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MidnightWriter -> RE: Extreme punishment? (2/28/2005 12:09:13 PM)
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ORIGINAL: BBWinOhio
I an new to the submissive lifestyle, with no real experience. I've met a man and although I have not yet formally been collared, we had planned to do so in the coming week.
I masturbated and had an orgasm without his permission.
That would be real experience in disobedience. While planning a formal collaring, this would be Not Good.
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For that, he has ordered four days without an orgasm and 100 spanks, even though he had told me that 10 spanks would be given for a first offense. He has said that he will spank me until I cry.
Am I wrong to think that this is insane? Extreme? One hundred spanks is bad enough, but four days without an orgasm? I'm being set up to fail.
You are not "wrong" - you are inexperienced. This "punishment" is much less than I'd be handing out. (OTOH, most subs I have known well enough to punish would consider 100 spanks a treat, a reward - I tend toward painsluts.)
If your level of self-discipline is such that 4 days without orgasm seems impossible, perhaps you do need to rethink your role here. Many people do scene-based BDSM - for this hour/evening, they're doing d/s, but tomorrow, it's back to 'nilla until they feel like another shot of d/s. This is entirely appropriate, and suited to lots of folks - not everybody wants 24/7, and even those who do want 24/7 tend to build up to it slowly, rather than leaping into the deep end right away - especially if it's their first time at the pool.
I strongly suggest that you discuss this option with the man you've met, and renegotiate to something that you can both be happy with. Better to adjust before you've committed than to endanger his trust and your self-image by committing to something you don't really want.
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