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subspace - 1/16/2007 4:28:34 PM

scarlettuk

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How do you cope with coming down from subspace?

Master knew and warned me of various things to watch for when coming back down from the highs of subspace. How he knew so well I can only put down to his years of exprience along with being so intune with me too. I can but thank Master for his wisdom and caring for me so much in such a short period of time.

Am curious as to how others deal with this and what your experiences are?

Immediately afterwards have the deepest sleep ever known then a craving for chocolate or sweet things.

It takes at least two days before I have re-adjusted back to every day things.

Am still very new to the d/s scene so appreciate hearing how you deal with these highs and lows coming out of subspace.

Master is very kind and has taught me the importance of after care. Not just whilst he is with me but afterwaeds and how I must ensure good care of myself.

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RE: subspace - 1/16/2007 4:59:44 PM

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Flying high from endorphines and what not isn't limited to just submissives. Still, the things we do as Tops can apply as well.

You're probably craving sweet things because your sugar has dropped. Natural things like fruit are better to restore you natural balance...although chocolate can be more satisfying! LOL

Take time for you. Pamper yourself...take a hot bath, do things that you like, etc. Keep in touch with your family and friends...don't isolate. Talk to you Dominant, if you can.

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RE: subspace - 1/16/2007 5:22:26 PM

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when Daddy and i have finished a very intense session, we immediately take a break from each other. this gives both of us a chance to calm down, to regroup and meet later. during our "time-out", it's my time to relax sometimes taking a hot shower and/or bubble bath ...at least this pamper time does help if i have to interview/review a band that night.

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RE: subspace - 1/16/2007 6:07:25 PM

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To deal with the craving, have orange juice nearby after the scene. You can also prepare and not do very intense scenes unless you know you can give yourself a few days to recoup. It's possible to push back subdrop, but usually you suffer more for it. Over time you'll get to know your responses more and be able to adapt more readily to them.

http://www.collarchat.com/m_743958/mpage_1/key_sub%252Cdrop/tm.htm#744221
sub drop please help

http://www.collarchat.com/m_649399/mpage_1/key_subdrop/tm.htm#649697
Coming down from the glorious heights

http://www.collarchat.com/m_522013/mpage_1/key_sub%252Cdrop/tm.htm#522021
sub drop, definitions, causes, cures, and prevention

http://www.collarchat.com/m_512884/mpage_1/key_sub%252Cdrop/tm.htm#513003
Your insight is needed please

http://www.collarchat.com/m_487853/mpage_1/key_sub%252Cdrop/tm.htm#488083
sub drop (2)

http://www.collarchat.com/m_460639/mpage_1/key_subdrop/tm.htm#460834
regaining balance after deep subspace

http://www.collarchat.com/m_202168/mpage_1/key_sub%252Cdrop/tm.htm#202459
sub-drop what is it?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_345419/mpage_1/key_sub%252Cdrop/tm.htm#345462
highs and lows

http://www.collarchat.com/m_398653/mpage_1/key_sub%252Cdrop/tm.htm#399164
subdrop or what?

Is it drop or am I kidding myself?

Depression after a scene

Sub Drop

Nervous sub seeks reassurance

sleeping...

< Message edited by LuckyAlbatross -- 1/16/2007 6:08:40 PM >

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RE: subspace - 1/16/2007 11:08:20 PM

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Thanks MasterFiremaam I understand from Master that the drop can be just as bad for a top. Chocolate is normally the last thing I eat or have so craving it was strange. lol

Will look at those threads you put LuckyAlbatross but I always do allow myself those couple of days recovery time right now. Master did say I could how to push back getting the drop but with the warning I would suffer more if I did.

As Master and I don't live together we both do have that time out period to recover mymastersub69.

I get plenty of contact from my Master and he always checks to see how I'm doing whilst going through the drop.
Am fortunate that He spends as much time is spent on the aftercare.

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RE: subspace - 1/17/2007 12:01:13 AM

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How do you cope with coming down from subspace?

Not very well. Ha. You know what I find to be absolutely essential is not isolating myself from my friends and my family. I hang around my friends and family who are probably curious as to why I'm seeking to spend even more time with them, but still flattered. I also think hot showers and long naps afterwards really help.

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RE: subspace - 1/17/2007 5:25:12 AM

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Precare is as important as aftercare.

Meaning if you go into an intense scene while dehydrated or tired, you will be that much worse afterwards. I like to have eaten a couple of hours prior but some people prefer to not eat beforehand, you'll learn what works for you.

Afterwards I'm always cold and need to be warmed up and allowed to sleep for a little. We bring water in with us so we can drink during if we take a break, and nobody has to go get it afterwards. This is important because if we're both tired then we'll skip getting the water. If it's right there, then we drink and sleep. Rehydrating is very important.

If you don't live with your top, it is helpful to have contact with him the next day. I always felt better when he would tell me how much he was missing me, it made it easier on me to know I wasn't the only one longing for contact afterwards.

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RE: subspace - 1/17/2007 5:42:27 AM

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Daddy and i don't live together either (single mom of 2) however when we do meet (most weekends), our sessions can get very intense because it's like a stress relief for Him and relaxation for me before review a long 4-band concert.

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RE: subspace - 1/17/2007 5:45:48 AM

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Thanks for that Celeste must admit Master is instructing me well regarding preparations and very good with his aftercare especially as we don't live together.

I get very cold also and never actually recall him putting me under the covers. Merely the fact that after a short time come to with him holding me very closely.

He never leaves until we have both recovered sufficiently and will phone later that day and the following one. What I have found a comfort is Master has also expalined how he has felt also which as you say means a great deal.

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RE: subspace - 1/17/2007 5:50:14 AM

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Ooops posted the reply to Celeste with my former name of subcaz.. Instead of the new one master has given me.

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