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Meeting Relationships.. - 1/10/2007 11:42:57 PM

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As one goes through this lifestyle we have opportunities to meet alot of different individuals. We also have opportunities to meet some individuals that are apart of some pretty powerful relationships. Seeing them as an relationship can be rather incredible at times and even inspiring. Are there some relationship you have meet that just stick our for you ... that have felt fortunate to meet and/or know. How does it affect you to see or know these relationships.

Two relationships come to my mind...

One is denika and her husband. It is really awesome thing to watch these two together. Two individuals that are so sync and connected. They can go each their own directions in a party and watch them cross paths as they work the room. They connect in such soft and subtle ways that sometimes I don't think they even realize it. I am fortunate to call them friends.

Second relationship is two individuals right from CM. My house had the fortune to meet Archer and Elegant a few months ago. Both postive and strong individuals on the forums and even more so in person. Watching them together is indeed inspiring. The bond between them is incredible strong and obviously so. Elegant has such a witty and outgoing personality but everything becomes still with a quiet whisper from Archer. I recall thinking to myself that if Archer dropped a needle in Elegant would hear it. The strength between them is indeed a pleasure to have seen.

I am always inspired when I think or see relationships like the two above. I seek to understand just alittle of why they have what they have... and maybe learn something that will help in strenghting the bonds I have with my own.

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RE: Meeting Relationships.. - 1/11/2007 2:26:57 AM

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I have to say I am truly touched that you see Rob and I this way,

Rob is the best part of me, my bestfriend that I can tell any secret too.Talk seriously with and seconds later giggle madly like kids We both know that we can love others without those feelings threatening what we share.

Some may see you as the 'Big Bad' to quote Buffy but underneath Knight, you have a heart that is pretty deep. The care and devotion you have for your girls is powerful, and they know they are loved. You encourage growth, empowerment and communication. Something sadly missing in many relationships. You also foster laughter, a powerful tool.

Oddly enough my parents, who years later as an adult I happened to notice were poly ( our nanny lived with us for over twenty years and when all of us -five siblings- look back and look at floor plans to the house no one knew just were Aunty Alice's room was *s*
I grew up in a very patriach run family, at family dinners my Dad and brothers were served first and my Mom was always the last to sit down but pity to anyone who touched their plate before my Mother sat. They also were form the generation of the 1950's when that was normal. I used to think it was insane that my Mom put him first until I was older and asked her about it. She didn't serve him first becouse he was the 'man' of the house she served him first becouse she loved him and this was how she showed it. ( My parents were British and Scottish, not the most touchy feely with each other) but they showed affection in other subtle ways that were powerful. They were an example of a healthy D/s relationship.

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Rob and I are unique (polite term for weird at times *g*) I beleive we share selflessness. I put him first and he puts me first.

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RE: Meeting Relationships.. - 1/11/2007 5:26:42 AM

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ORIGINAL: KnightofMists

As one goes through this lifestyle we have opportunities to meet alot of different individuals. We also have opportunities to meet some individuals that are apart of some pretty powerful relationships. Seeing them as an relationship can be rather incredible at times and even inspiring. Are there some relationship you have meet that just stick our for you ... that have felt fortunate to meet and/or know. How does it affect you to see or know these relationships.

Great thread ! i have not had the privilege to know individuals as part of a powerful relationship as you have described, but i have been fortunate to meet unique and powerful individuals. i take nothing for granted and feel fortunate to have had the interaction with them. i always feel as if i have been given a gift of sorts after spending time with them :-)

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RE: Meeting Relationships.. - 1/11/2007 7:18:55 AM

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I think of this when I see my sister and her husband. They certainly do fight (the first question we asked the husband when they got engaged was "You have seen her REALLY angry at least once, right?"), but they've made it work for 8 years now and two kids and when he makes a special trip to the store just to get her the frappacino flavor she likes, it makes me very happy.

I get the feeling of "I can't wait to spend the rest of my life together!"

It also makes me more firm than ever that Ms has nothing over vanilla relationships- strength is strength.

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RE: Meeting Relationships.. - 1/11/2007 7:59:59 AM

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It also makes me more firm than ever that Ms has nothing over vanilla relationships- strength is strength.

This is so very true to me

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RE: Meeting Relationships.. - 1/11/2007 8:05:17 AM

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I wish i could jump in, but i have never met face to face any relationship that is as you described.

The best i have is my grandparents. After years and years of crap. Him being away in the marines fighting wars mostly and her trying to raise 5 kids. He used to have a nasty temper. Yet through it all they stuck it out and today they both love each other dearly. They cater to each other and its wonder watching them look at each other. They're old and generally always cranky, snippy or miserable and they just light up when interacting. lol either that or every time i notice it they're drunk.

But i doubt this is what you mean. I only bring it up as its one of the few relationship that i have seen endure through thick and thin

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RE: Meeting Relationships.. - 1/11/2007 9:00:24 AM

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I am flattered, honored and a bit humbled by your comments. Many people see my 'outgoing' personality as defiant and 'not slave-like' (ha) but Master chose me for what I am.

Something I should have posted soon after we meet you and your lovely girls: I am in awe of the special relationship the three of you share. Three individuals as one harmonious being is about the only way I can describe it. Your dignified and unobtrusive power can be felt by all around and your girls are a tribute to exquisite service and solidarity.

I only hope was have to opportunity to meet again and perhaps spend more time together.

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RE: Meeting Relationships.. - 1/11/2007 10:43:57 AM

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LOL another occassion where Elegant covers the topic so well I need not say much at all, LOL.

The compliment is appreciated reminding us how we so rarely take the time to see ourselves.

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RE: Meeting Relationships.. - 1/11/2007 3:59:00 PM

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I only hope was have to opportunity to meet again and perhaps spend more time together.

yes... we feel the same way.

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RE: Meeting Relationships.. - 1/11/2007 4:27:50 PM

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It also makes me more firm than ever that Ms has nothing over vanilla relationships- strength is strength.

I agree with this. One of the strongest relationships that I know is between my oldest friend and her husband. They have known each other since she was 16 or 17 and started dating as soon as she turned legal *ss* He is more than old enough to be her father. The have been together ever since and the genuine affection and caring they have for each other is amazing to see and be a part of. It is a joy to be in their presence.

I echo my Lord's thoughts in regards to Archer and Elegant and add another couple that we met last year. They are a blind couple that we met when we visited Niagara Falls. I very much enjoyed watching the way they interacted with each other and watching them play.

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RE: Meeting Relationships.. - 1/11/2007 7:38:25 PM

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a random night at a "kinspace" in an area of a then hotspot in the USA, in which I saw a properly spank-oriented couple going to town better and harder and longer than anyone sans Kiri Kelly, LOL. Spoke to them for a time.

SO clear they ROMANTICALLY loved each other as much as anything else. CHERISHED each other, roles aside. You could tell they were as sympatico at running a business or doing taxes together as him making her arse look like cranberries.

When I complimented them, without breaking eyecontact with me, he INSTINCTLIVELY reached for her hand and kissed it.

They became the standard to strive for.

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RE: Meeting Relationships.. - 1/11/2007 7:40:09 PM

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A lovely thread...The relationship that comes to my mind is the one of my parents..married 56 years, they still are going strong..they are so in sync with one another and still manage an occasional "slap and tickle" session..but what gets me is the awareness they have of one another, even in the midst of company..Mom looking over to make sure Dad has a warm jacket on when he is getting ready to go out..Mom always there to give Dad a kiss when he comes in the door..Dad, still getting jealous when some man looks at her twice..~g~..Dad,insisting Mom sits down once in a while, while he does the dishes or whatever..They inspire me, and I was truly blessed with having them as my parents and for always giving me an excellent example of loving, respect, and caring...Tempting

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