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why ask for a reply then block the sender? - 1/13/2007 1:21:28 AM

leatslave

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Rece ntly a "Dominant" replied to a message:
you are JUST "beginning" to know about Female Supremacy at age 43?! Along with having NO photo before contacting me?! Wow, you REALLY do NEED training, or else you're a stupid vanilla dude.
i attempted to respond and demonstrate my sincerity:yet the "Domme" blocked me. Had this person allowed me the opportunity to explain She would have recieved the following:

I hope to always be learning, and feel I am still at the beginning of my journey, at actually 45 ( a young 45). However this has been my orientation for my whole life, I have sought the Mistress to train me ever since I can remember I have always been drawn to serving women. I do have a small bit of experience, trying online with someone in Australia, but there was never a real sense of service, connection it was just going through the motions. From my limited experience I have learned it’s the relationship the Mistress, the “us” that is the key, that provides the depth required to truly serve, and make play meaningful (and fun). Again with respect to the picture I regret I don’t have one to offer, they were lost on my old computer. I do have on a yahoo account, and am trying to get it to send. In the respect that I am a BDSM virgin I guess I am vanilla in desperate need /want training. I hope will consider me for training- taking vanilla and making it into a chocolate banana split for your enjoyment my question, respectfully submitted, is why? In my correspondence i was open, honest, yet the Domme will never know. It seems not to be very dominant. and both parties lose

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RE: why ask for a reply then block the sender? - 1/13/2007 6:04:00 AM

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I think it many times has to do with the button placement on the screens. Add to favorites and block is close on one and the other is horrid too.

FatFingerDude

There was a much better interface out here for awhile, but the testing was implemented poorly and you could flip back and forth and loose your connection to easily when it was tested in parallel, and rather than implement it, and go from there they took away the wrong message that the interface itself was confusing.

THAT was a fuckin' travesty.

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RE: why ask for a reply then block the sender? - 1/13/2007 7:40:36 AM

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I have to agree about the block/favorite button placement. I have done it myself. I inadvertantly blocked my own slave once while trying to add him to my favorites list. I am glad he had my email or I would have just thought he was ignoring me.

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RE: why ask for a reply then block the sender? - 1/13/2007 7:54:07 AM

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Soooo thats the answer...I was wondering why they would berate Me and when I try to reply they "accidently" meant to add Me but somehow blocked instead....LMFAO

I know that sometimes it can be an accident...when the sender is being mean and nasty I dont think its accidental...hehe

The ones I really love are the ones that actually delete their profile...damn am I really that scary?? Wait dont answer that...lol

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RE: why ask for a reply then block the sender? - 1/13/2007 8:15:37 AM

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The only thing I find more rude than being blocked without being able to reply to a nasty message is when somebody that you have met in R/L several times and been to their house, etc. doesn't even have the guts to call you or send a polite email saying that they have met somebody else that meets more to what they are looking for. Instead you get a email from another Dominant saying they have taken the person under their wings. When you try and confirm this with the submissive that you were considering, you find out that now you are blocked and all other communication is cut off.

Its not that I was loosing sleep over the loss of a potential submissive, but the level of rudeness. That I cannot stand. Its one thing to block somebody you have never met. But not to have the guts to tell that person yourself and have to have somebody else do it for you that is just plain rude in my opinion. Then when I tried to confirm the ananomous email from the other Dominant, I was very rudely talked to then also by that Dom.

I felt like rushing over to her house and giving her a good spanking for the rudeness. But then I thought about if she is worth it or not. After all if she is seeing the other Dominant then that is disloyalty in my opinion and thus not worth it. And if this is just a game by her to see my reaction, then she is trying to top from the bottom, which I will not allow. Some games I just don't play.

The rudeness of everything still ticks me off. What happened to being at least polite to one another. You don't have to like the person anymore but at least we can be civil and show proper breeding.

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RE: why ask for a reply then block the sender? - 1/13/2007 4:28:48 PM

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Sounds to Me as though 'She' was a bogus identity to begin with.

I've certainly encountered many a sub male who waited until mid life to explore their submissive side. I don't mean for this to sound flippant, but it's quite common for male subs to marry, have a family, dedicate themselves to their career and their children, until they finally allow themselves the time and venue to search for a real life relationship to meet needs they have kept secret most of their adult lives.

Either the Dominant was an insensitive jackass, or they weren't a Dominant at all.

Don't take it so seriously. This is cyberspace. Everyone is not what they seem.

You'll encounter someone real enough if you keep on trying.

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RE: why ask for a reply then block the sender? - 1/13/2007 4:33:36 PM

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Out of the blue one day I checked my admirers list. I saw a local lady on it by suprise. So I wrote out a hello message, when I clicked to send it, she had me blocked. It did not make sense to me.

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RE: why ask for a reply then block the sender? - 1/13/2007 4:44:49 PM

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I get mail all the time which to read it, is a waste of My time - I have the right to tell you to write Me and waste yours as well because when you hit send you will be shut down. The same way I hit "read mail" and then get "hi I think yer hot!!! Can I serve you?!?!" Or I ask questions which are NEVER answered but instead are avoided. THIS, is a waste of My time, isn't it ... And so we see - that the wasting of time is after all a 2 way street - hate to tell you but the majority share of this "gift" is purputrated by guys who say a lot of nothing, excepting "I'm horny!!" - Expect at some point the Ladies get to a place of having "had enough" and to do something about it ... Waste My time, I will waste yours.
I have even in the past been known to encourage people to write and fill out 50 page applications only to find they've been blocked - I find it amusing. Waste My time and all ... *shrugs* Turn about is after all fair play and slavery - Isn't SUPPOSED to be fair.
Is it ...
So say something useful, intelligent and be thorough in your profile and THEN bitch yer on ignore.
And to the person on the favourites list but blocked - they MAY know how to put you IN the faves, they may not know how to REMOVE you from it. Stop being so self-focused, it's not appealing.

XxoxX

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RE: why ask for a reply then block the sender? - 1/13/2007 9:48:18 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Sekhemet

I get mail all the time which to read it, is a waste of My time - I have the right to tell you to write Me and waste yours as well because when you hit send you will be shut down. The same way I hit "read mail" and then get "hi I think yer hot!!! Can I serve you?!?!" Or I ask questions which are NEVER answered but instead are avoided. THIS, is a waste of My time, isn't it ... And so we see - that the wasting of time is after all a 2 way street - hate to tell you but the majority share of this "gift" is purputrated by guys who say a lot of nothing, excepting "I'm horny!!" - Expect at some point the Ladies get to a place of having "had enough" and to do something about it ... Waste My time, I will waste yours.
I have even in the past been known to encourage people to write and fill out 50 page applications only to find they've been blocked - I find it amusing. Waste My time and all ... *shrugs* Turn about is after all fair play and slavery - Isn't SUPPOSED to be fair.
Is it ...
So say something useful, intelligent and be thorough in your profile and THEN bitch yer on ignore.
And to the person on the favourites list but blocked - they MAY know how to put you IN the faves, they may not know how to REMOVE you from it. Stop being so self-focused, it's not appealing.

XxoxX

I'm sensing some extreme anger

here....
What do you care if She is self centered??
you berating Her for it isnt any more appealing....

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RE: why ask for a reply then block the sender? - 1/14/2007 8:01:20 AM

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Ok, I can't tell ya why she did it, I don't know her....however you asked, so here's my advice.........

Next time you write a women and she replies with a nasty attack, look up at the heavens and thank the Goddess (or whoever) for showing you the character of that women, before you wasted any more of your time on her. Then click that little block button. (don't hit the wrong one or your computer may blow up)

You might also try finding local munches and events, not only will you meet a lot of people, but it will give you the opportunity to volunteer to help, which the ladies always appreciate.

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RE: why ask for a reply then block the sender? - 1/14/2007 8:09:59 AM

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So you ask people to write you and then you block them, knowing they will waste their time replying, and then be upset because they are blocked....wow, that is amazing. Well the good thing is, some may read the post and not bother wasting their time.

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RE: why ask for a reply then block the sender? - 1/14/2007 9:00:02 AM

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Obviously, she did not want a reply. I don't know the content of your original e-mail that she sent this in reply to, but your response sounded polite and sincere. If your original e-mail was similar, I think blocking was rather an extreme measure.

On a few occasions, I have sent off a terse reply to an initial e-mail, then blocked the person, but that was always in response to something rude or insulting. It sounds like she may have a short fuse.

With respect to the picture, I do highly recommend people have one available to send on request before posting an ad on Collarme or any other site. I can certainly understand not wanting to post a picture with a profile for confidentiality reasons (I don't), but I think someone should have one available to send upon request. I will admit that I am put off by subs or slaves who do not have one to provide when I request one. I think most Dommes are going to want a pic at some point, so I would highly recommend getting one ASAP.

By the way, did she say "no responses without a picture" in her profile? If so, she may have been annoyed that you did not honor a request she had in her profie. I don't insist on one with the introductory letter, but will ask for one fairly soon if the person interests me at all. If they don't have one to provide, I'll admit it that it does make me a little suspicious. I know some Dommes who will delete responses they receive that are not accompanied by a photo (and they forewarn in their profile that they will do this). Another one I know sends off a terse one-liner to subs who do not follow her instructions to include a photo with their response, but as far as I know, doesn't block them.

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RE: why ask for a reply then block the sender? - 1/14/2007 11:18:32 AM

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MistressSassy66 -

I'm glad I'm not the only one who read a lot of hostility reeking from Sekhemet's post.

Wonder where THAT came from?

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RE: why ask for a reply then block the sender? - 1/16/2007 1:08:22 AM

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i whould advise that Ms Sekhemet is very generously helping me better prepare responses.
if i may after reading Her comments and instructions, i think they were less hostile more harsh guiding me to set a higher standard more reflective of the need of the reading Mistress than my own expositional desire.
Again i greatly appreciate all the generous comments and participation.

humbly
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