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BDSM discussion/limit list - 1/10/2007 11:02:18 PM   
CandleInTheWind


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Status: offline 		I was wondering if anyone can point me toward a BDSM limit/discussion list for activities and limits that a sumbmissive and dominant can discuss together??

I had one from a previous relationship and since i am in a new relationship and will eventually going there...I would like to have one to have at the ready to be able to cover things totally..

thank you all for the help

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RE: BDSM discussion/limit list - 1/11/2007 1:46:54 AM   
wandersalone


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Status: offline 		Here is a link to what I think was the most recent thread asking for a checklist - hope it helps

http://www.collarchat.com/m_745205/mpage_1/key_fetish/tm.htm#748251

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RE: BDSM discussion/limit list - 1/11/2007 4:43:24 AM   
RedSavageSlave


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Status: offline 		http://www.bdsm-education.com/checklist.html

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RE: BDSM discussion/limit list - 1/11/2007 7:32:23 AM   
ViceVersa


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Status: offline 		I actually like the one on bondage.com.  Easy to fill out, lots of categories, and if you and your partner both fill it out, it color codes your responses to show where you do and don't overlap.

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RE: BDSM discussion/limit list - 1/11/2007 8:17:13 AM   
KnightofMists


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quote:

ORIGINAL: CandleInTheWind

...I would like to have one to have at the ready to be able to cover things totally..



no list will ever be able to cover things totally.... such a mindset is unrealistic.   Just discuss all you can as best you can... and be prepared to add things in the future as they come.

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RE: BDSM discussion/limit list - 1/11/2007 8:19:03 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		Not to mention, those lists rarely cover "having kids" "paying bills" "retirement planning" "career goals" and all those things.

Not that I find the lists of no use- I think it's the perfect thing for a 3rd date to just sit for a few hours and talk through together.  Can be oodles of fun to rifle through fantasies.  But to just check it off and send it in an email I find to be not very effective towards its purpose.

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RE: BDSM discussion/limit list - 1/11/2007 12:36:38 PM   
whisperedsighs


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ORIGINAL: ViceVersa

I actually like the one on bondage.com.  Easy to fill out, lots of categories, and if you and your partner both fill it out, it color codes your responses to show where you do and don't overlap.

Vice



I agree the one on bondage.com is pretty thurough.

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