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Beginner's Jitters - 1/12/2007 8:25:18 PM

MaryT

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I just spent three hours on the phone with the gentleman I am meeting for lunch tomorrow. He lives less than two miles away (hallelujah!). He's smart and he talks a *lot* which I love. I think I really like him and it's mutual. I haven't been on a date in almost 30 years. I think there is a good chance that I will be getting tied up tomorrow (says little Miss Meet-Safely-and-with-Caution). Suddenly I feel fat and wrinkled and I've lost the damn belt I was planning to wear, which ruins the outfit I was planning, which might be best since the boot heels would make me taller than him, which he might not like anyway. I'm really nervous!

Just had to say that. Cripes, I hope I get to sleep so there aren't dark circles under my eyes. I feel like I'm getting ready to be homecoming queen or something ... people should do this when they're younger and not so easily frazzled.

Wish me luck.

MaryT

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RE: Beginner's Jitters - 1/12/2007 8:30:09 PM

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i actually don't believe in " luck" but i do wish you the best with this person :-)

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RE: Beginner's Jitters - 1/12/2007 8:32:00 PM

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Good Luck, Mary.

I don't want to be the safety police but geesch do you have to get tied on your first meeting? I dont want to impose my views, but please be careful about that.
Dig around to find another belt...Hell, they dont give a crap about your belt anyway. The 5 things they look at: Your eyes, your lips, your clevage, your ass, and your sexy shoes. Ha! Enjoy it!! I wanna hear how it turns out!!

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RE: Beginner's Jitters - 1/12/2007 8:32:34 PM

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You'll do fine, just have confidence in yourself and there should be no worries.

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RE: Beginner's Jitters - 1/12/2007 9:17:48 PM

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Just remember that, no matter how hot and heavy it gets- it's still just a first date.

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RE: Beginner's Jitters - 1/12/2007 9:27:40 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MaryT

I just spent three hours on the phone with the gentleman I am meeting for lunch tomorrow. He lives less than two miles away (hallelujah!). He's smart and he talks a *lot* which I love. I think I really like him and it's mutual. I haven't been on a date in almost 30 years. I think there is a good chance that I will be getting tied up tomorrow (says little Miss Meet-Safely-and-with-Caution). Suddenly I feel fat and wrinkled and I've lost the damn belt I was planning to wear, which ruins the outfit I was planning, which might be best since the boot heels would make me taller than him, which he might not like anyway. I'm really nervous!

Just had to say that. Cripes, I hope I get to sleep so there aren't dark circles under my eyes. I feel like I'm getting ready to be homecoming queen or something ... people should do this when they're younger and not so easily frazzled.

Wish me luck.

MaryT

Take a deep breath and repeat... "All is well" until you believe it. Even if you never do, it will kill time until your date

Gosh I am hoping it goes as well as it seems it might! I am really pulling for you.

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RE: Beginner's Jitters - 1/12/2007 9:31:21 PM

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Hope all goes well and lets us all know!!!!

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RE: Beginner's Jitters - 1/12/2007 9:40:43 PM

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Have a great time, Mary! We'll want to hear all about it.

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RE: Beginner's Jitters - 1/13/2007 4:50:17 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MaryT

Wish me luck.

MaryT

Good luck and enjoy..

it is a first date, so go slowly, any Dom worth his salt will be willing to go slow the first date.

Relax and enjoy the excitement of the new and unknown...

And.. write to us so we can live vicariously though you..

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RE: Beginner's Jitters - 1/13/2007 4:52:47 AM

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Good luck. It is scary and exciting at the same time, isn't it?

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RE: Beginner's Jitters - 1/13/2007 5:03:50 AM

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Good luck with your date MaryT

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RE: Beginner's Jitters - 1/13/2007 7:07:42 AM

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Have fun and enjoy, but listen to Miss Meet & Safety! :) Can't wait to hear how it went.

(Two miles! I'm jealous!)

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RE: Beginner's Jitters - 1/13/2007 7:46:40 AM

SimplyMichael

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I am the last one to play safety nazi but a brand new sub meeting someone who has proposed bondage on the first date reaks of disaster.

You state on your profile you expect him to reveal personal info, does anyone else have this info and do you have a safecall set up? At least this way the police can find the body before it starts to rot.

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RE: Beginner's Jitters - 1/13/2007 7:49:53 AM

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All I can say is have lots and lots of fun

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RE: Beginner's Jitters - 1/13/2007 8:04:02 AM

MaryT

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

I am the last one to play safety nazi but a brand new sub meeting someone who has proposed bondage on the first date reaks of disaster.

You state on your profile you expect him to reveal personal info, does anyone else have this info and do you have a safecall set up? At least this way the police can find the body before it starts to rot.

I know his full name, his employer, his phone number and where his parents live (very near me). We will likely see people we know at the restaurant. Small towns do have their advantages.

My daughter is scheduled to call me on my cell twice during the afternoon and she has all the info on him that I have.

I'll try not to rot before the police find me.

Seriously though, I appreciate your concern. Thanks everyone for your good wishes.

MaryT

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RE: Beginner's Jitters - 1/13/2007 8:13:24 AM

MistressSassy66

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

I am the last one to play safety nazi but a brand new sub meeting someone who has proposed bondage on the first date reaks of disaster.

You state on your profile you expect him to reveal personal info, does anyone else have this info and do you have a safecall set up? At least this way the police can find the body before it starts to rot.

I do bondage on new submissives all the time if its something they are into.
I do not think its uncommon to do some light bondage on a 1st session.

I have to keep them from moving while I beat their ass to a pulp...lol

Seriously,A safety call is good and a friend who knows exactly where you are is even better.Instructions that if they dont hear from you in so many hours call police.

Even as a Pro I have a safety call set up,My slave girl calls from work if I dont answer she knows something is wrong and takes the appropriate steps.

Now on to the jitters...its very common,sometimes I get that way.I havent been doing this for a long long time but long enough to know its okay to have jitters.
I would communicate that you are a little nervous.
Hope you have a wonderful time and dont forget the safety call (or words..lol)

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RE: Beginner's Jitters - 1/13/2007 9:29:08 AM

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Well... how did it go??? Spill, woman!

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RE: Beginner's Jitters - 1/13/2007 2:14:05 PM

TemptingNviceSub

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Frazzles are good, kind of lets us know that even though we are a wee bit older we still have a exciteable teen inside of us...Forget the belt...he may want to use it to tie you up and why make it easy for him!..~g~wear comfy shoes, nothing more distracting or unattractive is some woman who is limping due to sore feet and limping is just not graceful..:0)...otherwise shave everything from the waist down,lotion everything and you should be good to go..

....have fun...Tempting

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RE: Beginner's Jitters - 1/14/2007 2:54:41 AM

MaryT

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It went really well. My core kink was a simple spanking fetish and his is bondage. Bondage rocks! I remained really nervous until he put the leather cuffs on me and then was peaceful. He put a collar on me too for the time I was there and that was good too. Spent a good deal of the time in a blindfold, which made me super mellow (and very wet). My sexual inhibitions evaporated. I've always thought of bondage as something "thrilling" like a zip line, but it wasn't like that all. There was no tension (except the lusty sort), and I'm thinking I'd like to wear cuffs while I do my taxes and take final exams.

He was not demanding or intimidating or anything of the sort ... just told me what to do and I did it. The impact play was also gentle and mostly involved fluffy suede floggers (and a few stingy toys). He kept one hand on me most of the time, on my back, frequently on my face or holding my hair. That was good because being blindfolded did make me very hungry for touch, and I kissed his hands and sucked on his fingers whenever they got close enough to reach. My favorite part may have been just resting in his lap cuffed and blindfolded, listening to music. I really loved being tightly bound too and was surprised to learn just how sexy rope can be. I'll refrain from a graphic description of the juicier parts - the stuff a lady never does on a first date. I'd always thought that being called a slut would be huge turn off, but apprarently if you add the words "my good little" in front it - it transforms me into one.

I wish I could have stayed but needed to get stuff done here and also needed time to process. He was great though, and I can't wait to see him again (which will be today).

MaryT

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RE: Beginner's Jitters - 1/14/2007 5:04:11 AM

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I'm glad it went so well for you. Still got the jitters?

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