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how to get experience - 1/10/2007 4:10:15 PM

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My question is if all misstreses want a slave to have experience how do you find the one to give you the right training where are they at ?????

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RE: how to get experience - 1/10/2007 4:12:39 PM

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The best way to meet anyone is face-to-face at munches and organizations. You can get valuable experience by volunteering for these groups.

Otherwise you can look for folks in your area online who are interested in training or who are professionals.

You can also look for someone you have a lot of other things in common with and start off together if both of you have less experience -- or not, she may have more.

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RE: how to get experience - 1/17/2007 2:54:39 PM

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My question is if all misstreses want a slave to have experience how do you find the one to give you the right training where are they at ?????

Patience... some of us prefer the untrained.

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RE: how to get experience - 1/17/2007 3:16:54 PM

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Amen to that Jewel - it's easier to get someone trained the way we want when they don't have a lot of "but she wanted it done this way" to be untrained out of ... lol

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RE: how to get experience - 1/17/2007 4:30:45 PM

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Absolutely!!! I have had to "untrain" a few times but some of the behaviors were so ingrained that it just didn't work. Give me a newbie most anytime... preferably one that hasn't been exposed to all the unrealistic fantasy porn... Hell, I'd take the OP (I love the linebacker look) if it weren't for the fact that I'm 20+ years older then him!!! A boy like that could... well, you get the point.

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RE: how to get experience - 1/17/2007 4:47:01 PM

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You know, Jewel ... one of these days, we are going to have to get together - I know that y'all don't live that far away from us

But, yeah, definitely agree ... have had a few that we dismissed because they couldn't get their minds around how we want things to work, because "that's not how they were taught to serve" ... oh, and can't forget the ones who insist on calling us "Mistress" because that's what the first braindead fantasy-feeder told them was proper ...

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RE: how to get experience - 1/17/2007 8:08:56 PM

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If you're looking for just play, no strings attached, a prodomme is a good option. Spend some time finding one that's approach is appropriate to what you're looking for.

If you're looking for a lifestyle situation, do as TammyJo suggested - get involved in your local scene, volunteer, meet folks, etc. Keep in mind though that married male subs are a plentiful commodity that doesn't have a big market. It may be helpful for the wife to attend with you.

Dommes online are inundated by emails from married/involved male subs with no experience looking to play - it's not likely that you'll find someone via this medium.

Either route is going to require you to invest something of your time or money and self to make it happen.

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