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marieToo -> RE: Slavesrs's Rant (1/13/2007 10:22:41 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Aine

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I hardly think that I was one of the people being "venemous" to her.

 
I don't think I used the word venemous to describe you.  Maybe you should take that up with someone else. 
 
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Why can't I be offended?



Why would you want to be offended?  Feeling offended by the words of a stranger about a random topic is a choice.  You can choose to feel offended or you can choose not to. And of course you can choose to be rude and offensive in return.  I don't see anyone stopping you.

I believe I originally concurred with another poster who shared my view.  Was that offensive to you as well? 




dawntreader -> RE: Slavesrs's Rant (1/13/2007 10:27:20 AM)

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ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress


Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing
and rightdoing there is a field.
I'll meet you there.[:)]

~Rumi



i love this quote...




SlaveAkasha -> RE: Slavesrs's Rant (1/13/2007 10:34:15 AM)

For me personally, I can't see myself as submissive to a female.  It isn't because I think they shouldn't be, it just doesn't work for ME on that level.  I don't think though that every woman should be at the feet of a man anymore than I think I belong at the feet of EVERY man out there.
 
We serve who we serve because we feel the need to, or the want.  For me it has nothing to do with the fact that Master is a man.  I don't think he is above me as a person, or that any man should rule over me just because of his sex.  Master rules over me because I give him that power, I could just as easily take it away. 
 
His Kasha




dawntreader -> RE: Slavesrs's Rant (1/13/2007 10:46:43 AM)

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ORIGINAL: slavesrs

slavejali,
 
Thank you very much for the words you have spoken. Seems you are the only one that is truly understanding where I am coming from as you have been there yourself. See, I will explain myself a tad more without giving to much away. I was raised very ....ummmm , how to put it ... very "old school" and well , Men and woman as well as elders,children all had there own roles to live by. I guess you can say part of the way I think I based on how I was raised. That's why I used the word "beliefs" however seems everyone did NOT see that word witch is also a pity. Yes perhaps how I said what I said was RUDE, OFFENSIVE, IGNORANT or even considered as CLOSEDMINDED, but I assure you as well as everyone else that it was NOT ment to be like that. I am not one to sugar cote anything.



slavejali is not the only one who understands where you are coming from. Being twice your age, i was raised in the tail end of that generation. But when someone gives such a strong and biased opinion about something that others are bound to find offense with - that person should expect verbal debate/defense. No one asked for your beliefs/opinions...you gave them unsolicited, i am curious as to why unless it was to do just as you have done - rile people up.
i have a quote i would like to share:

"This is the land of 1000 words, but so few worth the breath to share."




marieToo -> RE: Slavesrs's Rant (1/13/2007 11:36:11 AM)

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ORIGINAL: slavejali

to the op:

I have had a hard time grasping the concept of female domination..and sometimes when I have expressed my ideas around it, its been, poetically harsh....however the only thing that matters is inside me I dont have a harsh bone in my body, when I express things that way, like you have done..its like a communication from somewhere inside me that totally rejects and cannot understand it..and so it almost has to come out harshly for my true feelings to be exposed within words...its a non attack..more a...true voicing of an energy inside me free from  intellectually fiddling with it to satiate an audience.... it stands alone as it is...and posssibly cannot even be conversed with....yet..at the same time...by it being expressed, the words invite communication...and sometimes...just sometimes...someone can touch me and open me up to a new reality of understanding....that happened for me surrounding this issue....(thats why i like to free flow the words i write on here, whether they seem negative or positive...because at any rate..they are an honest expression of whatever I am feeling at the time and so gives me something concrete to work with.)


That was very nicely articulated. I can be crass in my honesty at times as well, which is probably why I empathize so much with Slaversrs.  I think when we choose words that are more palatable to the masses,  we, in a sense,  betray ourselves by not being completely honest and by not having the courage to say how we really feel, (even if others feel offended by it).  
If something disgusts me, what good is it to say "I dont understand it" if in fact in genuinely makes me feel disgusted? Thats my reasoning.  Fortunately there are those here and in my real life who understand and accept this part of me and who deal with me, and give my thoughts/feelings/opinions merit, without taking offensive to my choice of expression. 
I would rather be that way and weed out the chaff, even if it only leaves a small handful that are secure enough to rise above my personal "style" and talk with me without the need to try to hurt me back.  These types of people have immeasurable value to me and are the ones who have actually suceeded at sometimes cracking open my brain and making me think outside the box.  I guess thats why I can "feel" this girl.

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I think I can honestly say I understand female domination and where it all fits in the scehme of things now...and so can respect it. I used to vow I could never feel any type of submission towards a woman but with that knoweldge of where it all fit also came the knowledge of how I could fit.  The whole realisation was a proces though..


I can relate to this as well.  I was raised in a very male chauvanistic environment.  It was my father and my older brother and me.  I rebelled against that attitude.  And to this day, I do not feel that men are superior, even though my father and brother displayed such beliefs.  For others, I guess they are more influenced by their upbringing. 
Even though I dont see men as a gender as superior to women as a gender, it is hard for me to see females in authority positions, even as cops and things like that.  As far as wiitwd, it's also very difficult for me to sub to a female.  Years ago the thought of it alone repulsed me, then a couple years ago, I let myself have a brief experience in an effort to see if I could handle it (with a married dominant couple).  It didn't work out for me, but it was a small step towards something that I now see as a challenge that one day I hope to conquer.  Its funny how we sometimes evolve into things we never could've imagined.




mbes -> RE: Slavesrs's Rant (1/13/2007 12:04:27 PM)

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ORIGINAL: slavesrs

I have something that I would like to say and also I am interested in hearing what others have to say about this. "Keep in mind everyone is intitled to their own opinions and beliefs and there is NO RIGHT OR WRONG ANWSER."
In my beliefs and opinions it is a Man's world! I do not and will not look at a "supposed" female Dominate as my superior. In my eyes all woman are my equal and we belong on our knees humbly kneeling beofre Men. When I see a sub/slave Male I am rather disgusted by it as that is not His place, but a womans place.
This is all I wish to say. Please try to keep an open mind about it and it was not ment to offend anyone as I am curious to know what others think.
With Regards;
Slave SRS [sm=dance.gif]


If I wish merely to state my own opinion, I am free to do it in whatever terms I choose, and to hell with those whose opinions differ.
If I wish to hear (and possibly learn from) the opinions of others, it behooves me to choose my words carefully to avoid offending those whose opinions I would like to hear and possibly learn from.
Personally, I'm of the opinion that anyone who believes that one sex or the other is clearly superior to the other is simply not paying attention to the good and bad that can be found in almost any segment of the population.




ShyMistress -> RE: Slavesrs's Rant (1/13/2007 12:36:17 PM)

My ONLY comment on this idea is that in truth the only thing that makes ANYBODY superior is their own personal conduct through their lives. And that can be accomplished by either gender.




MagiksSlave -> RE: Slavesrs's Rant (1/13/2007 12:37:58 PM)

Hmm females say us as slaves set back the womans movement well I dont think that is so because as a woman I made this choice it is however slaves with attitudes like that that do it.. and really I almost couldnt hold my lunch down reading it!!!


Magik's slave




RobertCloud -> RE: Slavesrs's Rant (1/13/2007 9:38:54 PM)

I am going to try to tackle several things in this thread in one post.
slavesrs... your original post had several problems, you stated an opinion in an all encompassing manner so that it included everyone else in your opinion. Yes, you tried to say that it was your opinion, but as you read it it was obvious that anyone reading it had to include themselves in that reading, thus you set yourself up for attack. Whether or not you would have received more attacks had it been worded to the opposite effect or not, I really do not think matters and the truth is, I do not think you the number, or quality would have been different. It was in your approach and manner of stating your opinion.

#2. You did begin a second thread that would have been better to keep in this thread, and as it is your opinion and it is not based upon fact you are right to say that in your eyes there is no right or wrong answer. That is not to say that there is no right or wrong politically or socially correct answer. As another poster pointed out that if someone had stated that in their opinion Hitler should have succeeded in slaughtering all of the Hebrew people, socially, morally, ethically, politically we can all see that that opinion would have a wrong answer. In that person's eyes, and perhaps in many of their friends' eyes they would see it as a right answer. However, by far the majority would condemn such an opinion. The idea of a completely Male Supremacy or Female Supremacy world is going to arouse anger from one side or the other. I would stand up and argue against anyone trying to take away my rights to be dominant and force me to kneel before a woman just as many women would do the same if they were to be force in the opposite respects. I can understand your opinion, but the majority of the world is not going to agree with you. There is a group that will, but I warn you they are harsh and they also tend to roleplay too much for a serious relationship.

#3. This is to everyone else, no matter what her opinion is, personal attacks are never called for. They show an ignorance upon the person doing the attack, and to attack those that support her is no better. There will always be people that believe as she does. Look to the Goreans, even the Free Women of the Goreans for the most part still believe that the Men are Dominant and the only way that they can secure their own freedom is to find a Free Companion. It is partly why the Goreans are so popular, many men are tired of feminism and are tired of Female Supremist, and want a Male Dominated world and in Gor they get that. I was once Gorean and admittedly that was one of the things that attracted me to it, but I also came to realize that not all women deserve to be in a collar, in fact the idea of collaring some women scares the hell out of me. Yet, that is not why I left Gor, I left Gor because it is full of deceit and treachery but that is another story for another time.

#4. Female Supremacy will never have the opponents that Male Supremacy has because this has never been a world where Women have been in control and horrendous things have been done to the opposite sex just because they could be done. Men have always been in control, they have raped, pillaged and plundered the world, and they have beaten and abused women. Men, ask yourselves, what do you do to avoid being raped? Hell, if you live in Kansas City, you had better start thinking about it, there is a serial rapist that is raping men there, and that is only the first case reported. From what I understand, there is evidence that another such case may be taking place in a couple of other cities. Copycat criminals... So what are you going to do to avoid being raped? How does it feel to have to start thinking about it? Women have had to think about it all their lives, they can tell you hundreds of things they do every single day of their lives. Now you are going to have to start learning them or soon you may be a victim of ass rape. BTW one of the victims was a former High School FootBall Star, so don't think being tough and strong will protect you. A gun or knife to the throat is a great neutralizer, or what if the rapist knows self-defense moves better than you, or is a body builder, or a bouncer, or someone you just cannot defend against, or perhaps the rapist is not one person but a group of women getting even... You really think you would enjoy being forced to be ass raped by six or seven women at a time. This world has always been a world where women have had to fear that so speaking of Female Supremacy does not bring the anger or the hostility that speaking of Male Supremacy does, do you blame women for feeling threatened when they think of a world where they could once again be subjected to the whims of every man without any recompense. Remember the "Rule of the Thumb", in England it used to be legal to beat your wife with a stick as long as it was not thicker than your thumb. Do you blame them for not wanting that back? I don't.

#5. I realize we are talking lifestyle and not world situations here, but even in lifestyle no one can completely forget the past and no one should be forced to give up who or what they are inside. slavesrs has the right to her opinion, we may disagree with it, it may be the politically incorrect viewpoint for the general lifestyler, but she still has the right to her opinion and it is not harming anyone. She did not word it in the best of ways possible and irritated a lot of people. Personally, I do not want a male sub kneeling at my feet, that idea disgust me, but will I have one as a friend, yes. Him being submissive does not disgust me. Personally, I will not have a relationship with a Domme, I know it is doomed to failure, but will I be her friend, I welcome it. She is a good soul and I have met some wonderful Dominant females that I call friends, (LOL, I did collar three btw, so you might want to be careful around me, well, they really were not very Dominant and were kind of submissive to begin with and I saw through the mask, and it was while I was Gorean, but again, that is a long story, and as I said there are many that scare the hell out of me to even think of them in a collar).

Now, to close, everyone has the right to be what they feel they need to be inside. Everyone also has the right to associate with those they feel comfortable being around. If you do not feel comfortable being around someone because they are a certain way then don't advertise your dislike or disgust, just don't associate. Do not make it harder on yourself by showing your biases or prejudices in the open to be ridiculed, be smart and keep it to yourself.

I personally am not comfortable around people of certain religious beliefs, so I avoid them, not because they are not good people, but because I have read and studied the formation of their beliefs and know that the man that set up their beliefs was a liar and basically has set up a cult that has lasted long after his death and yet to try to convince these people of that is like trying to convince someone that the sky is clear and what you are actually seeing that makes it blue is the water in the air that light is passing through. That is true, but you won't get many to believe you.

Good night, and if you have read my long missive, I thank you,

Mitakuye Oyasin,
Robert Cloud




raevnn -> RE: Slavesrs's Rant (1/14/2007 12:24:44 AM)

I'm not even sure how to approach this...

I have a 'fifties housewife' mentality. I love the idea of male supremacy; it makes me very warm and cozy to defer to my husband/master. I've had several feminists get wind of my preferences and tear me down, telling me I was bad, bad, bad and I should want better for myself. The trouble is, I never told them they were cracked and had no right to try to do things that men do... and I never would. They can do what they like.

Just as male submissives can do what they like and are not disgusting for living a life that makes them happy and comfortable. If it makes a person happy, and they are mentally, emotionally, and physically well and not damaging anyone or anything else, let them have at it. I don't want to thwart all feminists... I just want them to live their lives and allow me to live mine.

What I'm trying to say is that I feel... almost as though your rant was a betrayal. You have the same base mentality as I do, and yet you're sort of... making the rest of us look bad.

Besides, if you believe in male supremacy, you wouldn't have anything sour to say about men, period. If a man wants to submit, it would be his choice and his right and you would have no say whatsoever... in my humblest of opinions.

Please learn to live and let live. It's a much happier and more comfortable place to be, I promise you.

(reply is to the original poster, not marieToo)




LadyLupineNYC -> RE: Slavesrs's Rant (1/14/2007 6:52:30 AM)

"You really think you would enjoy being forced to be ass raped by six or seven women at a time. "

*snickers*...I know a few who would just loooooooove that....

..great post too, kudos...

LL




Aine -> RE: Slavesrs's Rant (1/14/2007 9:19:11 AM)

Meep.

The majority of that post was in general, not all was response to you.  I hit reply didn't I?  Sorry.[:)]




mgdartist -> RE: Slavesrs's Rant (1/14/2007 9:52:53 AM)

Of course the OP is correct, and not only is it a mans world-- we are superior, and I can't say I dislike the image she presents of woman kneeling. Then again, where I must part company with the OP, is this "superiority" is mere trivial physicality, and as such, only generally, since there are a few women I've seen, I'd evade fisticuffs with.  No matter the IQ averages however, I have long believed women have men well outgunned mentally, aside from such things as men are potentially better at, women have us where it counts.... coping skills, language, communicating and verbal elitism. Further, sexually....please, the womans arsenal of sexual artillery is almost high tech, compared to the males puny derringer. Were there aliens visiting and evaluating us, I'd easily assume their laughter at the percieved superior Paternal human order, as possibly convoluted. But enough of this, and I grow weary of my own drivel.

I was raised to never look the gift horse in the mouth, and applaud the OP for her spunk, bravery and charity. Would that more women had her sweetness, and respectfullness, and spoke of us, like her, in hushed and reverend tones. While she may be in err, it is obviously of little consequence, as each gender has need of its counterpart, and any clash is but ridiculous, and utter loss of one, would surely bring about the demise of the other.

MGD





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