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Amaros -> RE: What is your fantasy? (1/14/2007 1:52:48 PM)
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I would consider that a reasonable answer, adn fantasies are often very vague and nonspecific, i.e., difficult to communicate even if you want to - I have fantasies that simply defy description, others that are interesting as fantasies, but that I might not actually want to indulge, or only under very specific, controlled circumstances, some are not even physically possible.
Cuddlehearts fantasy is right there in her profile, in the form of a quote by Anais Nin - it might not be possible for her to describe it any better than that.
There is a also a tendency toward false attribution error - if I describe an objectification fantasy to you for example, you might jump to the conclusion that it's all I'm into and you could expect it 24/7, which is not neccessarily so. The more especific they are, perhaps the more possible it might be to mistake them for expectations - some people cannot discern between fantasy and reality, in my case it's sort of my job to do that.
I see them more as dipping into the flow of the stream of consciousness, the river is never exactly the same twice - other times they might well be closer to a form of creative visualization, i.e., running scenarios one is interested in acting out in order to get and idea of how they might play out.
I fantasize just to get ideas for stories, and some of them can get pretty strange - I think it's a mistake to take them too seriously, or assume they reflect or mean the same thing as expectations.
I guess what I'm getting at is that there is a point where fantasies diverge from expectations - which I think needs to be understood by the parties involved, which I would consider part of the "getting to know each other" process.
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