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RE: Unrealistic expectations - 1/15/2007 4:50:50 PM

twicehappy

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ORIGINAL: untamedshysub

you missed it and it cant be explained . Read the book.

Read it many years ago, i was simply replying to the context of the post as i read it, not in reference to the book.

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RE: Unrealistic expectations - 1/15/2007 4:52:16 PM

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ORIGINAL: gooddogbenji

If you want to get the best, be the best. You control your destiny. Stand out from the crowd.

Bravo!

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RE: Unrealistic expectations - 1/15/2007 4:53:52 PM

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

Good Boy!

* watches as Michael throws a dog a bone... and the dog sits down and licks himself**

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RE: Unrealistic expectations - 1/15/2007 4:55:13 PM

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ORIGINAL: twicehappy

quote:

ORIGINAL: untamedshysub

you missed it and it cant be explained . Read the book.

Read it many years ago, i was simply replying to the context of the post as i read it, not in reference to the book.

but the context of the post was in reference to the book

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RE: Unrealistic expectations - 1/15/2007 4:57:48 PM

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ORIGINAL: KnightofMists

* watches as Michael throws a dog a bone... and the dog sits down and licks himself**

Hey! No stupid comments while my mouth is too busy to answer!

Now, if you'll excuse me....

Yours,

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RE: Unrealistic expectations - 1/15/2007 5:11:35 PM

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ORIGINAL: julietsierra

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ORIGINAL: MagiksSlave

LOL this is sounding a lot like those "why are all slaves fat" threads... gawd knows we havent had one of those in a while!!

Magik's slave

Actually, I think it just may be one of those "my kink is better than your kink" threads - except that it manifests itself as "I'm pickier than you are" which in itself winds up being "I'm better than you dammit."

The "why are all slaves fat" is just a subset of the whole "I'm better than you are dammit" umbrella.

juliet

ah yes I do think you are right!!! didnt think of that!!!

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RE: Unrealistic expectations - 1/15/2007 5:33:12 PM

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ORIGINAL: gooddogbenji

If I understand the OP properly, it's about making the best of yourself. I have in me the potential to be anything between a 5'10", 300# slob in a dirty shirt and without a job to being a 5'10", 180# athlete in a pressed designer suit, making a few hundred grand a year. The reality lies in between.

If you want to get the best, be the best. You control your destiny. Stand out from the crowd.

Ah ha - so thats what all these posts have been about?

and the more i think about it the more it seems like common sense.... so i'm confused

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RE: Unrealistic expectations - 1/15/2007 5:33:48 PM

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nuh uh I am 280 thank you very much lol.

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

Of course there will now be 50 post by some 250 pound woman who's dom could double for Marqi De Sade, James Bond, Cary Grant. Great, but as wonderful as that is for YOU, it just isn't likely to happen to 98% of the women in your shoes.

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RE: Unrealistic expectations - 1/15/2007 5:34:41 PM

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LMAO

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ORIGINAL: KnightofMists

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RE: Unrealistic expectations - 1/15/2007 5:37:51 PM

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I totally agree. I feel that setting the bar too high is really fear of getting what you want. Setting it too low is expecting things to go wrong, and giving yourself an excuse for failure.
Kyst

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ORIGINAL: KnightofMists

I agree that setting the Bar High is a healthy approach. However, the High Bar must be realistically obtainable. I think setting the Bar too High (setting up to fail) is just as damaging as setting the bar too Low (setting up to be abused)... both lead to unhappiness.

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RE: Unrealistic expectations - 1/15/2007 5:54:36 PM

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I think there are plenty of ugly crazy people to go around on all sides. Though I have always been happy to be a girl and a submissive. I think what is important is realizing your own 'league' (not just physically, but in other areas as well) and sticking with it. If you are an 8, look for another 8. Stop pining away after a 10, because you have little to nothing in common with a 10. And it's not going to be a fair exchange. I'm smart and attractive. There is no way I would date a stupid or ugly person. It just isn't happening, not even if they are sweet or nice. I think what you are trying to say is women have impossible standards and people just say they are being 'romantic.' But if men have impossible standards, they are pigs. Yes?

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RE: Unrealistic expectations - 1/15/2007 6:11:42 PM

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Would I want someone who only wants me because he is shallow and superficial ... Because he can't do any better on the 10-scale of appearance?

What if something really bad happened ... say, I had to get a mastectomy? If whatever relationship I am in is based on me being an 8 (or whatever), I'd lose more than a breast.

Good friends make good lovers ... I'm betting they make good Dom/mes too (and good submissives).

MaryT

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RE: Unrealistic expectations - 1/15/2007 6:16:29 PM

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Good point, Mary. We are more than just our looks. They are a part of us yes, but only a part.

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RE: Unrealistic expectations - 1/15/2007 6:18:52 PM

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Umm.. no, I don't think I said that. I am fairly certain setting the bar neither too high, nor too low, would mean you are seeking within range of your own "league"
Kyst

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ORIGINAL: junecleaver
I think what you are trying to say is women have impossible standards and people just say they are being 'romantic.' But if men have impossible standards, they are pigs. Yes?

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RE: Unrealistic expectations - 1/15/2007 6:47:56 PM

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I think that's really unrealistic. And really untrue sometimes Interests are more than looks. someone who's quzimoto ugly can like things a top model gorgious would like. Sure maybe the 10 won't even look twice at quazi over there, but just cause they're ugly as sin don't mean they won't have common interests with gorgious over there.

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ORIGINAL: junecleaver

If you are an 8, look for another 8. Stop pining away after a 10, because you have little to nothing in common with a 10.

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RE: Unrealistic expectations - 1/15/2007 6:52:01 PM

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Simply Michael started this thread because he apparently saw my standards and thought they were too high. I set my bar well within my league. My standards are as follows:

1. Must be employed and have his own transportation (any woman with any self esteem doesn't want a freeloader)
2. Must have all front teeth. (I have all of mine, and his can be real or caps, just no unsightly gaps right in front)
3. Must be average in looks, don't mind if he weighs a few extra pounds (since I do, which means I'm being fair)
4. Must have all of his hair (I have all of my hair......on my head anyway)

Therefore I have not set unrealistic expectations. Anyone who thinks I am too ugly to want an average looking man is welcome to view the pic on my profile. I don't have the face of a model, but I'm damn sure not ugly.

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RE: Unrealistic expectations - 1/15/2007 6:53:55 PM

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ORIGINAL: MaryT

Would I want someone who only wants me because he is shallow and superficial ... Because he can't do any better on the 10-scale of appearance?

What if something really bad happened ... say, I had to get a mastectomy? If whatever relationship I am in is based on me being an 8 (or whatever), I'd lose more than a breast.

Good friends make good lovers ... I'm betting they make good Dom/mes too (and good submissives).

MaryT

I would ask who gets to rate us? I rate myself a perfect 10, and my partner in crime get a 9 3/4s, for one he has exquisite taste in women

. I am slightly prejudiced mind you, and I have no trouble at all with that concept....

I wish more people felt really good about being them, it certainly would make the world a more cheerful place to be

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RE: Unrealistic expectations - 1/15/2007 6:57:07 PM

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ORIGINAL: defiantbadgirl

I don't have the face of a model, but I'm damn sure not ugly.

Beauty is deeper than the flesh!

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RE: Unrealistic expectations - 1/15/2007 6:57:40 PM

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ORIGINAL: junecleaver

I think there are plenty of ugly crazy people to go around on all sides. Though I have always been happy to be a girl and a submissive. I think what is important is realizing your own 'league' (not just physically, but in other areas as well) and sticking with it. If you are an 8, look for another 8. Stop pining away after a 10, because you have little to nothing in common with a 10. And it's not going to be a fair exchange. I'm smart and attractive. There is no way I would date a stupid or ugly person. It just isn't happening, not even if they are sweet or nice. I think what you are trying to say is women have impossible standards and people just say they are being 'romantic.' But if men have impossible standards, they are pigs. Yes?

I have nothing to say exept... grow up!!

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RE: Unrealistic expectations - 1/15/2007 6:57:40 PM

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I'm using Fast Reply...

There is something reallllllllllllllllllllllly funny about a single person trying to give advice as to why other people are still single.

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