disobediance. She may like punishment, so her orders may be setting you up for such punishment, or she may just wish your obediance as a sacrifice.

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